im 18 and weve been dating for about 2 months. i know hes the one but am i too young?? oh and there is one other problem. hes been arrested over 10 times and i dont want to live a life of a criminal .
2007-04-20 16:29:55 · 35 answers · asked by speedster5118 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
1- you're too young
2- you have only known him 60 days
3- he's a loser
4- dump him
2007-04-20 16:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to take your time. Two months is not near long enough to really learn about each other.
Wow arrested 10 times? That is an awful lot of times. I would think an intelligent person would have learned after the first time that life as a criminal is not the life to have. I'm sure this has really impacted his ability to find a good paying job. So if you don't want that kind of life why are you with him at all?
If you have doubts then no, you shouldn't marry at this time. Do not cave to pressure to give him an answer or to go ahead and marry.
You might tell him while you are fond of him you don't feel that it is the right time for you personally to get married.
Good Luck
2007-04-20 16:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by The Queen Has Spoken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two months is not really a long time...but I know people who have been married for about 50 years and have dated for as long as you both have. The only thing about it is... he has been arrested 10 times. He does not sound like a responsible individual. How will he support you? How are you both going to live if he cannot find a job because of his criminal record? My advice is to date him for a while longer. Go to college...get a good education! You may be a good influence on him and later in life he might see the error in his ways.
2007-04-20 16:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by omorris1978 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back down, you are too young. Has your family ever been arrested. Don't invite this into your life. You've given this man two very good months, and now he wants the rest, for his type of life. You will be throwing your life away, and your childrens. Get out of this now, beg off. Go stay with relatives, incommunicado. You did have some type of fling, how do you feel knowing he is this type? Aren't you frightened for your very life? If he brought weapons, drugs, or stolen goods into your home, you can be arrested also, and sent to prison. You will then have a record at age 18 or so. Say goodbye, and go to school, where you can meet many young men just as satisfying as this, with much more to share with you in many ways.
Your self esteem is too low, seek counseling.
2007-04-20 16:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, seeing as how hes been arrested over 10 times, it wouldn't be a good idea to jump into marriage with someone like that right away. Sit back, relax, and take the relationship step by step. Don't take the giant leap into marriage yet. Wait until you get to know him better. I have a girlfriend of 2 years right now and even though we talk everyday, we still occasionally learn things about eachother we never knew. You might think you know him well, or somewhat well, but chances are there are many things you have yet to find out. Just do like I said and take it slow specially in this case. Hope my advice helps you and good luck in the future. :)
2007-04-20 16:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by System 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...two months? Don't you think this is pushing it? I know you 'know' he's the one, but how many others have you dated? Do you know what lies outside your town - or this relationship for that matter? Have you considered other matters like...do you share the same religious beliefs...do you share the same type of long term goals (in 30 years, does he want to travel alot and you want to settle down, for example?)...do you both want to have children...can you accept his history and can he accept yours. My point is, this is probably one of the biggest decisions of your life. I would consider LONG AND HARD and not take the advice of random people on the internet (i.e., Yahoo Answers) and consult your friends, family, but most importantly, yourself. This decision will be one you'll have to live with for a very long time so its best that you sit on it for awhile. Don't let him pressure you for an answer ON HIS TIMETABLE...this affects you just as much (if not more) than him. I wish you all the luck in the world and hope you make a wise choice. :-)
2007-04-20 16:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by KiWi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no and RUN!
The guy is a criminal and will do nothing but bring you down. You're young and have your whole life ahead of you. Dump him and find someone more respectable and with goals in life other than ending up in prison. Focus on your education and making life better for you. You'll be glad you did in the end.
2007-04-20 16:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that you are to young,i was 16 teen when i had my first child and got married i have been married 23 years. but i agree with you if he has that long of a record i think you need to find someone better,because you will end up going down that road with him and if that is not something you are not willing to do get out now. 2 months is not a long time either i know you should not care what people think but this is not a road you want to go down.
2007-04-20 16:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by attitude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLOOOOO---you answered your own question---and you know him a whole 2 months--what a sweet deal....arrested 10 times??? what a guy----are you really going to tell me that THIS is your idea of a boyfriend?? If you insist on considering this Romeo as a boyfriend, marry him--they don't come any lower than him......get him before some guy in prison claims him.
2007-04-20 16:35:44 · answer #9 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i say this married is a good thing ,if you find the right one, but! it a big step,,, take time an think,,,an then when you sure of what you want go for it, yes 18 is young, an his past , got to be look at, now is he willing to change?,, an take on the right to have a wife, to love you, to care for you,,,to be willing to give up his old way of life,,,,You know a person ,can change, but you need to know for sure,it dont cost much to get married, but it cost a lot to undo, it,,,,,, i see you a smarted person, so i sure you do the right thing
2007-04-21 02:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta tell him NO!!!!! 2 months, wait a little while, get to know each other. Tell him to clean up his act first. If he does then good, if not then let him go. I got married at 19, we've been together for almost 8 years, but we agree that we should've waited. We had a lot of problems at first. Take your time, there is no rush.
2007-04-20 16:35:47 · answer #11 · answered by CHICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋