Have you ever felt really guilty about something you've done or didn't do as a parent?

Question

I took my 3 year old to the eye doctor today. She's been complaining for a long time that she couldn't see well, but she's coveted her cousin's glasses for so long that I was sure she just wanted a pair of her own and would get over it. She failed her eye test at school, so we decided to get her checked out ourselves because I've never held much faith in the eye exams that school's give.

She sat in the chair at the eye clinic today, and the doctor pulled a picture up on the overhead of a birthday cake. I could see it clearly and I was standing right next to her.

He said "Sweetie, what is that a picture of.."

She looked at it for a long time before saying.. "A volcano??"

Her eyeglasses prescription is -400.

Answer 1

as parents we all make mistakes .. but always doing your best with the right intentions should get us over the hurdles of guilt when we make mistakes .. we aren't perfect and sometimes it comes down to how were you supposed to know that, sometimes experience is the knowledge and you did your best with out it .. but now that you have it, i'm sure it will help you with other events that are bound to happen in the future .. tc & happy friday ;-)

Answer 2

Don't beat yourself up for it, there is no blueprint to parenting and there will be many mistakes that will be made along the way. We all wish we had done alot of things different in our lives and certain parenting decisions are no exception. She will not hold it against you. Some children are raised in worst environments and they grow to forgive. A parents and child's bond is almost always unconditional just relax and do the best you can and all will be well.

Answer 3

When my kids were little I thought I kept up on things pretty good. One day I took them shoe shopping and both of them needed shoes two sizes larger than the ones they were wearing. I felt like the worst mother in the world!!!

You sound like a good mom, hey a lot of parents wouldnt of bothered taking their child to the eye doctor. Dont worry about it.

You know what I've noticed about parents?? Bad parents dont feel guilty about anything. So when youre sitting there feeling really guilty about something just remember, you must be a good mommy. =) Dont forget that. It's going to come in handy a lot. We good moms feel a tremendous amount of guilt. Got guilt? Be proud!

Answer 4

Due to limited financial source, as a mother, I used to buy a cheaper brand of daily hygene needs. Like toothpaste, I taught that what is important is that we are cleaning our teeth on a regular basis. After a while, about 2 years, my daughter coplain of something about her teeth. I never gave much attention on that at first thinking that nothing serious would happen cause she's brushing regularly. Too late that our dentist found that a tooth had to be extracted and another one jacketed to save the adjoining teeth which costed me about 50 tubes of toohpaste. And to think that we use 2 tubes of the said toothpaste a month. What I did was very wrong.

Answer 5

OMG! Being a parent is riddled with guilt. Woulda, shoulda and coulda! Trust me, you are NOT the only one! You actually did the RIGHT thing in getting her eyes checked before Primary School. That will save her a lot of problems later on.

Answer 6

I can see where you'd feel guilty but you have to cut yourself some slack...do you know how many parents learn of eye problems this way? how were you to know what her eye sight was exactly -if we believed everything our kids complained of, it would be a very big waste of time.Feeling guilty wont change it..it will only affect your mood and make you a sad mommy. tell yourself "I cant change what happened-so I wont waste time and energy thinking of what should have been..and from this point on I can handle the problem" mommys are trained-you learn as you go

Answer 7

Don't beat yourself up Jen. Every parent makes mistakes. At least it wasn't a life threatening one. Just think how wonderful the world will look for her when she gets her glasses.

I can tell from observing you on Y/A that you're a great mom. Everything will be ok. You will remember this, she won't.

Answer 8

Yes all the time. However I consider it a sign of good parenting to feel some guilt. We can only do the best job that we are able to.

Answer 9

Before my daughter was born, I had a lot of anxiety dreams about her. In this one dream, I had forgotten to feed her. I didn't realize it until the middle of the night. I got up feeling horrible, and I found her in the kitchen floor with a frying pan cooking herself some eggs.

Answer 10

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