HOw many of you think people who are dating and the women gets pregnant should get married just for the baby.?

Answer 1

I don't... Just because a baby is on the way doesn't mean a couple should marry...

I have seen far too many couples marry thinking it's all going to work out just because thier DNA met. Many of those marriages end in divorce with in 5 years with the majority ending in bitter enbattled divorces where the child is used as a pawn by each parent..

While I do believe each parent should be in the childs life marriage based only on a pregnancy isn't the way to insure it... I believe it is far more productive to wait and agree to both be in the childs life... If eventually a love and want to marry develops go for it but don't rush in simple because a surprise pregnancy occured...

Answer 2

And risk having an unhappy household or unhealthy household? No way. As an alternative I would suggest the two keep dating and live together. Not until they think that they can really be married forever should they marry. Two parents that feel nothing for eachother after a few years of marriage or hate eachother after a few years of marriage can hurt a child a lot more than a single parent loving home with visits to the other parent.

Answer 3

Well, ideally if they are having sex, they are committed enough to each other to consider marriage. That said, I am a realist, and know that this just doesn't happen. Do NOT get married just for the baby-my husband's sister did this, and got divorced within a year of the marriage. Now they are so bitter toward each other they can't even be good parents together. If they hadn't gotten married they might not be together, but maybe they could have been more civil about it.

Answer 4

I do not. Although, I feel that a child deserves to have both of their parents in their daily life, to get married just because of a pregnancy, would teach the child that marriage is something chosen out of obligation. If you are with someone you would not marry otherwise, why raise a child in such an environment? If you are unsure of the outcome of the relationship, you should raise the child together and only get married once you feel you are ready to commit to that person. A child should grow up with loving surroundings, not only being loved by his/her parents, but seeing them love and respect each other. It may not be ideal for a child to grow up with parents apart from each other, but it is better than witnessing a miserable and loveless relationship between them.

Answer 5

There was only one Immaculate Conception dear. If you put it there you are just as responsible as the person you impregnated. There are many solutions. One is adoption to a grown up couple who actually are responsible and can care for the child and give the child what it deserves. If you were going to have sex you should have thought ahead and USED A CONDOM. And excuse me...but "just for the baby"? Like it is a thing that is just in the way? It didn't ask to be there in the first place. Two "adults" put it there. It is a human being just like you are a human being. Probably more so. You speak of it as it it is a nothing, a non entity. Your thinking is screwed up.

Answer 6

No. That alone is a poor reason to marry, and often a recipie for divorce. The child can be provided for with the people not married. If a couple doesn't love each other enough to marry (without a baby in the picture) then they shouldn't do it....marriage is challenge enough without doing it solely out of obligation. That's not the kind of environment a child needs to be raised in...

Answer 7

Just for the baby? HELLLLLL NO!!!!!!!!!

That's just a disaster waiting to happen. I hate stupid girls who are like 'yes because the child needs a dad'

Just because the parents don't get married doesn't mean the dad's going to bail!! Do they? Sometimes, but not always!!! My fiance has a daughter, and he was never married!! Thank goodness!!! And he is a great daddy to his little girl!!!

What is more important here is, what kind of environment do you want your child to grow up in?!?!

If you want your child to see his/her parents unhappy, then by all means, go ahead and get married 'just for the baby.' However, in MY personal opinion, I think it would be better for a child to see his/her parents happy and NOT together than together and unhappy.

I had a friend back in high school, and her parents had a terrible marriage. She'd always say she knew that her parents were together just for the kids.....and she hated seeing them sad/angry all the time.

It's not worth it. And if you want your child to grow up and be happy rather than thinking they should just 'settle' then I say NO. Without a doubt. It's not worth it......and divorces are mighty expensive...

Answer 8

NEVER!!! If you are not happy, the baby will grow to be unhappy. You can be a great parent with or without marriage. I can give you the whole line... What are you doing having sex when you are not married but its 2007. Don't get married for the baby, every ones life will get hurt.

Answer 9

My husband had 2 children with another woman and did not get married. he was always and remains a very involved father without having to have married the children's mother. He went to court to establish paternity and get his legal rights as a father,then did as much as he could without living in the same home. We now have custody of both the boys. They are happy, are high honor role and active in sports. They are in contact with their mother as much as she wants and they want. They are now 15 and 13. In can work. Don't feel you have to be married for the children. In will not work in the long run. Do what is in your heart. You can be just as good a parent no matter what if you are dedicated enough.

Answer 10

That is the WORST thing you can do. NEVER marry someone just because they are pregnant. You are setting yourself up for disaster. I know from personal experience. Ask yourself, " Would I marry this person right now if they WERE NOT pregnant?" If the answer is no, don't do it.