Help! 71 y.o. and I want out of 3rd marriage--he's self-absorbed, emotional abuse, condescding, I'm a maid to him, to his family and friends who constantly visit and come first in his mind. He never considers me. I have to pay my own way--never any gifts, flowers or anything. I feel like a nothing here. 1st marriage abusive, serial cheating for 40 years---second marriage jealous, controlling, rages. I really know how to pick 'em!!! I ache to spend the rest of my life in peace and solidute. I've had all of the unhappiness and pain I can stand. How do I get out--ASAP??????
2007-04-20 16:11:38 · 13 answers · asked by rb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Enough is enough. Believe it, and act upon it.
2007-04-20 16:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How? Easy, get a lawyer and file for divorce.
Expensive maybe, but not hard to do. But I have to ask, how do you deal with being single? You've picked three real winners so either your judgement is completely screwy, or you get lonely and grab the first guy that comes along.
If it's the latter, you need to plan for that, don't let yourself get lonely. Or at least if you do, find a person you don't have to marry.
Your other option is to stand up for yourself and set limits to what you'll do, or tolerate. If he doesn't accept that and tries to force you back into a subservient role, then back to plan A.
2007-04-20 16:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has insurance, you'd be better off killing him and hiding the body. If you're a maid, then you probably know how to work a broom. So beat the living sh*t out of him with that thing until he kicks it. Then, call AllState and tell them you just can't find your husband. They'll send you a check in 3 or 4 weeks, and then you can go buy flowers or something nice to make yourself feel better.
Just to answer your inevitable question--no, I'm not the smartest person ever...but I did stay at a Holiday Inn Express last night.
2007-04-20 16:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Divorce, don't spend anymore time being unhappy. Think about you and your happiness not someone else. Call a divorce lawyer or go online for your state to get info on filing divorce in your state. I'm 41 and i know what your going through but i will not marry for a third time.
2007-04-20 16:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by jennylo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 71 it definitely IS time for you to spend the rest of our life in peace and solitude. . . . If you are "paying your own way" now then just pick yourself up and move out - get a divorce and for Heaven's Sake DON'T GET MARRIED AGAIN! live your live in solo bliss!
2007-04-20 17:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by cleesurrey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should live and let live. Gay marriage does not effect anyone unless you let it bother you and there is no reason why it should. I know the argument about marriage being between a man and a women. But remember when blacks had to sit on the back of the bus. What I am saying is that things change in life and we have to accept change.
2016-05-20 00:43:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bravo to you for being strong and saying ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! I am 47....but I have been in and am in the same kind of thing. It is painful as hell. If you want out do it! Otherwise the only answer is counseling. You are not old. You have a chance to enjoy your life and, if you want to, even find someone worth it! Good luck and God bless your courage!
2007-04-20 16:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have already stated what you feel so the next step is take action. Every human no matter what age deserves to know what love is and how when you're being loved should feel. Move on, why are you still hanging around.
2007-04-20 16:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by CeCe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you pick the winners.
If you want out, get out. But why would you marry someone who is self-absorbed in the first place.
2007-04-20 16:15:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him right away. Then go to the Eharmony dating site, it really works and sets you up with a guy that is good for you.
2007-04-20 16:17:53 · answer #10 · answered by salamandar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now is the time to get involved with good women at church, I mean a solid biblical church, do good deeds for others, visit the sick, make your life meaningful, happiness doesn't come from a man's attention or his gifts. the smart lady gets busy-
2007-04-20 16:18:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋