Ok - So i've liked my personal trainer for a while - and he asked me to go to a concert with him last night.
We arrived early and had 2 drinks (he picked a flower for me), then we got into the concert and it was dark and I though that he was going to make his move, but nothing happened.
I really enjoyed the concert and would like to get to know him better. Also throughout our conversation he mentioned money alot - about how much he earns etc... what does this mean?
At the end I mentioned that we should do it again sometime and he said sure.
BASICALLY.
1. I keep getting mixed signals from the guy - one minute he seems into me and next we're just friends. Why would a guy give mixed signals?
2.Why did he invite me to the concert if he is not interested?
3.The other thing to consider is that I am his client and am 6 years younger than he is (He's 29 i'm 23) - Could this be a turn off for him? How can I let him know that none of that means anything to me?
4. What should I do Now?
2007-04-21 02:44:30 · 8 answers · asked by Sarah_Silverstone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
C'mon Sarah, wise up. You could cost this guy his JOB. He might already have broken some rules just by taking you to the concert, so it makes really good sense that he's being cautious and keeping things friendly for now. Don't push him because he knows if you two don't work out you're gonna go to his boss and get him fired. That's life and that's reality. Good Luck
2007-04-21 02:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A rule for gyms is that many guys start out as puny weaklings with inferiority complexes and end up with superiority complexes after they have muscled up.
Are you getting the psychological profile? That is to say that the gym junkie spends a lot of time looking in the mirror at themselves in a highly critical fashion. Their real interest is themselves. Following this, clients may just be a means of stroking their egos or for the opportunistic a quick way to increase the bank balance with an older, more appreciative lonely and bored married woman.
Perhaps his mixed signals are to do with his guilt over his true intentions with you. He wants you, but he doesn't want you. He wants to use you but then you are a client and it might have consequences for his employment. He's in two minds and playing you because he's trying to hedge his bets. This business about telling you how much money he earns is baloney. Unless he's one of the celebrity trainers he's not earning all that much. Be careful that he is not trying to set you up for your money. Be careful that he won't be off playing with some other rich man's wife when he's not whispering sweet nothings in your ear.
Age is not the problem - he is the problem!
Do nothing. Let him make all the moves. Then tell it to him straight - you have an exclusive arrangement that does not include a bit of hanky panky with other clients - MALE OR FEMALE.
2007-04-21 10:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by pantomime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought that maybe you're giving him mixed signals as well? In the beginning of any relationship, you have to spend time figuring out how to read the other person. Personally, I think you have two ways of going about it. 1) Ask him directly; tell him what you want and see if he wants the same. 2) Let things happen naturally; there may be a lot more uncertainty, but you don't have to bear the humiliation if he doesn't want what you do. Isn't dating fun???
2007-04-21 09:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by marathonbdogg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Mixed signal could mean that he is "testing the waters". Trying to see if you are interestd.
2. Maybe he just wanted to hang out with you because he might enjoy your company
3. No. Age really shouldn't matter. If he hints towards the age gap, just tell him how you feel about the situation
4. Be patient. All good things come in time. If he is right for you, then you two will know it in time
2007-04-21 09:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by darthdawson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just because he is a personal trainer doesnt make him the most confident guy like most people think...and he is probably shy in that way...he knows you are younger and he might think that is a problem for you...So you make the first moves...
2007-04-21 09:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by dav m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he do these more often... You would most likely end up loving him...
So... If you like him...
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Learn and all the best ^^
2007-04-21 09:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anselmor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably just wanted to make sure u were interested in him first then make his move
2007-04-21 09:49:26 · answer #7 · answered by qutie2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him out he seems to shy to
2007-04-21 09:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by Charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋