I hold everything in. Whenever I'm having the worst day, I put a smile on and act like everything's alright. Practically no one can tell. It's not that obvious.
Everyone thinks I have a good home life, but the fact is, well, I love my parents, but I almost never get along with them and everyone annoys everyone else without realizing it. And I act really hyper and excited or stuff like that to cover it up.
My dad's been depressed for 5 years and I'm only 15. Dad's stressed all the time. Mom's busy. I can't talk to them on the same level without getting mad or critical, etc...
Whenever I do something wrong, they practically choke to death because they're drowning in debt.... and mom doesn't trust me.
Should I stop covering it up or keep on hiding it?
2007-04-20 16:03:29 · 13 answers · asked by ×ithurtsogoodØ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Open up to the people you trust. People who will take you seriously.
Then you might find that you are not alone and will receive support.
Keepind things bottled up inside will just eat you up..you will eventually get sick of putting up a front. Maybe...maybe..in the long term if things get too bad, you will either break down mentally or physically.
You have opened up here..do it in the outside world and you might find lots of other people coming out of their closets too and sharing their own experiences with you...and you might do them a favour as well you know..
There is no shame to bear..........but you want to keep up a front.
If you keep all those tormenting things inside you , they will foster and get worse. Will not be good either for you or anybody else for that matter.
But careful who you talk to about.....be selective..trust your instinct and please open up. You will feel liberated, not that out of the ordinary afterall......and gain some good support friends who might actually enjoy that "ear" of yours to share their own predicaments that they keep inside too..
You are just human...do you think it is all paradise out there ???:-).
People will go to such great lengths to seemingly appear "normal"..what is normal ??? Have yet to meet a person /family/environment which ressembles a Hollywood movie you know..
Good luck !
2007-04-20 16:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi mate.
Just remember a few things.
1) There's always a person that's worse off than yourself.
2) Depression is a thing of the mind, which means that any counselling and/or friends who support your father would be great.
3) Your mom is working for you guys. You need to give her space. Talk to her when she's relaxed!
4) Your friends are the most important things you have!! Reveal everything and you will receive support you never think you had!
Hope everything works out ok!
2007-04-20 23:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by The Reaper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough.
Reveal your life to the people you know you can trust. The people you know that pretty much have your back and would understand you the most.
Don't keep everything inside. Let it out somehow. Whether it's through kick boxing, writing, running-or whatever. It's hard, I know. I also hold everything in too. Then sometimes I overwelm myself and make myself go crazy. Holding everything in makes things worse, is what I'm trying to say. Even though I'm guilty of it. We all are...at some point in our lives.
Have you considered trying to tackle some of the things in your life. Like do you think talking out things with your parents would help your relationship with them? Do you think counseling could help? If you want, you could try to fix stuff. But if you don't feel up to it, don't do it. Do what you feel.
'Hope I helped!
2007-04-20 23:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to vent some of your feelings because it is obviously getting very hard of you. It is not good on a person to keep everything bottled within themselves. Find a real close friend that you can confide in and trust or maybe go and see your guidance counselor at school or the minister of your church. Do you have a local group where teens can go to talk with others your age that have problems similiar to yours? No matter who you choose to talk to you must do it before it causes you to be depressed or affects you physically.
2007-04-20 23:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by susie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying to talk to your parents since they are supposed to be there for you. Try letting them know how much you are hurting. They can't help you if they don't know how you really feel, no one can. If that doesn't work or you feel that you cant' do it then try a counselor at school, they can usually tell you where you can get some real help. It sounds some family counseling would be very beneficial to you guys. Good luck.
2007-04-20 23:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by Brwneyz1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's what you friends are there for but what you can do is tell each one of them something diff rent and tell them to keep it a secret but don't get into much detail this is just really a test to see if you can trust that they will hold your info near and dear before the major stuff comes out and is all over town....wait a little while a few days dont bumbard them all at once but little by little let it out it's really not good to keep stuff in no matter how old you are....
2007-04-20 23:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by limo2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have bestfriends,trust me,the most hateful thing to do is cheating on them.but you dont want the whole world know it,either.so,if you think that you cannot bear it anymore you can share it with friends that you trust the most.and make sure their lips are sealed.if not,better keep it to yourself.but you know,even if the whole world know about it,it's not something to be ashamed of.at least you still have a home and yourself.everyone has their own problems too right.so,if you keep the optimistic and cheerful side of yourself aroused,i think it's not a big deal after all.
2007-04-20 23:14:15 · answer #7 · answered by shizuka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most kids have the same problems but it does make you feel better to talk about it. When I was young and at home it was pure HELL sometimes, but when I finally talked it over with my friends, they all had their own horror stories too! Their families were just as disfunctional as mine! Made me feel a lot better and we'd laugh about each others lives. Sad to say one day you will look back on these days as "the good ole days" no kidding!!! sorry! lol
2007-04-20 23:11:04 · answer #8 · answered by CJ SWEETNESS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Donte hide yorself away.You must tell anyone yes tell everyone and stop bottling up frustrations or yu might end up being another gun toting murderous,suicidal lunatic. You hav nothing to be ashamed ov.You must stop making a hill from a mound.Or a mountain from a mole hill.
2007-04-20 23:34:04 · answer #9 · answered by zyp_john 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you're looking for someone to reach out to. Confide in a friend. Pick someone you trust to keep it to themself if you want them to.
You're obviously feeling burdened and need someone to share the load with. Good luck.
2007-04-20 23:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋