On tuesday this week a got a call from my husband and I told him that I did something that I feel was good for the family, I did not spend money I told him that I ask for advise to somebody because I need to know why our life is going up and down, we have done this together before and he never got mad, when I told him that I did it by myself and that this person told me to get close to God and everything in my life will change, he started telling me ....... so I hang up and since then we havent talk, we are in the same house, same bed, but we dont talk, dont even look each other and he does not even try to tell me nothing, what do I do, I dont feel I can be the first to start a conversation, I always do it and I dont want to do it this time
2007-04-20 16:56:01 · 10 answers · asked by mercedes c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is your husband...for better or worse & all that jazz.
Just speak up, get the conversation going, who cares who starts it so long as it is started!! I would think that if you being the one to start it all the time, then that is the way things are, so go for it ;o)
Be sure to say straight up that if he goes on a rant & rave about it, without listening to your side of things, then you are just going to walk away from the conversation & bring it up again at another time. You cant leave things unresolved or they will come back later.
Rise above & just talk with him. He might not know how to start the topic.
2007-04-20 17:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Currently it seems your Husband has taken on board the issues raised in your marriage, since he is at least telling you what is going on. However, there is always an outside chance he is not revealing all, rather just 'keeping you happy', so as not to feel guilty about his association. You might need to keep a tight 'reign' on him, and watch for changes in his behaviour. Realistically, you should be confronting him about his contact with the female, and why he is so involved. Your reference to him being called "honey" may just be a figure of speech used by some, as is the word "love" which is often used without any significance.
2016-05-20 01:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can talk first. Men have poor verbal skills when emotions are involved. You can just tell him you're sorry he got offended when you didn't expect him to. Reassure him you didn't go behind his back, you told him what you'd done and you wouldn't have done it if you had thought it would upset him. Tell him you are just wanting to make your marriage even better because you love him and don't want to have problems. Ask him what you can do to make him feel better. Make sure you tell him how sad you feel when you upset him.
2007-04-20 17:10:42 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is angry with you because you let somebody else know his and your private business. You can try talking to him, but I think it will take a while for him to get over the embarrassment. He will come around. Just give it time.
2007-04-20 17:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by Betty S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either wait and see how long it takes for one of you to start talking, or be the wife and talk. A lot of men don't want to admit to being wrong and over reacting.
Ask him if he will go to marriage counseling with you. Talk to a preacher or marriage counselor without him if he won't go with you.
Tell him I feel... and if you love him tell him that too.
If you are sorry about the tension, tell him you are sorry about the tension and that he got mad, would he like to talk about it, and explain things with you.
2007-04-20 17:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by Desyra 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would love to help you but as far as I know you are just acting like children and givng one another the silent treatment. I dont understand the real problem.
Regardless, swallow your pride and talk to him. This will get you no where.
2007-04-20 17:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is more important to you... your marriage or your ego? I'm not saying to run and apologize. Just talk!! You got married because you love each other, talk to your husband...
2007-04-20 17:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't like you talking to that person.
2007-04-20 20:44:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick to your guns, girl....it gets old having to always be the one to make up...really old fast.
2007-04-20 17:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to talk with a priest
2007-04-20 17:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by jette n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋