hi im 20 eyars old and i have been in a relationship for a year an 3 months and i love my boyfriend very much, however we have been having some big issues. he cheated on me with this girl that works with him. i helped him get that job and he slept with this 90 pound girl. When i found out she told me everything. ever since then i have never looked at him the same way. I started talking to this guy a while when this happened but i dont want to rush into a relationship? i dont know what to do?! Im never happy and cant stand being alone, but i dont know what to do. i love my boyfriend and we have been trying to make it work for a while but im sooo confused. i love him so much but he keeps saying that im not doing things a girlfriend would do. like for example write poems, and bring him lunch to work, and stuff like that. and im starting to think im a bad girlfreind, however wen i went over this other guys house i was talking to i brang him food and cleaned his room, whats wrong with me?
2007-04-21 02:55:09 · 20 answers · asked by Jalinda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby girl, you need to know what makes you happy. first, you'll never trust your bf again, nor will you see him in the same light as when you first met him. it's obvious that you're not happy with him. so it's time to kick him to the curb. next, what's wrong with being single for awhile? there is nothing wrong with that. don't rush into another relationship, only when you're sure of it. you don't need a man by your side right now. right now, you just need to know what makes you happy. and life would be much easier if you know how to get it. and stop bringing food and clean this new guy room. it makes you look desperate.
2007-04-21 03:08:52 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just turned 24 and I have been with a guy for what is almost 2-3 years. I think when this happens it's an indication that something is not only wrong but it's gone unheard. We see the person who we are with and are able to say i love him but really we loved who they were not the person they have become. You have to leave even if you don't have the emotional or physical strength to, then we must first mentally leave don't let him come into your thoughts positively, this is pretty hard but do it and the other two will follow. After trust has been violated even once then it is time to leave. You've shared your most intimate and secret self with this person and they have violated that relationship,they have willingly broken the bond you shared by being selfish. They are still sround for what really?
Each day they will be reminded of the pain they've caused you and you will be reminded of the way they hurt you. Open the door and let them go, stop opening your heart up to receive new wounds.
2016-03-21 17:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by WildIris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't think that anything is wrong with that. Of course your not going to do stuff like that all the time. I think that you guys may need a break. You don't need a guy to make you happy. I don't like be alone either. But it is nice not to have anybody to love and tak car of other than yourself. If you are unhappy with your boyfriend hn mayb h isn't right for you. You can love him all you want but it' still dosn't make you happier. And nd th nd you'll find out that it wasn't worth it. Then again you may find that his is mister right. however the fact that h cheated on you doesn't make him the best boyfriend. And as my friends and i would say that ain't a man that's an ***. I'm not trying to put your boyfriend down but is it really worth it? Cause more than likely if he chats on you once he is likely to do it again. Anyway sorry it as so long and good luck
2007-04-21 03:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by lilangel02babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your X get to you there must have been a good reason you two split. Stick with your boyfriend for all you know you might end up loving him more than your x.Give it time you'll soon figure out who you love, could be neither! Dont think about it too much it'll just confuse you.
2016-05-20 02:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then cut him a break and get on with your life. But realize that most guys cheat because there is just too much eye candy out there and these chicks don't care if the guy has a girlfriend or not.
The real problem is a girl who says she loves and takes good care of a guy who treats her like crap. That's like telling him, it's okay for him to do whatever he wants as long as he (eventually) comes home to you. If you had someone who treated you like a princess and you treated them like crap, would you change? Ask yourself, why am I putting up with this guy, not what's wrong with you. It's him, not you.
2007-04-21 03:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend is trying to make you his slave. I have a firm belief that it should be the man impressing the woman, not the other way around, never clean his room. And tell him if he wants lunch brought to him, he has to do something nice for you, you're not his maid. Get rid of him, he cheats on you and treats you like garbage, it's better being alone than being with him.
2007-04-21 03:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by Chastity M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he totally sucks, not all girlfriends have to write poems, i wouldnt trust his butt after cheating on u, especially if he works with the b*tch - i believe in the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater".
If you cant look at him in the same way then you never will, get to know this new guy :)
Good luck
2007-04-21 03:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by kaykay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being manipulated.
He cheated on you, get rid of him. Now.
Then be alone for a while to figure out who you are first...and wait for a good relationship to develop with someone who will not be dishonest with you.
2007-04-21 02:59:46 · answer #8 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not a complicated question to answer......DUMP HIM!
It's as simple as that!
you will hurt and be upset for a while after but you are only 20 years old! trust me when i say that you'll find someone that respects you better than this idiot that you are dating at the moment.....
start having alittle more respect for yourself!
2007-04-21 03:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by moon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to dump your boyfriend and get with this other guy. you cleaned his room thats so cute! sorry. anyway, your boyfriend telling you that you "arent doing things a girlfriend should do" is just ludicrous. who has those kinds of ideas? about "things a girlfriend should do"? thats ******* dumb. not to mention he cheated. dump that ******!
2007-04-21 03:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋