I am not sure if should leave my husband. I am preaty sure he is cheating. But I have no were to go. I need to talk to somebody.
2007-04-20 18:15:33 · 25 answers · asked by A.T.222 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is there a phone number like 1-800 or something I could call?
2007-04-23 03:26:59 · update #1
You may need to better yourself personally so you can afford to take care of yourself, because he may not want to support you depending on your situation. The child support and alimony (if needed) may not support enough to continue your current life style. You will have to decide for yourself whats the best move, but you will need to seek some professional help.
2007-04-20 18:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by kurick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am so sorry! My first husband cheated on me so I know how you feel. I knew and I made the decision to leave..oh by the way we had a 9 month baby girl. I had to find a way..and so do you. There is to much at stake. Your health and mental health. Take a stand. Show him that you can stand alone without him. The sun will still come up. Ask a friend you trust for help. I did! A woman friend will help. Hang in there.
2007-04-28 13:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by happyeyes102 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get proof first before you make a hasty decision,the bible states that the reason a marriage can be terminated is thru marital infedility,but there is nothing that cant be fixed do you still love your husband?and look at the circumstances of your marriage what are the on going problems that need to be discussed and would he go to counseling,Pray and ask God for direction,Ive have been thru similiar circumstances if you want to talk to someone talk to a counselor Great Faith ministries has marriage counselors phone # is 313-491-4900 ask for pastor bonzelle joines or pastor stephen adolf and you can e-mail me at Llisadrew@aol.com and we can talk,I will pray for you and seek his direction for you my 360 is gods child keep in touch with me,also God has given me the gift to counsel but dont leave your husband till you cover all avenues,and get proof and even if you get proof things can be worked out. Be blessed Lisa
2007-04-28 17:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by God Child 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If as you say he is cheating and your in a situation like this, get a job right away, be pleasant and don't say a word after a few paychecks move into roomate situation. Talk to God and ask for guidance, but pretty much be independent here, and when your ready you'll feel freeer to leave and ask him then after the silverware is with you. Bye the way those feelings are usually on target. Get a man you can worship in a church with and together and you'll sleep better.
2007-04-28 15:55:49 · answer #4 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
questioning rather he is cheating or not is almost as bad as if you knew. there are always some signs staying out longer then normally,he gets defensive when asked about his actions,dont ask you to go places with him, wont let you see cell phone,phone hangups, starting arguements and then saying its your fault so he can have excuse toget away, snappy about everything you do ask him point blank if you or still not satisfied follow him thenif your are still not happy call the show cheaters. no matter how it turns out there is definitely something wrong are you wouldnt be feeling like this talk to him he is the only one who knows what is wrong.but always remember that it takes two to make a marriage work so dont take the blame all on yourself. never give up on yourself always know that it will hurt but time will heal all wounds. you found him you will find another be strong.
2007-04-27 17:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by twinkle2twinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your family about the situation. Let them know what your plans are and ak for help.
You can also contact you local clergy for advice.
Please plan ...... See a lawyer ...get your "ducks in a row" before you make a move.
Once you are sure of your findings and have tentative arrangements confront your husband about his cheating. Discuss with him if this marriage can be saved. If he loves you and wants to make it work then insist he break up with this other person and then both of you need to go to counseling and/or see your clergy.
Good Luck
2007-04-27 08:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by That_ blue_ eyed_ Irish_ lass 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check to see what may be listed in your area. IF you are planning on leaving him, make sure that you set up a consultation with a lawyer to see what your rights are. Knowledge is power, and the more you know about how to handle your situation the better it will be. Check with local organizations, such as churches etc.
2007-04-20 18:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by emeraldfire68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try for a job, get the job, try for a place for living you can afford with the job
and leave him then, without a delay as he is cheating
no excuse needed for cheaters neither any talk
you can't be sure he will not cheat you again
good luck
2007-04-28 18:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do get a divorce u do got a place to go u always got yo mama and yo daddy u will always be there 4 u about da helpline i sorry but i anit got no info on dat.
2007-04-27 11:01:51 · answer #9 · answered by Jamilah C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If divorce is what you want make plans. Save every penny you can put it where your the only one that can find it. Have every thing ready to be packed in a few min. And if you change your mind and don't divorce well you've saved money for a rainy day and everything you have is in order.
2007-04-27 09:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋