OKAY TO CRY? Is it okay to cry, For the first time in my life I feel so very alone, My heart is tired of hurt?

Question

You know I am a tough woman, always ready to conquer the challenges of life daily, for some reason I am starting to just crumble, like I am lonely, and for once I really want someone to ease the pain I have been feeling about so many things, I dont fail at anything but now, I feel like I have so much stuff on my plate. I am so structured in my life, and I am letting certain things slip through my fingers without making a fist (men, job, family and such). I feel so like I had it all, and now I am trying to find some good in everything but I cant, I never allow my self to be vulnerable sometimes we need to be how do I take down some bricks and realize that Love it there and goals are there and that being hard to people will change when I become a more gentle spirit, maybe I need for spirituality but how do I give up this hard senselss attitude and allow love into my life, a little confusing to read but please try to understand the best way you know how, have you been through it.God Bless

Answer 1

ARE YOU CARRYING A 20 POUND BAG OF BURDENS ON YOUR BACK?!

We all get to this palce soon or later. I always thought of myself as a tough cookie, too. It took a lot to make me really cry. But as the years go by I've learned it is okay to allow my feelings to show and admit to myslef that sometimes things hurt deep down inside and I want to cry. In fact, I discovered with GOD's help, that suppressing my emotions was the reason why I was so quick to get angry at things or people. I've long learned to face some hard facts about myself. I am not so tough or in complete control of my life. Some things I cant fix or make go away. I need GOD and I need good people around me who loves me enough to watch my back and give me constructive criticism. I hope you confront yourslef hoestly, too. If you delay, you may fall on your face some day in tears of hopelessness and despair and I pray you will cry out to Jesus and surrender ALL. I believe we are to be self assured and independant human beings, but not beyond our recognition of a heavenly Father's guidance, strenght and wisdom.

Answer 2

Been there, done that.

Sorry to say, there's no magic formula to get you out of it with a flick of a Wand. If that was the case, Harry Potter's angst would have ended in book one.

Keep in mind that life is full of this pain. The best way through is to take it moment by moment. Detach yourself from your thoughts and don't let your mental noise take the best of you.

I learned to take life one day at a time. Makes you less worried about the future, and focus only on your day.

Answer 3

The way i got through that was talking to friends, trying to relieve the stress, going out and spending more time with people.

I have also been told i had to much on my plate. and i've been told to go get help professionally that may be a good idea for you.

just dont give up and there are rough times in life but you deal with the bad and keep going on. if it helps you to talk to someone you can talk to me [e-mail]
whatever you need and whatever you can use to get help.
talking helps me alot. and going out and forgeting problems.

i hope everything works out for the best good luck =]

Answer 4

All I can really tell you is that I'm there too. I'm just waiting around to see what I run into, but a strong gal like you can do a lot more! You need to figure out what is really important to you: prioritize! Your life feels sort of like you need a purpose, and even though everything in you and around you tells you that you need to fall in love with someone, you don't. You need a real reason to be here. Ask Jesus, I think he can help you out more than I can...

Answer 5

I don't really know what you're babbling about but I wouldn't spend too much time crying, because it is a waste of time. Unless maybe that's what you need to do to figure out what's bothering you. Once you figure out what's important, spend your time on that instead. Oh and if it doesn't come to you right away go and get something to eat like ice cream or onion rings, mmmmm.

Answer 6

U cant be perfect at all times... Its nothing to be ashamed of..Let it out of ur system and stand up and face the world.. and remember if anything makes u compromise on ur happiness no matter how big it may seem , its not worth it

Answer 7

It takes a tough person to be able to cry. When I want to let it out I go for walks in the rain. That way no one can tell.

Answer 8

You can cry.

Just let it out and take a deep breath. Crying is human. Promise.

Answer 9

try going out more and to different places, you'll probably be able to find a guy

Answer 10

That is so sad. Find something that cheers you up and do it.