Just as an example..... Let's say you were invited to a friends house for dinner.When you get there.. You discover that they are making a meal that you despise.SOmething that you cant even get within 5 ft of because the smell or the sight of it would make you gag! For example ..Liver and Onions or if you live in the southwest like I did.. Cow tongue tacos.
Of course nobody would ask if their host has anything else that would be rude!
My question is .. what would do? would you eat it and suffer the consequences later? would you politley tell the host that your allergic to it as to not hurt their feelings? Or would you suffer through it as to not be rude or hurt the host feelings! Honest answers please
2007-04-21 05:41:35 · 16 answers · asked by stargazerlilly79 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If it's a close friend, I'd be quite honest and ask for something else. Now if it's someone with whom I am more formal, I'd still be honest, but more diplomatic. If it's really something I absolutely can't tolerate, I don't see the reason why anyone has to suffer through it. Even the host would understand. What is more important is not 'what u say'...but 'how you say it'. Be gracious, say thanks for the effort that went into cooking it, and just tell the truth in the politest way possible....and ur facial expressions would also matter. I'd do it with a sorry smile, not a disgusted frown on your face.
2007-04-21 05:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These people are not your friends! Friends do not serve friends cow tongue!
Seriously, though, if it was a REALLY GOOD friend, I would say, "sorry, but really, I just can't eat this." (I've tried liver and onions a couple times... it ain't gonna happen, ever, no matter how polite I want to be.) If you're not comfortable enough being honest, you can try to get a small portion down and say you've been dealing with a slight upset stomach all day and that's all you can handle. And if that's impossible, fake a cellphone call, say it's something you have to tend to, make your apologies and leave... then invite them out for a meal down the road to make up for it.
2007-04-21 06:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would be a vey rare thing because most of the time you know what the menu is going to be.
However, there is probably something that would be edible. You can say you are allergic to cow tongue or a vegetarian or you can't eat that due to religious reasons. Which any good hostess would figure out before menu planning.
2007-04-21 05:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jackie Oh! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't eat the main course, but eat the other dishes that are being served. When asked why you aren't eating the main course, simply say, that's a dish you really don't care for. Most people who invite me to dinner at their home, tell me what they're serving & ask if I like it. Luckily, I've never had to say I didn't care for what they were serving. Don't eat a meal that will only make you run to the bathroom when you get home. It's not worth it.
2007-04-21 05:52:38 · answer #4 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this situation every xmas when at in-laws. Just eat a bit of whatever and eat mostly veg. If the meat really puts me off, don't bother with the meat (deer meat frozen for about a year, hoboy.)
Same at easter with sweaty ham, arrgh.
If friends invite us over, just eat what they are having
.I usually ask if people have allergies to shellfish, otherwise, they get whatever I am serving. No a la carte menus in my house.
2007-04-21 06:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to eat from any side dish that may be acceptable to me. If they ask, I'd say I'm not really that hungry.
If they insist, then they'll get the truth: I don't like that food.
Trying to avoid the truth to avoid hurting someone's feelings often doesn't work, and they may push you further than you ever want to.
2007-04-21 05:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by Master Strategist 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how close I am to the friend. If my best friend asked me over, I would feel comfortable enough to tell her that I do not like it. If it was somebody that I hardly knew, however, I would just suck it up and eat it...that is, if I wasn't deathly allergic ;-)
2007-04-21 05:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by Led*Zep*Babe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if my friend invites me then they know what can i eat and what not. even thou if some they make which i cannot eat that is egg. i cant eat egg and i can eat chicken, mutton, fish. but no egg. and if my friend has cooked something in egg than i simply tell them i can't eat this and as u have mentioned "you politley tell the host that your allergic to it "
2007-04-21 05:52:01 · answer #8 · answered by Paresh v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would eat as much as I could muster and then say I was full. I did that at christmas dinner in denmark when they made me eat herrings and leeks in this kind of sauce. It was disgusting, but I ate it anyway. If someone takes the time to prepare it, you should at least try it.
2007-04-21 05:45:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if they're such good friends, why don't they jolly well ask before preparing your food. i suspect that a real considerate host would also have an alternative plate of food on hand, for incase they've made something their friends don't like.
2007-04-21 05:51:09 · answer #10 · answered by elin_derick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋