2007-04-20 22:00:32 · 11 answers · asked by Juan G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have been married 18yrs and I try to please her in every way. I have tried to talk to her about it but she stays quiet or changes the subject.
2007-04-20 22:12:56 · update #1
There is obviously a problem talk to her about it. I am sure that she still loves you. She's still there isn't she? You can work this out. Ask her what is on her mind and why she doesn't say I love you back.
2007-04-20 22:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by lily_florance 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My friend, it sounds to me as if it is time for a long talk over a nice dinner. Are there children in your marriage?
Since you give no details it is hard to do more than take wild guesses. I warrant that a long talk is what is needed. One in which you do not fall back on emotions and can keep it calm. You really can only go from there.
If you feel you cannot have such a conversation, then it is time to get help. Something is keeping you both apart, and you have to find out what it is and try to get past it. Or not. But I hope you do, 18 years is a long time.
2007-04-21 07:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are four possibilities
!/ She doesn't feel the same way. It might be she's cheating, or maybe she just feels you've grown apart. If this is it, you two need to talk.
2/ Your actions don't match the words. Do you treat her as you would want someone who loves you to treat you? Do you yell, or hit? Do you ignore her, her wants and needs? Do you put what you want first, always? Have you cheated? Do you say it only as a prelude to sex?
3/ If she doesn't say it, and hasn't, perhaps she thinks that it is more important to show you than it is to say it.
4/ You have hurt her and she's not ready to open up to the possibility of hurt again.
What is the truth only she knows, why don't you ask her?
2007-04-20 22:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that your wife stays quiet,because she knows the real meaning of your words when you say I love you.(Lets all be honest here) the real truth of the matter is 99% of us say I luv you ,because we need and want the security of hearing our S/o tell us that they love us back,and 99% of us repeat the words back to our s/o most times it is b/c if you hear I/L/You,it is a rule you say I luv You back.I think we are all guilty of saying the words I luv you ,for them 2 specific reasons more than any other reason that might exist for us to say the words I luv you.People put way to much importance on hearing the words,and if your wife is anything like me,she knows it is not hearing the words that is of importance here,what you need to be asking yourself is do the 2 of you act and treat each other with luv,concern yourself with the acting and the doing,and do tell your wife you luv her if your only reason for saying so is because you do,know that she tells you she loves you in so many other different ways, you both will truly luv each other,b/c 99% of us need to realize saying the words I luv you does NOT MAKE IT SO,my marriage and so many others would be a lot better off if we had to prove our luv for each in other way's instead of with words.
2007-04-20 23:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you give more details? How long have you been married? Are you having marriage problems? Or problems in anything else? Hint Hint?
2007-04-20 22:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by CaseyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thts pretty weird man, are u thinking wht i am thinking? if yes, just for the safe side, hire a private detective and spy on your wife for 1 month. It will cost you only $500-$750, try online detectives, they really work.
2007-04-20 22:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jendralus 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe because she thinks ur just messing her with her mind. do you walk the talk? ladies loathe it when the words contradicts the actions.
2007-04-21 01:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by aishah 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some people have a very hard time saying what the feel, i hope thats her problem
2007-04-20 22:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she married you for your $ and has already cheated on you numerous times.
2007-04-20 22:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by Non Phixion 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Possibly she does not believe you.
2007-04-21 01:15:02 · answer #10 · answered by denise b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋