i am a 21 year old mother of 1 gorgeous little boy and i am married to a fantastic man. yes my life sounds perfect but ever since i have given birth to my son, all i do is think negative. i worry about his future like will he be popular etc. i stress about how much attention gets paid not only too me but also my son and my husband. sometimes i stress and think that we are not liked and all kinds of thoughts - ALWAYS NEGATIVE. i feel like i have no friends and when i go to talk to people i think to myself that they dont like me (i think this for no reason at all)this is all very frustrating. negative thinking is taking over my life, i want to live a happy, care free life with my family. PLEASE HELP ME I AM BEGGING YOU!!! This is driving me insane. at a time in my life when i am supposed to be happiest i am actually quite miserable. i am on 21 this should not be happening to me.
i drive my poor husband crazy with questions about his social life, he has almost had enough!!
2007-04-21 03:37:39 · 19 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just dont worry about anything. That is how I get through life, not worrying what people think about me. (I'm very different to them.. lol) Maybe you should see a doctor about it or something. Other than that? Just calm down, if people are talking to you, they're not hatnig you. Dont worry. try the negative jar.
Get a random little jar or something. Everytime you say or think something negative.. put a dollar in, and then at the end of the month, go use it to buy you or your family something to cheer you up. Hopefully that helped love! <3 good luck!
2007-04-21 03:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by lacylovesdaniel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. It sounds hormonal to me if you have never felt this way before. ( which actually has a solution so good news)
All the things you mention are over exaggerated in your mind so just for now realize that something is going on inside that is not you. I dont know how old your son is but I am betting he is little and you havent balanced out hormonally. When you say you drive your husband crazy about his social life -well thats YOUR social life too so please realize all is well and just calm down and take some deep breaths. I would start with your ob/gyn Dr who may be able to treat you or else refer. Its not a huge deal like you are crazy but just need a little bit of help so please dont worry. Everyone loves you.
2007-04-21 03:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do you work or do you just stay at home and look after your son? You need to live your life. Go outside and breathe fresh air. You are thinking too much because you have nothing else to do that can take away your mind for a while. You need to distract your mind a bit. Get a hobby or something. It will help to relax your mind and reduce the negative thinking.
2007-04-21 03:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by windlove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there. I did the i think i'm crazy thing, i will be 21 in july. i have learned to trust God. If i can't trust anyone else i fell in the arms of God. And he has brought me along way. Your not crazy! your not losing your mind! if you can't trust your self (mind), Trust GOD .
you might say i'm crazy, but i am so happy i let go and let God. Try Jesus!
He has never failed me. I never seen the rigtheous forsaking or begging for bread.
Numbers 23:19
God is not a man, that he should lie, nor a son of man, that he should change his mind. Does he speak and then not act? Does he promise and not fulfill?
2007-04-21 03:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by First Lady NYC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been to see your doctor about this? You might be still depressed after having your baby. My sister and my aunt both had postnatal depression after having their babies and if it isn't diagnosed it can last for a long time. I'm not saying that this is what you have but it is a possibility. Talk to your doctor about this and most of all tell your husband how you are feeling. Good luck, i'm sure everything will work out fine for you xx
2007-04-21 03:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to talk one-on-one about this, I'm here to work together on this. Getting medical attention on this would be a good idea too, but in the meantime we can work on it now. My e-mail address is eckm0032@umn.edu. Get in contact with me as soon as you can. Everything will be okay; you just need to face the source of the matter. I really hope to hear from you soon.
Heath
2007-04-21 03:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by heath e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See i think u have tension go to u r husband and talk about this may be he can understand u if u do like this then what about u r son a man need full support of wife especially u know what i am talking about o.k take care
2007-04-21 03:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by Rumana 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk to yourself as if you were your own therapist. You know what a therapist will say to you. You know they will tell you to step back and look at what you have. It seems like you are the only one not enjoying the present.
As far as the future goes, you have no way of controlling it so why waste time worrying about it now. Enjoy now.
2007-04-21 05:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by sandfly1234 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all age doesn't mean a thing so the first thing you should do is go and see your dr. than try getting out more join a mommy group go out for coffee and get plenty of excersise and i know your probably thinking what does the excersise have to do with my probablem but trust me it helps it sounds to me like you have depresion and if so thease things should help with the care of a dr who will most likely perscribe you some meds to take care of it as well good luck and feel better soon.:)
2007-04-21 03:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by gibson8026 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is talk to some1 you know has your best interests at hart
ie your husband/mother/ father/brothers/sisters tell some1how you feel openly and honestly,deal with it as it happens to you that way it wont all build up
im a married father of two 30 years old from glasgow if you ever want to let steam off with some1 that know nothing about you email/im me anytime take care xx
2007-04-21 03:50:37 · answer #10 · answered by jackmeeko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋