Essentially what I mean is if they turn their noses up at it and say "I don't like it....haven't you got anything else?"
2007-04-21 04:42:35 · 33 answers · asked by jazzed4judas 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would point out to my Friend that this is my home not a restaurant.
2007-04-21 08:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
No! Not Everyone Is Going To Like What You Cook!
You May Want To Cook Several Types Of Foods For Your Guest To Choose From!
This Person Could Be On A Special Diet ,And Does Not Wish To Let AnyOne Know About Their Food Restrictions!
2007-04-21 05:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There was a time when I would have had some very unkind things to say to them, but now that I am a minister i would feel obligated to hold my tongue. I cook for people all the time, so i am used to picky behavior. As an Army cook I pretty well got over the rude remarks as they were a daily fare. I can understand your frustration and anger, when you have put forth your best and people do not appreciate it. This is what you have to be able to put up with if you are going to cook for others, however.
2007-04-21 04:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by Preacher 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know there is great personal preference in food, so I would NEVER spent hours cooking something as a surprise, I just wouldn't risk it. I ask what my friends like if I plan to spent much time on it. Food preference is so individual, some people love all kinds of things, others hate some kinds of food that no good good manners will help them choke it down. There's nothing offensive about that, it's just that no matter how much they are trying to be polite some people just can't stomach some foods, sometimes very literally... don't try to surprise people with something special, just ask what they like. Save your surprises for non-food things.
2007-04-21 08:29:51 · answer #4 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would be offended. When you are at a dinner party there is always something you can try. Unless they are allergic, they shouldn't say anything. Just nibble on what they can eat, and then go home and eat after. I've been places where I didn't like what the host was serving. It's called a no thank you portion. Deal with it and go home.
2007-04-21 05:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by Thelma15 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be VERY rude to be so bluntly. Even if I knew I was a bad cook, which I am not (exceptions are rare...), I would be deeply offended. It's not because of the hours I spent cooking that I would be offended, but when I am cooking I always think with love of those who are going to eat it.
I don't think people who behave like that are among my friends!
To Alasdair: I would as a friend never say at the table "I don't like it". Why not say when you say goodbye: "Oh, by the way, if you invite me again, please cook something different. Fish (or whatever it was) is not my favourite dish, even if it's masterly prepared."
2007-04-21 04:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by corleone 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My friends don't do that unless they really can't eat it. They don't get finicky just for the sake of boredom.
I'd feel my prep work was shallow if I forgot to ask what they do and don't like in advance. It's the cooks job to know that what's being served is acceptable to the guests' palates.
"Oh, you have a deadly reaction to shellfish? Who knew?" One mustn't be lame, we need to check these things before creating the menu.
So, if some noodle head slunk in among the guests and said that, I'd simply say, "why no, this is it! But I can fix you a peanut butter sandwich."
2007-04-21 04:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by Zeera 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age, there are many people that have food intolerances. When I ask friends over for dinner, I always ask if there is anything that they can't or won't eat. I want everyone to enjoy dinner, there is no sense in going to all that effort if someone has dietary issues and can't enjoy your dinner.
There is a polite way to tell someone that you can't eat what they have put on the table.
2007-04-23 07:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by westcoastnelsons 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be offended, especially since, when I do cook for others, I make a special effort to let them know what I am making and make sure there aren't any problems with the menu, i.e. allergies, don't like that kind of food, are vegetarian.
2007-04-21 07:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by meg3f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend to a great extent on what it was that I prepared and how close the friend was. If I went to someone's place and they decided to 'surprise' me with liver, brains, soup with eyeballs in it, or whatever, darn right I'd be honest and say I wasn't going to eat it! But in general I'll try to find SOMETHING in the meal I can eat, but I'm not going to choke down something gross for the sake of manners!
I had a meal of Thanksgiving leftovers at a friend's house and she was quite proud of her sweet potatoes... went on about how her son in law had helped and they were a bit sweet but delicious yada yada.. and frankly I couldn't eat them. They tasted HORRIBLE.. and finally I gave up and said I'm sorry but I just can't eat these. She was quite offended until she went to get something out of the fridge and found the sweet potatoes.. she had fed me unseasoned plain pumpkin.. blech!
Honesty is the best policy :)
2007-04-24 11:12:58 · answer #10 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be offended definatley! To me that sounds really rude. The least they can do after you've spent time and effort on the meal is to pretend they like it or say they we're hungry. And definatley don't ask for anything else, the cheek of it!
2007-04-21 04:52:05 · answer #11 · answered by magools 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋