I am 15, and I lost my virginity to my boyfriend of 2 years and I got pregnant now when I told my mom yes she was very upset but now she's a little calm about it now.She already went and took me to get an abortion so Im not not pregnant anymore.Now Its been almost 2 weeks now and Im stil sitting around at home (not allowed to go outside) and cants use the phone. She told me Im not allowed to see my boyfriend anymore now that might not be hard for her cause she really dont know or care for him but its really hard for me cause its like just leaving somone after losing your virginity to them.
Its not all about being fair Im asking do you think her decision is a good one or should i try to talk to her so she can make it as i can still see him but not as much and we will have to be watched.
Oh and dont get me wrong he did whatever we had to do to make the pregnancy work out he suppoorted my dcisions ..
We just made one mistake and we want that trust back
2007-04-21 04:10:18 · 7 answers · asked by becca . 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
At this point, your MOTHER is FULLY and TOTALLY CORRECT to NOT TRUST you or your so-called 'boyfriend'.
She is doing the 'right' thing .. she is limiting your contact with this problem, she is SCARED to DEATH you will continue with the UNPROTECTED Sexual contact, she is concerned that in your immaturity (and ignorance), you will ONCE AGAIN lay down and get pregnant, and ... most importantly ...
SHE KNOWS intimately the HARD WORK and overall RESPONSIBILITY of raising a child to adulthood.
NEVER forget you ARE a child -- and that is what you need to be for the NEXT THREE plus years -- (or at least until you graduate High School).
YOU will not gain that trust back UNTIL You choose your Education and your Family over the sexual contact. PERIOD. YOU are going to have to SHOW your mother that you can bring the grades up (I am assuming that schoolwork was also ignored when you were sleeping with this boy), you are working on a job, you are earning income, and you are being GRATEFUL that your MOTHER took you and helped you through an ADULT RESPONSIBILITY (and you were an irresponsible teenager thinking with hormones).
Let me make this one last point .. there are MANY, MANY Girls your age who have 'THOUGHT" their so-called 'boyfriends' were faithful, going to stay with them, listen to the insincere 'Love ya babe' -- and when they show up pregnant ...
those same so-called boyfriends (right -- he 'supported' the decisions -- most likely he was RELIEVED and was ready to slip out of your life and area already) have moved on to their next 'romp' -- you hear all sorts of names, they disappear off the face of the earth, and the MOTHERS of these girls ...
HORROR of HORROR -- are RAISING the NEXT generation because their daughters (who THINK they are all-grown-up), are NOW 'forgetting' the REALITY of having a Baby --- that it is a 24 hour a day, 7 days a week, never to be FORGOTTEN (nor will one be able to sit down and relax) UNTIL That child starts their independent lives!!!!!
2007-04-21 05:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She should tell the truth. If they prove who the father is he will be charged with rape. 16 is too old to play games like this with her mother, her boyfriend and her own life. She shouldn't try to get away with it. Does she really want her boyfriend charged with rape? She needs to tell her mother she is sexually active and messed up. It isn't like she is doing anything out of the ordinary having sex at 16. If she were honest in the beginning she could have been on birth control and not started this. Lies will come out. An innocent boy shouldn't go to jail for it. How old is the boyfriend? If he is over 18 he will be in trouble anyway. But, reporting a rape that didn't happen is so wrong. And an insult to those who really are raped.
2016-05-20 03:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard for you to understand now, but your Mom fears more behavior like that which resulted in your previous pregnancy. Sweetie, you are too young to be even one-on-one dating and you've already had an abortion.
Take life a little more slowly...you've got just a few years left to be a "kid" before the world will consider you a legal adult and you'll be expected to behave that way (in most cases).
Respect your mother's rules, understand you and your boyfriend made a poor decision, and what you are going through now is all an example of personal responsibility. There are consequences for our actions, and you are going through that now.
Finish being a kid, then learn to be a responsible adult and make choices and decisions that will benefit your life and those around you that you share it with. Take care of you.
2007-04-21 04:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This may take some time for you to get your mothers trust back she was just hurt and disappointed don't worry she'll come around
2007-04-21 04:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by hottiemilf1969 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is just scared of what might happen to you if she does not protect you,its you who has to gain her trust back by making her your confidence, do not forget she is only doing it for u, she would not be doing it if she does not love you and next time us a condom sex feels good but the result does not feel that good
2007-04-21 05:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by sarah a 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
of course he supported your decision to have an abortion...duh? Do you think he would have supported you had you decided to have the baby?...i think not
--------I don't understand what it is with children of today----why can't you learn from your mistakes?
****what you need to do is to keep your legs closed and stop having sex because it is not worth it at your age
2007-04-21 04:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by Ghanaian Princess 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sorry
you messed up, dont expect to get trust back
mom is right not to trust you
2007-04-21 04:14:15 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋