what are the chances he would leave after a few years of marriage or start to cheat on me?
2007-04-20 17:17:01 · 12 answers · asked by sweet sensation 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't understand your logic here.....
If you think your future husband would leave you or cheat on you after a few years of marriage just because you don't have sex with him before you get married.......then I struggle to see why you would want to marry this man.
This just makes no sense to me....
2007-04-20 17:21:15 · answer #1 · answered by jezyka 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you wait.... while I'm not so sure you should. But you not real clear as to whether you're saying you should have sex with your future husband or someone else. But if it worries you then you might want to have sex before marriage... with someone. Sometimes this can bother people that they never had sex before they got married.... especially when their partner has been experienced before them. Sometimes getting that out of the way isn't a bad idea but that's up to your thinking.
You asked where the chances he would leave after a few years of marriage or cheat because of his experience. While the simple answer that could be simply none. He might be quite happy to be married and be with one person. His past experience might lead him to the fact that he only wants to be with one person from now on. Even a person that's a virgin at marriage may get an ich to wonder what others are like.
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2007-04-22 16:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by AdviceManHere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your choice not to have sex is a personal choice. It sounds like you're penalizing him because he's not a virgin. There is always a chance that your spouse will cheat on you or leave you. Unfortunately, that's one of the risk of marriage. Don't focus so much on if he's going to leave you after you're married.
If you're planning to get married, you should seek pre-marriage counseling where you can address your concerns.
2007-04-20 17:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Pisces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the pride of saying that you waited for marriage. For the pride of going to your husbands bed for the first time as man and wife. For being able to tell your daughters and sons that you waited for the right man and had waited for marriage. Kids do like old fashioned values. They may not admit it, but they do. As to the chances that he will cheat? Who knows? Life is a crapshoot. You pay your money and takes your chances. The key is to just do the right thing.
2007-04-20 17:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by asbratcher 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because he's not a virgin when he met you doesn't mean he will cheat. If he's cheated on you, then that's a whole other ball game, but if he's loyal to you, then he's loyal.
You do what's right for you. You shouldn't be keeping score to catch up with his former affairs. You waited and he didn't. Not really a problem as long as he understands monogamy.
2007-04-20 17:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by TJTB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U R a sensible gal. only shop on waiting. with a bit of luck U would be greater relied on and venerated for it. the toughest area would be looking a guy that waited. that is next to imposable, yet there could be some uncommon guy who've waited. If that occurs, U would be doubly blessed, because of the fact U could have a treasure that few human beings ever gain. many women human beings throw that probability away purely to be apologetic approximately it later.
2016-11-26 01:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by almaraz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your decision; but keep in mind that throughout history men have usually been more experienced than women. You have to be true to yourself. Just because a man is not a virgin before you date them doesn't mean they will not be faithful. But if you just feel as though you wish to engage in sexual activities, just be sure that this is something you will not regret when you are with you husband one day. Also how do you know that you could end up with a man who has saved himself for his future wife(you), then you may feel guilty for not giving him the same gift he gives you.
2007-04-20 17:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by Carl J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't your mother ever ask you "if everyone jumped over a cliff Are you going to too? He will be there for you as long as you both respect your marriage vows and each other...
2007-04-20 18:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How the hell are we supposed to know? But have you ever heard of self fulfilling prophecy?
2007-04-20 17:22:25 · answer #9 · answered by Millionaire in training 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AIDS, Herpes, Gonorrhea, HPV... And then there's just plain old morality, if that means anything to you.
2007-04-20 17:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by jesuscuresislam 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋