2007-04-20 18:26:45 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
STAND BY YOUR MAN...My husband and I have been together for 17 years, in the begining we were very heavy users. I got sober before he did and it was hell. Eventually he became sober right along with me and we are now the best of friends. We have been through certain trials and tribulations in our relationship that most married couples will never have to face. We survived hell and are all the stronger for it now. Stay together, love each other to the point of night sweats if you have to, and you will end up with the very best friend you have ever had. I know it's hard but you can do it. God Bless and good luck to you.
2007-04-20 18:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by lily_florance 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh no girl! I have met one too many people with your problem. You may love this man till the day you die but you can not be with him like this again. It is a matter of individual survival now more than a partnership thing.
Unfortunately you need to worry about staying clean and taking care of yourself and just maybe if he cleans up there is a small chance but while he is still using there is no way.
He is part of the toxicity in your life and you need to be clean of that too.
Again you may love him to no end but you need to love yourself more.
I recomend the book Women That Love Too Much, it should give you an insight and help you answer this question for yourself. I think if you take the time to read the book you will be more satisfied with the decision you make than with anything any one of us could advice.
Wish you the best!
2007-04-20 18:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm not straight edge or an anti-drug use fanatic. I've tried different drugs before. But I also have friends that are cocain addicts and none of their relationships ever work out because they're too addicted to the drug to hold a loving, responsible relationship with another person, even if their partner is also addicted to blow. The best thing you can do, as hard as it may seem, is to try and help your husband ease his way off cocain or get rehab help for him. If you love him and care about him, it's the best thing to do. And even more importantly, if you care for yourself at all, you won't use the drug and possibly become addcited yourself. A good friend of mine is addicted to cocain and has a baby. She can't hold healthy relations hips with men because her feelings are so screwed up from the drug and all she's grown to care about is finding ways to get more of it. It's been painful for me, as her friend, to watch her throw her life away. Trust me, you need to stay away from it and help your husband before it gets too late. In the long run, it'll save your relationship and maybe even your life.
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2007-04-20 18:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
This marriage is doomed. Addiction doesn't allow for sharing attention. Your needs will be ignored in favor of getting the next fix. Sorry, but you should start looking toward a future without a monkey.
2007-04-20 18:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When either partner is drugged out there are bound to be major problems because one of you is not thinking clearly - if BOTH are fogged, things can somewhat work - at least you both are on the same wavelength...the main reason you should not be with an addict, is because it leaves the door to temptation wide open for you to get back in to it. You know you should sever all ties to that substance - if it's in your HOUSE, that's not staying away from the temptation at all - good grief - tell the guy to get straight or get lost.
2007-04-20 18:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well since you have recovered from your addiction do you feel you are strong enough,love your husband enough to help him through his addiction if you can both get clean you may be surprised at the love you can have for each other.
2007-04-20 18:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by Tazz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say no. You need to be around people who don't have addictive backgrounds. Staying with your spouse will eventually lead you back to the addictive behavior because you have an available outlet to obtain drugs (from your spouse).
It can be very draining when you're trying to get your life together and the person that you love still remains in the same desperate place.
If you've tried everything to help him get off of drugs and it's not working, then it's time to free yourself and get your life back!!!!
Good Luck!!
2007-04-20 18:36:49 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Pisces 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
nicely, nicotine and caffeine are my 2 majors, I dont drink yet ive been smoking on condition that i replaced into 14 and that i have no purpose of giving them up yet, I did go via somewhat of taking xanax and valium many years in the past, only for leisure use for sure, all and numerous has carried out something of their lives a minimum of once.
2016-12-04 09:47:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are yo doing a line of coke right now? I'm not trying to be rude but it seems like you have some other issues at hand if your resorting to asking people on the internet about that. I would recommend you talk to a counseler. I'm not a counseler but judging by the question, I would say yours wont work.
2007-04-20 18:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by Luke 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would like to give you hope but the truth is, if someone is addicted in a relationship, it rarely works. Marriage is trust, love, give and take and compromise. Have you ever met an addict that can give any of those qualities?
2007-04-20 18:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by DeltaQueen 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋