being good is taking it's toll on me. tired of feeling people's problems. i want to take a break. why being good is draining my strength? any advise?
2007-04-20 18:39:32 · 9 answers · asked by Lola 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i'm like a sponge absorbing the hurt and problems of other people. i need to re-charge?
2007-04-20 18:56:34 · update #1
It's nice to be the one everyone comes to talk to about their problems, but it can wear you out and be very draining. You need to find something that is peaceful and relaxing to you and treat yourself to a nice relaxing day off. Also, I know it seems like the bad people always get away with stuff but when you're a good person, you don't seem to catch as many breaks as others. That's ok because you are doing the right thing/ You can be proud of the fact that you care for others and obviously have a personality that makes people feel special and accepted. Put that talent to work for you and also find your own place for a few peaceful moments to unwind.
2007-04-21 00:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what your definition of being good is. The great philosopher Paul said we should not grow weary of well-doing.
Humans have a dual nature; some good and some not-so-good. That's why sometimes we just don't feel like putting out the effort. Sometimes others may not seem to appreciate the good we are trying to do, or our meaning may be misunderstood. That can also lead to apparent burn-out. We should keep in mind that we do good for the good's own sake, and not necessarily for recognition from other people.
2007-04-20 18:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by Gee Wye 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very caring person. Sounds like you are a good listener. There really aren't that many good listeners, so the ones that are really get an ear full. Give yourself a little break and you do the talking for a while.
2007-04-20 19:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by starflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"being good" doesn't always mean you have to feel other people's problems. Sometimes being good is nothing more than not causing harm to anyone or anything.
Or being good is acting for a cause you believe in. It does take energy and sap one's strength to take on other's problems. You can take a break from doing that and still do good for the world.
2007-04-20 18:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mira N 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a target for the Poor-Me personality. Some people are psychic vampires, they will drain you through playing out various "dramas" of which the poor-me is one. Others are Intimidators, Aloof, or Questioners.
Read The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield to find out how to protect yourself in a positive way.
Good Luck!
2007-04-20 19:26:37 · answer #5 · answered by Nadine - Unity CEO 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being good isn't easy. Not very rewarding either. I think that's the point. Doesn't mean you have to be bad. Focus on rewarding and paying all of your attention to yourself. Indulge a little here and there. Be careful though, sometimes it's hard to go back to being good.
2007-04-20 18:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to be good to yourself. First and foremost then you will have the energy to help others when you are strong.
2007-04-20 18:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by pretty4data 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because as much as *not* giving people your time and energy is not good, giving them more time than you give yourself is also not virtue.
Equilibrium is the essence of wisdom. Give people as much time as you give yourself, and everyone wins.
2007-04-20 18:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by prabato 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because being good sometimes tends to limit your enjoymnet, u were stocked on standard procedure thought it wont make u happy...make sense?
2007-04-20 18:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by roosh c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋