I currently live with my mom and have a pretty close relationship with her. However, I am still hesitant to tell her that sometimes I sleep over my boyfriend's house. Some times I tell her that I am at my best friend's house. I dont want to keep lying to her. Especially because I am 26 and I really like this guy. My mom has only met him once, and even though she is pretty open minded (inspite of our latin culture), i think that she will not be okay with me staying over his house. How can I tell her and what can I tell her so that she can understand that its normal. note: my boyfriend lives an hour away so it sucks having to come back home the same night. I just want to tell her without beating around the bush.
2007-04-20 17:54:53 · 13 answers · asked by Sofia V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're 26....just tell her !! She doesn't have to like it, but you're an adult, so she needs to accept it. If it's that much trouble, move out. If you're as close as you claim ( and even if you're not ), it won't be that big of a deal. You are a big girl now & can make big girl decissions about your life as you see fit. If your mom loves & trusts you & your judgement, what's the problem?
2007-04-20 18:25:32 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Callie ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you can do this. Wait till your mom isn't busy with something else and make sure she's in a good mood. Now, take a deep breath and bring up your boyfriend. Now tell her how you two feel about each other and what you want to do(spend the night with him) now if she's yelling wait for her to take a breath. Explain to her that you wanted her to know because she is your mother and now that you are an adult you wanted her to know that you and her could have an even closer relationship as friends. You can do this. Good Luck!
2007-04-20 18:18:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ammarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers are not stupid, she probably already suspects. Just go to her and tell her that you want to maintain the close relationship you have, and you don't feel you can without telling her the truth. She is going to assume you are having sex, which she may or may not be ok with (after all, you are 26), but it is your life to live.
P.S. Consider getting a place of your own-you've been an adult for 8 years now!
2007-04-20 18:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by n2mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably already suspects. Parents aren't as dumb as most kids, even though you aren't really, believe. Their is no easy way except just coming out and telling her that you really like the guy and sometimes stay over at his house. Just try not to make it sound as though it's a casual thing. If she understands that you're serious in your feelings she'll probably be less inclined to get upset. Good luck.
2007-04-20 18:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by mustanger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you're 26, it's time to accept the fact that you mom may not like it but it's your choice. You are just delaying the inevitable and lying will only add extra pain when it finally does come out in the open.
2007-04-20 18:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good relationship with your mom and you're 26, just be honest. She can't ground you, yes, she may be disappointed if she believes you shouldn't before you're married but I'm sure this is something you can work out but always be honest. It will be much worse if she finds out and you never bothered to talk with her. When you talk with her tell her you don't want to disappoint her, but times are different but you do want to be honest with her. Tell her you love her and appreciate the principles she taught you but you are a grown woman and let her know you will never disrespect her home, (hence going to his house) Good luck
2007-04-20 18:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jae C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 09:46:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will not like it, no doubt, but especially since he is an hour away, it is important that she knows where you are. Just tell her that he sleeps on the couch when you are there - yes, it is a lie, but you can't just drop a bomb like this all at once... good luck!
2007-04-20 18:08:40 · answer #8 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happened with me. i was sick of lying to her and i paid rent and everything for myself. so if she was curious i'd just leave in a hurry and yell that i'd be out for the night and back tomorrow. she gave up asking and it saved us both from an uncomfortable conversation
2007-04-20 19:57:36 · answer #9 · answered by Proud New Mommy! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her latin culture should be respected, keep up the good friend story.. mothers have enough to worry about..
2007-04-20 18:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋