2007-04-21 02:34:26 · 8 answers · asked by hammybear 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It imposes your values over their tragedy.
Everyone heals at their own rate, and for you to tell someone they have to get over their misery, is giving them your time line, one you may not have experience with.
Like, how long before you say you have to get over it, when a parent dies? Or a beloved pet. Or a divorce?
If extreme depression goes on for years, that is a problem best dealt with by a professional, but if someone is just not healing as fast as you like, then hold yourself back from judgement
2007-04-21 02:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with just a Grandma. It sounds judgmental and not very supportive. Most people share their feelings with someone not just to get advice but need a shoulder to cry on. People heal differently. Some heal fast while others take a while. I think there is a way to tell someone to get over their situation such as telling them that you can help them to get THROUGH this tough time with them and you will offer your support as long as they need it. I'm quite sure that your heart is in the right place but sometimes when we give advice we need to take into consideration that we never know how someones reaction will be to our advice.
2007-04-21 09:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by millineumlaura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing "wrong" with it. However, by saying it, you are forcing your opinion/feelings/attitiude on them. If you intend to do so forcefully, be prepared for the consequences. It's not polite, but not "wrong" either.
2007-04-21 09:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by Agriope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feelings are deeply emotional....Their minds are in shock to your direct approach not the sympathetic . But your right, if they need to get over something, they need to otherwise it may be therapy.
2007-04-24 18:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by astrokick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they will get over it in their own time
but theres nothing wrong with explaining to them how it's not good to hold on to neagtive things but don't say it they got dumped or their pet died etc
2007-04-21 09:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people "get over" or don't "get over" things that happen to them and it's not your job to tell them how they should feel.
2007-04-21 09:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Now get over it. You know you should.
2007-04-21 09:37:24 · answer #7 · answered by asmikeocsit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't think that's wrong.. it's just that you want that person to move on:)
2007-04-24 23:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by khatzzz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋