My 2yr old!?

Question

When my 2 yr cant get what he wants he screams his head off like he is being murded i have never heard a scream like this before not even from my neices and nephews when they were little. My husband thinks there is somthing wrong or he angry in him. The screams are so ear piercing. And also when he goes to sleep he will wake up in the middle of the night and want to get in the bed with me and my husband now i bare see my husband he is in the army so i like to have the bed just us! so when i dont let him in our bed he has a fit, but he sleeps just fine at my parents house when he is over there he doesnt wake up at all

Answer 1

He will get through it. My son is 2 and screams like that too. Sometimes I'm affraid the neighbors are going to think I'm beating him because he screams so loud. What I do is ignore him when he is screaming. Pretend like he isn't even there. Then when he calms down and is quiet I go grab him and give him a big hug and let him know that mommy likes it when he is good. If you ignore the bad behavior and reward the good eventually he will stop. My son still screams but not as much. I can't give advice on the bed because I'm the paranoid type that is afraid someone is going to sneak in their window and take them in the middle of the night so I put the full bed and the queen bed in our room and we all slepp together...that's my problem though and eventually i hope to get them in their rooms.

Answer 2

Terrible two. Watch supernanny. It sounds like a joke, but you can learn alot:

Ask him to stop screaming quietly but firmly, and if possible, with one hand hold his upper arm. Look him in the eye until he stops screaming, then tell him that that was a warning. Don't become frantic and don't yell, sometimes they don't know what they did. That's why you only tell them to be quiet the first time. If he starts screaming again, tell him that you are going to have him sit on a spot (the stairs, a rug, or a chair, but something that he doesn't sit on normaly and doesn't particularly like: not his room.) Tell him that you have asked him to stop screaming, and that since he continued, you are angry with him. Tell him how you came about that punishment, or why he can't give him what he wants. Have him sit there for 2 minutes (it seems like more to him) because he is two years old: when he is three, 3 minutes, four years old, 4 minutes...etc. When his two minutes are up (unless he starts screaming again) be nice again and return to normal. Do NOT shun him or be mad at him, he will not be able to make the connection that night, of what he did that morning. And never (I'm sure you would know this, and would not, but) NEVER shake a child.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Terrible Two's are justifiably named just that! When he throws a screaming fit, remove him from wherever he is and make him stay alone until the screaming stops. Tell him his screams hurt peoples ears and that you won't allow that. Be consistent and he will get the message that the screaming won't be shared with anyone except himself. If you are in a store or somewhere, put him either in the car or in the restroom. Stay close by, but make him feel that he is throwing the fit for no one other than himself.

As to sleeping in your bed, he is way to old for that. When he comes to bed with you, gently tell him that he is a big boy and that big boys sleep in their own beds. EXPECT a fit, but hold your ground and put him back in his own bed. Again, stay consistent and this too will work for you.

I feel for you. I'm a mom of three and a grandma so I've been there, done that and burnt the dumb t-shirts! Best of luck to you with your little guy!

Answer 4

Welcome to the terrible two's. My son is the exact same and he is also 2. What I have found to work for me is when he has a screaming fit I put him in his room and shut the door. If he is going to scream, cry and have a fit he can do it in his own space not in the family space. It is just a child's way of getting you to give in to their wants. It's a normal thing, shoot my 1st son never never had tantrums like my 2 yr old does. Every child is different in their own ways. This phase will pass and you will enter a whole new set, good luck to you and don't worry to much your child sounds completely normal.

Answer 5

Your son sounds like a typical 2 year old. Don't give in when he throws fits. If you give in even once, he will know that if he throws a big enough fit he will get what he wants.

Same thing goes for bedtime. I am also an Army wife and I know sometimes things get lonely and you probably let your son sleep with you sometimes when your husband is gone. Your son probably doesn't understand why sometimes he can sleep with you and sometimes he can't. If you don't want him in there, don't give in and let him sleep with you every now and then.

Answer 6

You spoke back it your self. Its on the grounds which you harm her. while a infant is throwing tantrums you dont hug her and kiss her to make her stop. by doing that she only thinks you're particularly telling her sturdy job for throwing the tantrum and its ok. you're able to be able to desire to place your foot down and enable her be attentive to its not ok. Shouldnt of had intercourse at 14 to be sixteen and nonetheless have a 2 300 and sixty 5 days previous.

Answer 7

Don't just give him what he want every time he screams. Spank him! Evey time he starts, spank him. Time outs are not as effective as a spanking. Do it with your hand, so he knows its from you. And make him sleep in his own bed. Otherwise you will have a ten year old who wants to sleep in the same bed as you. It sounds harsh, but it does work.

Answer 8

Welcome to the age of 2. Keep meeting his needs by setting limits with lots of guidance. Praise him when you catch him doing something good.

Answer 9

he knows how to get his way, just spank him, send him to bed, and shut his door, lock your bedroom door. if he screams, he'll eventually tire himself out and go to bed. After repeatedly doing this, he should get the routine and understand that that's how it's gonna be.

Answer 10

terrible twos.

it will slowly fade away.....just be patient and consistent with consequences.

although you may not realize it's getting better as the year(s) pass(es), it does. =]