she dont work, has no friends, she dont go out, only to do food shopping ,so basically shes bored in side th house everyday doing the same thing,
i offered to take her to a resturant , and she didnt want to go. her excuse was , that she eats enough, and she went out yesterday, to do food shopping,
WHATS WRONG WITH HER?
2007-04-21 03:22:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
so basiclly, now shes dong what she does everyday and watching tv,
in the morning i didnt even say happy birthday, i just gave her some purfume
2007-04-21 03:23:13 · update #1
cos whats the point of saying happy birthday, when shes not going to be even grateful
2007-04-21 03:23:48 · update #2
ur mum sounds like her life has stood still .. tell her it would be nice for the both of u to go out ,, it could be to a ark and feed ducks or see a movie .. im sure once she goes out and sees how nice it can be ,, she will go again
2007-04-21 07:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by sugar_plum 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
It sounds like your mom might have some other issues going on. Depression is a possibility, among other things. She can even just be going through a rough time in her life. I don't know how old you are, or your mom, but some possible ideas...
Do you have someone you can talk to? Maybe your dad, siblings, an aunt, or grandparent? Maybe they know what is going on and can help you to understand. It could be the people around you don't see what you see. So by expressing your feelings to someone you can trust, they might be able to see what you see and offer a way to talk to your mom and hopefully help.
Also, there could be nothing wrong, your mom might just enjoy life the way it is. Just because you find watching TV boring maybe your mom doesn't.
You also called her ungrateful? That is kind of scary, because if it there is something going on, maybe your Mom is doing the best she can. Can you try doing something at home for your Mom? Like offering to stay home and play a game, like a board or card game? That can be fun. How about instead of taking her to a restaurant you make her dinner? If your mom cooks dinner every night, then you treating her to a home cooked meal that she didn't have to cook would be delightful for her.
Or another thought, if your Mom doesn't want to go out to eat, how about out for coffee? Or next holiday, buy her gift card and offer to go shopping with her.......
The best gifts are not usually the ones we ourselves love, but ones that totally match the recipient. Maybe your mom just prefers the simpler life. Does anybody in your mom's life ever pamper her or show their appreciation? I know you are trying to help your mom by taking her to dinner, but maybe you can look a little deeper and find something else your mom would totally appreciate.
I really hope you have someone to talk to. If you don't however, have a family member and you are truly worried maybe there is someone at school that you can talk to. Like a counselor or something. Let them know everything is okay, but you need some advice regarding your mom.
Just remember to give her a hug and a kiss tonight, and don't judge her to harshly. :)
2007-04-21 03:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by joycee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with her is whats wrong with a lot of moms sick of having to make decisions for our offspring.What is going on in this present giving materialistic world.I'm surprised you didn't just give her the money and tell her you cant be bothered.Sorry i felt quite sorry at first that your mom didn't accept your offer of not going out,but you spoilt it by saying you didn't even say happy birthday,that shes ungrateful.How grateful has a mom got to be when confronted with this sort of attitude.A big hug and a cuddle is what it sounds like your mom needs and a sympathetic ear as it does sound like shes suffering from depression.Maybe a bit of your time and understanding too.Love her,you wont have her forever,no good with regrets when shes gone.Buy her the flowers while shes alive to enjoy them.
2007-04-22 03:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by Big momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is that in this case you have to be the better person. You should have told her happy birthday anyway.You no you might want to sit down with her an talk to her, telling her how you feel about how she just sits around an do nothing all the time and tell her that its not healthy.You no she might have some issues that she is and have been dealing with that you not no about, you no moms sometime try to hide alot of things cause they feel they have to be the strong ones. So by you talkin to her might bring some things out. But let her no that you love her and that you are only concerned.
2007-04-21 03:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mum may be slightly depressed and in need of a little vacation! Pretty much I think you need to trick her into leaving the crib for the day. You can make up a creative excuse.... Take her on a spa day... take her to lunch... take photos of her (have one blown up and framed) and let your Mum know... whatever it is she is going through at this time, that you love her and you will always be there for her. She may be going through menopause and need to be seen by a doctor for a checkup... or she just loves to be alone. Whatever it is... life is too short for mum to be in the house wasting her time.
Involve her in painting or ceramics. Get her to go bowling. Buy a cookbook and create a meal together. Whatever you do... keep on trying to get your mum out of herself. She may even be interested in feeding the ducks at the park, or opening a small business doing whatever it is she loves most in this world! Get her out Honeychild... Find a common interest like facials and manicures and go from there! You will love it and Mum will too!
2007-04-21 08:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by fatbabyceesay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well hun, how old is she today? us women go though depression and stress very easy. you mite want to just call a flower shop and have them send some flowers her way with a nice card. or maybe just set next to her and say you know what mom, i dont understand why you dont want to go out with me for your birthday, but i will aprietiate you anyways and i love you, if there is anything that is bothering you i am here to LISTEN. just give her a hug and kiss, something must be bothering her maybe a man, your sibilings her parents, time just going to fast for her. you just dont know and mite not understand but what you can do is be in tune like you are to her feelings that hey something is wrong here and dont blame her for not wanting to celebrate her bday I am sure she is not doing it to be hurtful towards you okay.
2007-04-21 08:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by brandi n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Myabe she's not interested in eating out. Some people don't like to spend money eating out at restaurants.
Why don't you ASK her what SHE wants to do for HER birthday? Maybe she would like to go to a museum or to the zoo or out to a movie. Or maybe she's just comfortable staying at home. Nothing says you have to celebrate your birthday, and nothing says you have to celebrate it by going out somewhere. Maybe you could rent a movie and cook dinner for her.
2007-04-21 03:48:33 · answer #7 · answered by DH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your Mum likes her life like that, you could have cooked her a nice meal, instead, how would you feel if someone tried to make you do what you didn't want to ? My eldest Daughter asked me what I wanted for Christmas last year, I said nothing, just a card, she said I was being un-grateful, I said, no I am not I just don't need anything, I have all I want, as long as you send me a card thats fine,think about what your Mum wants,not what you thinks she needs.
2007-04-21 03:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by Weed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some of the classic signs of depression there. Try to be more tolerant and also try to get her some help. If you are her family and the only person she has contact with then you got to be the one to help her.
2007-04-21 03:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like she could have depression honey ...maybebe she has got out of the habbit of going out may even be agrophobic ...if she says she doesnt want food out why not offer to take her to the cinema ,(you said she likes tv ) or something else.
just keep asking her hon maybe she needs reassuring
2007-04-21 03:36:00 · answer #10 · answered by chant1lly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋