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2007-04-20 16:47:26 · 18 answers · asked by Ajay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Friends as singles is one thing and friends as a married person is another. There are certain boundries that exist and those should be honored because of the love and respect you have for your spouse. As one person here said. Working together fine, drinks after, NO. If you were single, drinks wouldn't be an issue. See what I mean?
2007-04-20 20:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by califdreamer_2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would hate to think that I could not have a friendship with half the people on the planet just because they were of the opposite sex. How silly! My mother died when I was a baby and I was raised by a wonderful daddy, uncle and grandfather. I was their shadow and grew up enjoying hunting, camping, fishing, and other outdoor sports. I've always gotten along well with men and have had several very close friends. It's a matter of never crossing the line between friend and lover. That won't work!
2007-04-20 17:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think it is fine for a married couple to have friends of the opposite sex.
I think it is healthy for people to develop healthy friendship with the opposite sex for personal development. If both men and women would spend more time together as friends with the opposite sex they would tend to better equipped to handle relationship issues. If you can't trust you partner to be around the opposite sex then you need to find a trustworthy mate.
The gambit of answers you will get on this question will depend on cultural background and personal issues. If you are a jealous individual then your response will be absolutely not.
2007-04-20 16:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be no problem with a husband or wife having friends of the opposite sex. As long as it's just friendship then there is no reason to have a problem with it.
2007-04-20 16:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by WI Wedding Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely,I don't see why not.My husband and I both have friends of the opposite sex.Trust is the basis of a relationship and having a friend of the opposite sex shouldn't be frowned upon.However I don't believe a married person should be alone with a person of the opposite sex.
2007-04-20 16:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No. It is not okay if your spouse lets you know that they are hurt by it. Although,some married people in France for example, have no problems being married and having other relationships or friendships of opposite sex.
Sometimes it is a person's insecurity or fear of losing them, because they might have done the same be what is truly bothering them.
2007-04-20 16:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by Vee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say no. This is because of the sexual tension that is always present between men and women. You might say that it does not exist, but it does. Any time a man and woman has any kind of relationship, there is always that little bit of attraction. There is always that "what if" in the back of the minds of both parties. That wondering of what might be? I have been married for 9 years and with the same woman for the last 14. I have no female friends and she has no male friends. We both are quite happy with this philosophy and believe it to be correct.
2007-04-20 17:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by asbratcher 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is this a trick question? Of course it is ok, you can be friends without having sex, I have some male friends and I am not even remotely attracted to them and my husband is fine with that, he has female friends he isn't attracted to also and we are not jealous of each other. I am a human being not a slave and I have the right to choose and I relish it.
2007-04-20 16:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure it is ok, so long as there is trust there & you know your partner is loyal to you. I would be seriously peeved if my man told me I had to forget about my friendships with my male friends. I would not ask him to only have male friends as opposed to female friends. The key word is 'friends' if these people arnt out to cause any drama in your relationship or try to hit on them then there shouldnt be a problem. If there is a problem, then its time to re-evaluate the relationship. You cant control someones life, it just doesnt work for anyone.
2007-04-20 17:20:38 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends. If its someone at work, keep it at work. No drinks afterwars. If its someone from your past then its fine as long as you introduce him. Otherwise you cross the line as there will always be the tiny tiny tiny seed of 'wonder' if anything is going on or will happen... You know the phrase...but i didn't mean to fall in love with him.
If you get end talking more to your friend than your husband, then your husband will feel neglected....less manly...and as if something if wrong with him...or your not attracted to him as much anymore
2007-04-20 16:55:18 · answer #10 · answered by daisy_ysiad2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋