She no longer seems interested in our sex life but yet she likes to dress up for the guys we play cards with, one of the guys I suspect she might be interested in.
2007-04-20 18:18:58 · 27 answers · asked by gd8432_98 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe if you were with her right,dancing ,kissing her and showing her love now instead of asking us what to do you could save your marriage and she wouldn't be interested in another guy..JMO.
2007-04-20 18:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by Ladyiowa 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My mother once told me if something doesn't feel right then it probably isn't and you know what? it wasn't.
You have your suspicions so there must be a problem somewhere. If you feel you have to ask, things have gone too far. Time to be proactive and open up the lines of comunication.
Some advice, women cheat when they don't connect emotionally with their mates. Talk to her about what you can do to make her feel loved and wanted before you hit her with the "are you cheating on me" question. If she is or was thinking about it she might be taken by surprise by your concern and want to open up.
Affairs tend to be the reaction to a problem and not the problem itself. It's a cry for help in a way.
If she is having an affair be frank and ask if she wants to work to fix the marriage and seek therapy asap.
If she just denies the whole thing and you still think she is lying then time to start snooping until you know for sure so that you can confront her with it and make an informed decision.
Good luck!!
2007-04-20 18:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, don't let her be around when you play cards, do it at their house or some other place and don't let her go. And yes, she might be cheating on you or it might be that she is just interested in another guy. I would talk to her about it and maybe even talk to the guy you suspect and see if you can get anything out of either of them.
2007-04-20 18:24:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Garrison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much do you want to play cards with the guys? How much to you want to stay married?
She doesn't have to go out looking for guys,.you bring them to her. Are you stupid?
How much do you complement her when she is dressed up?
Is she hunting for complements you aren't giving her?
What are you doing about the guy who's interested in her?
Are you going to do anything? Kiss her in front of this guy!
Take her somewhere without the guys. This is all messed up.
If she's not cheating now, she will be. You've been setting 'em up nicely for her.
2007-04-20 19:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by ralph 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her this question? Sometimes when a woman has been with a man for a long time they start to believe that they are not beautiful any more and do things to get the attention of other men. Not to cheat on there spouse, but just to know that they are still beautiful and desirable to men. Men go through the same phases. It is normal.
2007-04-20 19:00:35 · answer #5 · answered by lily_florance 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's just going through a phase. She may miss getting male attention. It doesn't mean she is cheating, but it doesn't sound too unlikely to happen in the future though. You may just need to try extra hard to make her feel attractive and sexy. Try to be romantic like you were when you first got together. You have to give her whatever it is she is looking for from these other guys.
2007-04-20 19:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by Canadian Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give up cards and take up skeet shooting. Seriously though, just talk to her without getting defensive, angry, or accusatory. There are obviously some issues that need to be addressed and this should be done constructively. Keep your mind on the two of you being better than ever as the end result and you can solve this problem. She is obviously trying to get someone's attention. Hopefully it's yours.
2007-04-20 19:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by rtanys 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump the Gun now. Just because she likes to look nice, when you have Friends over does not mean she is interested in anyone else. Now if she starts going out at "Night" Alone" then you may have something to worry about.
2007-04-20 18:26:50 · answer #8 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between sex and a woman dressing up to look pretty. It is the difference between a man and woman.
If she goes to church or there is company over, then yeah, of course she'd want to look "decent" or like she has a life.
If she is dressing like a prostitute and flirting though, then yeah.
2007-04-20 18:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by Desyra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful you are not being paranoid...Remember one thing she is YOUR wife...being insecure will not do anything but put bad thoughts and worries in your head.
I think it's time you both went on vacation together...or at least a weekend trip...get excited about something...work on ur relationship...go do something fun...Go out and spend some real quality time together...that should do the trick..
2007-04-20 19:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by Duuuude no waaaay! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she is cold in bed - maybe she just needs something a bit different - but you can't do it until she tells you what she wants, right??? She may be dressing up to find out how attractive she is because she is thinking about stepping out, it's hard to tell. Just sit her down and ask her what's up!
2007-04-20 18:27:12 · answer #11 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋