He is extremely closeminded in not accepting that we will not accept a black for a girlfriend. It is a choice that he have and we chose not to accept it. He has dated hispanics, koreans and whites...yet is obsessed with the fact that we would not accept a black girl. He claims that he is starting to like someone who is and we said fine - but do not bring her home and do not expect for us to go anywhere with you. We have the right not to expect such a hideous relationship.
2007-04-20 17:36:49 · 32 answers · asked by prozacisforall 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
that's mean
what if the girl is kind
2007-04-20 17:39:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
There is much in your post that does not ring true. I'm not sure I believe this situation really exists as you've laid it out. However, let's assume that you're being honest:
Your job as a parent is to raise your children to be loving, contributing members of society, a person who will try to make a positive difference in some way. A citizen who makes good choices, accepts responsibility for his actions and has the skills to pass along that knowledge to his own children.
You don't have to like your child's decisions. But you do have to respect his right to make them. What strikes me as sad is that you don't seem to care about what makes your child happy. And this is one lesson I hope your child does not learn and pass along.
I would say that it is you, not your son, who is close-minded, and that you are cheating yourselves by propogating such prejudice. People are so much more than what we see on the outside, and you may miss knowing someone who has a fascinating background. Perhaps you should be reminded that there are no "purebloods" and that in all likelihood, you yourself have African blood history.
2007-04-20 17:51:40 · answer #2 · answered by princessmeltdown 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I must say that I do not agree OR disagree with you. Each person is entitled to their preference in life. I am from Africa but I am not black. Your question has proved to me that the people in Africa seem to have been the only ones who knowingly stick to their own kind (except for a very few in later years), because it was just never done. I have nothing against such a union and have seen many, but we were brought up to understand that we each had our own culture and belief and this is what would destroy a marriage. I admire the various black cultures in Africa because they have 'morals / principals' as does everyone else so I don't hate them, I respect them. If one of my children wanted to marry another race now, I would learn to accept it instead of losing my child.
I cannot tell you what to do but instead, you will have to make the choice one day soon with a son like yours. Good luck.
2007-04-20 18:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by Commodore 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Stop being racist, that's ignorant and old-fashioned. what? are you a Nazi or something?
The skin color does not define a person. We are all the same in God's eyes. Whites are not better than blacks; blacks are not better than Hispanic; Hispanics are not better than Asians; Asians are not better than middle easterns; middle easterns are not better than whites, etc... We shouldn't label people. If you love your son then you want him to be happy and if he is happy with this girl you should try to accept her and make your son's life easier. If your son's happiness is this girl and you do not accept her just because she is black then I believe that you do not love your son enough because we all wish happiness to our beloved ones.
Sorry if I was mean.
By the way, your son is not close-minded, YOU ARE!
*****Another thing, if your white son gets marry with that black girl, let me tell you that you will have gorgeous grandchildren! beautiful hair, eyes and a beautiful skin color! I don't know if you have noticed that the most extravagant types of beauties are like mixed races. So start thinking a litttle bit more possitively and I hope you don't ignore your grandchildren because they will have a darker skin color than you... would that happen?
2007-04-20 17:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by Love Yahoo!!! wannabe a princess 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Your son would not accept you telling him not to date a redhead, or a hairdresser, sons are like that.
Our son dated someone we did not approve of, but I worked very hard to make her feel welcome, I would never want to say those fatal words, you must choose her or us, it's such a final statement.
I personally find it very hard to accept that there are still people out there who are quite happy to dismiss a whole section of the community, just on the colour of their skin. Why not wait and see and try and judge on the individual. There are good and bad people of every colour, class gender and religion.
2007-04-20 17:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by Cowgirl 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Ever think that the reason why he wants to date an African-American girl so bad is because YOU FORBADE IT? I have a son too and I would like for him to get a nice AA girl but I'm certainly not going to tell him that he'll be disowned if he brings home a Caucaisan girl. As long as the girl treats him right AND him her, it really don't matter what race she is. Its a shame that we have people thinking like this in this year 2007.
2007-04-20 17:46:54 · answer #6 · answered by SheriBeri 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I was walking down the street one day
and thought I saw a black man
So I went to chase him and run him down
cause it's something that I can't stand
After a while I gave up
cause too much time was wasted
Then when I got him looked in a mirror
and saw the man I hated
2007-04-20 17:55:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would be more concerned with my son's happiness, not my own. I would love to be there when you get to the Gates of Heaven and St. Peter says, "No, sorry, you are not welcome here. We don't accept "your kind" here. But your son is more than welcome with his black wife and their children!" Think about it. It is skin color. It won't rub off on you, you don't have to worry about any belongings being stolen, or drugs being consumed in your home. There won't be any watermelon parties in the front yard either. Wake up! This is 2007 for Pete's Sake! Geeez! God Bless You!
2007-04-20 17:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by Czech Chick 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
my parents probably would not let me date a black boy so i understand how u feel. but we are at a point in time where black and white is okay. man and man or girl and girl is okay. somtimes sons and daughters want what they cant have. if my rents told me not to datea certain person, i might keep doing just to havea feeling of liberation and a state of mind that is like i can do w.e. i want. accept the fact even if it hurts u inside. no one is saying they are getting married. he might date her for a month and they might break up. give them a chance and dont be racist. its a sin and a crime. thank you and good luck with u and ur son!
2007-04-20 17:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by mitlilkizbi 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like you are the close minded ones. Honestly, if you were my parents I wouldn't really care what you thought. I would date who I wanted to date and that would be the end of the story. I'm the captain of this ship. It's best to let people live their own lives and make their own decisions and accept them for who they are.
Seems like because you feel so strongly against "African-Americans" your son will most likely end up marrying one and having kids....."Guess who's coming to dinner?" lol Cheers ;)
2007-04-20 18:22:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Oh Dear, poor you - here you are, having worked so terribly hard to raise an ignorant, irrational bigot just like you.... and you're having to come to terms with failing miserably.
Methinks you are a troll. If not.... the sooner your son turns his back on you completely, the better
2007-04-20 17:44:26 · answer #11 · answered by Kella G 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋