My wonderful husband died suddenly on the 20th. He'd been in cancer treatment, we had High hopes. On that night he had a massive cardiac event and did not make it.
It seem more than I can bear, he was my everything. I cannot visulaize going on without him.
He was a young healthy 58 year old who loved Gods world, the earth and all living things, He loved a sunny day, he is gone from me now and the pain is more than I can stand.
2007-04-21 03:26:48 · 17 answers · asked by June smiles 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I've read all the answers with gratefulness, it is too soon I think to begin to heal, I sleep because that is the only time I don't cry.
You guys here are a real blessing with your kindness, Thank you.
2007-04-21 08:42:14 · update #1
again, Your words do comfort. The pain is more than one can know untill they've experienced something like it.
Special thanks to WJ , When one cries with you you feel it. God Bless all of you.
2007-04-21 14:13:20 · update #2
First may I extend my very deepest sympathy to you. This will be a very difficult time for you indeed but I promise you that you will live on and the sun will shine again. I had a very similar thing happen to me. My husband just drop dead of a heart attack while we were out of town. I found him in the bathroom laying down like he just fell asleep. The pain is incredible what got me through it was my faith in Jesus, my family and my friends. At night when I would wake up crying I would just call out to Jesus and I would go back to sleep. My hubby was just 50 yrs old. I found that when I starting remembering all the good times and being thankful for the time we did have that helped. Also, if you think about some young folks who never marry or make it to that age you can be at peace knowing that you and he did have a good life. It seems strange to draw strength from the pain of others, but I did. God Bless you and take care of yourself in other areas, like eating well and getting your rest. Your husband would want you to live on and enjoy those sunny days for him. That to me is the greatest way to honour their memory, enjoy life for them and live for them.
2007-04-21 03:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by angel 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine the pain you feel, but just know that it may have been time for him to go, according to the Master's plan... even though you may not have been ready for him to leave, and he's okay now. No cancer pain, no heart pain, no pain at all. His body became too painful for him to stay in, so he had to leave it... but his spirit lives on. It is very difficult to lose a loved one, but each day takes you further away from the pain, and soon you find you're going on, and it doesn't hurt as much. Keep his memory close to your heart and he'll always be with you. May God bless you and give you comfort.
2007-04-21 03:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by Bluebellringy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear about ur loss. I recently lost a relative to cancer and I had such a difficult time coping. Every day and every night I would cry and it felt as though I had no will to live. I had depression and I always felt so restless. I turned to God and prayed a lot and also my family were very supportive. I felt as though I would remain sad forever and I would never be able to move on. It has been almost 7 months now and I do still feel sad but I don't cry as much as I used to. I still remember this person each day but instead of crying for him, I pray for him, coz I think to myself that my tears wont help him but my prayers can. I'm sorry I can't be of much help but I hope u will find the strength to cope and it is true to say that TIME IS A GREAT HEALER. Take care. xx
2007-04-21 03:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by ¸.•*´`*•.¸ ℓανєη∂єr ¸.•*´`*•.¸ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We all mourn at loss sweet child, and it is OK to pour out your heart and tears to others.
I hope you have others to hold you and let you cry to them.
Don't be afraid to express your deep feelings to someone who understands with a sympathetic heart.
Our journey is short on this earth plain but eternal after.
Know that your dear husband has no more pain or sorrow,and that he is in the pure Loving arms of God.
You will be restored and strengthened, and able to go on i promise.
God will not give you more then you can handle.
There are those who can help you thru this season please do seek them out.
Pick up the phone and call someone and do not fear.
I do not know your pain personally and my words are most likely of no use,but i did just lose my sister Feb 14th to cancer.
God will take care of you and he will send you many sunny days for healing and to let you know that he has your husband in His perfect peace.
My deepest heartfelt sympathy*
2007-04-21 04:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by flowerpower 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First let me express my deepest sympathies. Death is such a great enemy, it seems unfair how easily it can sting our lives. Please be assured though that death will not last forever and there is hope of something better. According to the bible, at 1 Corinthians 15:26 "As the last enemy, death is to be brought to nothing." Also while Jesus was on earth, he perfomed many resurrections to show what he will do on a large scale in the future. John 5:28,29 "Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice 29 and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life, those who practiced vile things to a resurrection of judgment."
So, while you may feel numbed by your pain now, may you find comfort in knowing that in the near future there will be a resurrection of our loved ones right here on the earth. For more information, please visit www.watchtower.org
You can request further information or a free home bible study to explain these truths to you in your home.
2007-04-21 08:29:08 · answer #5 · answered by lynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is natural for you to feel overwhemed by your berievement; the memory of your husband is still too fresh. But you know the saying that 'time will heal all wounds'. Life will go on and in time your pain will not be so unbearable. You will also discover that God will open all sorts of doors for you and opportunities for you to cope. If you are a person of faith the transition will be significantly a lot easier.
My condolances.
Shalom
2007-04-21 03:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by ziffa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My daughter almost died last year; turned blue countless times in front of my wife and I while in the hospital. It was overwhelming.
I tell you this because, while I cannot identify with your loss completely, I can understand on some level the helplessness and sadness you must be enduring.
I do not believe it was God's will that you husband died, but I do believe with all my heart that God is with you now to help you through this difficult time. I will pray for you and your family for peace and strength.
My heart breaks for you. Peace be with you.
2007-04-21 03:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by Colin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss and I pray that you find peace. Letting go is part of the mourning process. It is very hard, but necessary. There is no specific time for learning to cope. It sounds to me that you and your husband had a very close and loving relationship. I can only imagine the pain that you are suffering. You must continue on, however, because this is what your husband would want you to do. Pray and look to God for strength. Enlist friends and family for support in managing the final arrangements and in managing estate questions. Do not take any great burdens upon you---let Jesus take the burdens and distribute them to those who can handle them. You need faith and peace right now. Please do not having any feelings of guilt about your husband's death---the entire matter has always been in God's hands and everything that God does is for the best of everybody concerned. Do not be angry with God, for whether we live or die we live or die to God, for we belong to God always. Trust that your husband is in heaven and that you will see him one day in his glorified state standing with Christ. May God be with you always. Jesus loves you and your husband. Amen.
2007-04-21 03:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by Preacher 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have faith that, although the memories of your love will remain, the pain of loss will fade with time. Some things that will help it pass are keeping active in some meaningful work. Get involved in some charitable enterprise and it will help to heal your pain. Best wishes.
2007-04-21 03:34:48 · answer #9 · answered by Dendronbat Crocoduck 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Although this must be the most painful time for you right now, try to remember that this is all God's Will........what is written must come to pass.
This life and all that comes with it is a test from the Almighty and we will be judged according to how we live our lives
God will reward you for your patience, although right now you feel you have lost everything, if you bear with patience and remember God in all your sayings and actions, you will receive a greater reward for it at the end of time. Try to remember that if you live your life according to God's law you will see your husband again in Paradise
May God ease your suffering and strengthen you through these difficult times
2007-04-21 03:40:34 · answer #10 · answered by Muslimsister_2001@yahoo.co.uk 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋