i had a galfrnd, we were in relationship for 3 years.we cudnt marry each other as parents were against. though we knew that we may never marry we used to maintain the relationship. frequently we used to have sex and once she also became pregnant and gone for abortion later. recently she got married to another person. we decided to breakup as it will create problems to both. it has been 8 months i never spoke to her i dnt kwn how her life is, but as to me its really hurting me that she is another man wife and shares everything with him. i always get the feeling that my wife is sharing bed with another man. Is it common for everybody who had sex with their galfrnd and not get married to her. Thoughs are hurting n killings me. iam becoming sick day by day.
2007-04-20 22:01:31 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel sorry for both of you. You both should have gone for marriage with each other if you both were of marriageable age, as far parents permission is concerned I think in a modern social back ground this has become very irrelevant, even people marry when parents are against it. The fact you both never had courage to face the world you backed out of this love affair. Now as she is married with some one else its better to forget her as she must have by now. What ever happened in past should not be brought in now & spoil three lives yours, her & her husband's.
2007-04-20 22:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a final to that relationship. It is time to move on because she has. Maybe, you dwelling on what might have been with some one else has driven your wife away. It sounds to me that you parted ways with the gb so you both could get on with your life's and realize that because of your parents it was not going to work. But in turn, that might have been the wrong reason for breaking off the relationship. Because of that, you still have unresolved feelings for her, but it is too late if she is married to someone else and has a new life and if she has not contacted you, then she probably considers things finished with you. Just try to move on and love the one your with. You had to have something for your wife or you would not have married her.
2007-04-20 22:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by CaseyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a question for you. If you were so sure that you would never marry, why did you do everything to build the relationship towards that eventuality? It is a fact that when you share such a close relationship with anyone, it is very difficult for you to forget it or gloss over it, in case your partner leaves you for some other person. It happens to any sensitive person. I hope you will slowly take it in your stride with the passing of time.
2007-04-21 19:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer you question unless you're emotionally imbalance at the beginning then not; sex with you g/b friend should not lead to emotional problems. What you are going through is normal, loosing someone with whom you are still in love with I went through that when I was young and the women with whom I was in love with married another man. I eventually moved on and got married.
2007-04-20 22:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by Carl J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i totally agree, it will create lot of problem in future. dont be sick by thinking this way that u r girl friend is sharing the bed with some other person(her husband). instead u think this way ur present wife may had the same relations ship with some one then what will u do?
hey man past is past dont think again and again and again live today life to its fullest. best of luck.
2007-04-20 22:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by ram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lot's of people have sex and they don't get married to that person. There are different ways to find out. Maybe she's not happy with the person she's with. Sometimes you have to go for what you want and not what others think. You can write me if you want to try to locate her or something. I might have some helpful suggestions.
2007-04-20 22:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by mmatthews000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hai... you have realised it yourself...having sex with a person before marriage is wrong...good.. now relax.. its over.. now down to your problem.. if you wanted to break the relationship apart why not she could have thought the same... so now understand her feelings too.. as you are man you are now able to express your problem out find your solution...but she being a woman cannot do so... who knows what her feelings might be... but i need to ask one dirty question... if you had sex with your girl friend why &how can you expect your wife or any damn person to do so... now it your time to realise the present and your familes future... stop all your brain teaser doubts about your wife...she might be the right person to heal your wound and start living your new life... i wish you a very new and properous married life........
2007-04-21 00:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by nirmal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a relationship which includes physical relation with other then yr wife or husband, is always wrong in every aspect ....what u r facing is ,one of the side effect of that worst thing which u had done in past, ...this is may be the cause root of no. of social problem...and dont try to justify by saying that..."it's common for everybody who had sex with thier girl friend..."..its not commen to have this type of relationship everywhere...so what u had done is absolutly wrong, so better u dont try to find any solution of that..but..on the contarary share this guilty feeling of side effect to other ppl , so other ppl dont do it.
2007-04-22 07:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may vary person to person,you lost the opportunity and now you are worrying about the past
Life is different pl try to forget the past and think about the future
life is awaiting for you to enjoy
All the best
2007-04-24 00:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by Murugesan g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey buddy.. grow., come up.. come off those killing thoughts.
U had sex pretty well knowing that u wont b able to marry, Y feel so much for that now!
Be practical, u decided to part for better, not that she dumped u and gone for another man!!
B cool
2007-04-20 22:07:27 · answer #10 · answered by Sanjeev 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋