I may have made a rude comment about a freind of mine in front of some people. I made a rude comment about a male freind of mine with a lazy eye in front of another female freind of mine with a lazy eye, forgetting that she was there. This male freind that I made the comment about, knows me really well and we joke around with each other all the time, but other people dont know that, including the female freind that was there. I am afraid that I may have really insulted this female freind, and I am not sure what to do. Please help....
2007-04-21 05:52:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Take her to the side one to one and explain the relationship between you and the male friend. Let her know that yours was not to be hurtful to her or anyone else. You may be surprised at how understanding she is.
2007-04-21 05:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may be too late to bring it up. You may just have to chalk it up to human error and go on, being careful to think before speaking next time.
If you are in a situation where you're talking with this person, watch for (don't force) an opportunity to interject a self-deprecating comment about how you felt bad after doing something boneheaded. At that point you may be able to offer an apology... but don't. Your friend probably has forgiven and forgotten already, and it may harm your relationship to bring it up long after the fact.
2007-04-21 06:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by northernbornsoutherner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I've been in similar situations. Well I immediately recognized what I did and started spatting words that seemed to form an apology but it was more of me begging for forgiveness and I kinda looked like an *** at the end and very embarassed.
I know that's not much help, but DON'T do that!
2007-04-21 05:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by Tania La Güera 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act quickly and be honest. Tell her that you have a friend that you good-naturedly joke with and that you're so comfortable with him, you didn't think twice about saying what you did. Then tell her that if she was offended, you are truly sorry, that it wasn't your intention to hurt her feelings. She'll either accept your apology/explanation, or she she won't, but you will have done everything you can and you should be fine with that. Good luck! (p.s. We'll all let things slide out of our mouths that we wish we could shove right back in... it happens. Don't beat yourself up about it.)
2007-04-21 06:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to her and say "You know, I am really sorry if what I said hurt you, I value your friendship and would never intentionally say somethng to hurt you." If she says she WAS hurt then say "I'm really sorry. Can you forgive me?" That has to be the end, you can't continue to apologize for it for ever, she will either forgive you or she doesn't.
Either way you are gonna feel like a heel for a while. But you will feel better when that is over.
2007-04-21 08:14:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop Joking Around!
2007-04-21 06:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak with your friend privately and express yourself as honestly to her as you've done right here. Offer a sincere apology and I'm sure she will forgive you. Everyone makes mistakes - that's why we're called human beings.
You must also be kind enough to forgive yourself for this error in judgment.
2007-04-21 06:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really respected her, you wouldn't have made such a blunder. She will never trust you again nor will she be convinced that you respect her . To show your true remorse, buy her a gift ........one that's about $50.
2007-04-21 20:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your female friend. Start with something like . . ."I may have come across as insensitive the other day."
Or better yet, have your guy friend talk to her. Or talk to her together.
2007-04-21 07:45:42 · answer #9 · answered by LX V 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have an in-person talk with your female friend, and tell her how you feel. And do apologize. It'll be fine...
2007-04-21 05:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋