him,he put me through so much, in the time that we have been together,last sommer,he just up & left,to go spend 3 days with his x wife,because of that we lost our power,now that he has had his heart attack,i feel that if i live him,people in our small town,will think bad of me.
2007-04-20 15:26:00 · 15 answers · asked by mo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to live your own life. You need to concentrate on your happiness. The key word here: YOU YOU YOU. Who cares what everyone will think of you. You never know. . . .they may all think you are nuts for taking care of him after what he did to you. We all have to pay for our mistakes, let him pay for his own.
2007-04-20 15:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK this happened to my poor mum. My mum is a wonderful person but after 25yrs of dad tarting around with other women she had enough and left and then dad got throat cancer and was dying. That wonderful women came back nursed him through it and then he died.However not many people would do it especially when they have been hurt so bad.My advice is nurse the pig back to health and when hes better leave him and go have a happy life (in time you will).Ask his Dr how long before he would be recovered.Don't take any more crap from him though if he starts being to nasty to you ring his ex wife and get her to nurse him and leave town move right away and then you wont hear any of the gossip anyway.Unless the close contact with death has changed his bad attitude towards you if so great. I wish you all the best and keep your chin up happy future to you.
2007-04-20 15:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have left as soon as you found out about him spending 3 days with his ex. If you don't love him and were going to leave him anyway, leave. Sorry about his heart attack but there are nursing homes he can stay at until he recovers enough to fend for himself again. Or he can ask his ex to come take care of him. Don't feel guilty because you didn't cause it and you don't owe him anything. But people are going to talk, might as well get used to that because the alternative is staying with this man that you no longer want to be with. If the good opinion of the towns people is more important to you, then stay with him and suffer. Those are your choices.
2007-04-20 15:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by Inundated in SF 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You poor woman. Sweetie, first and foremost, always think of your happiness. It's obvious from what you stated that you have been putting yourself last. Time to break that habit. There's only one person in this entire world that you have to live with forever, and that person looks back at you when you look into a mirror. As women we learn to be martyrs, but it's a lonely empty existence. Don't be a martyr. Think of yourself for a change. Forget what other people will think. It's none of their business. That's another problem we women contend with, always worrying what someone else will think of us. Would he stay with you if the shoe was on the other foot? Hey, forget that, it really doesn't matter. You know that you deserve to be happy, or you wouldn't have felt compelled to ask this community what we think. Please, do what's best for you, leave him and be happy. I'll say a prayer for you.
2007-04-20 15:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me very carefully for i have been in this situation. Leave him now. He is weak, and needs help because men are helpless when they are sick. You will do everything for him, and the morning he wakes up and is all better...he will go back to his ex. End it now. Before anything else happens. You will not be a bad person if you do this. Who cares what others think. Your happiness is in your hands, not in other people's hands. Good luck..Trust me you need one...Once a cheater always a cheater. You deserve better
2007-04-20 15:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by Future Mrs. Hamlet 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i understand your husband o.k. - u only annoy him very lots. it is not your fault. there re forms of persons which might annoy u devoid of reason. they're going to take a seat there and be silent and it on my own can annoy u. for strangers u could have self administration and block it. yet with the only which u work together on on a daily basis foundation u can no longer block it all the time. so u the two yell all the time and be aggravated or u bottle it in and then faster or later it gets out in this variety of this undesirable arguing u have which comprise your husband. it is not your fault, u do no longer do something incorrect. u only annoy him very lots and there is not any longer something any of u can do. the sole appropriate determination for u is to bypass away him and discover somebody who will love u for what u re and each circulate of yours will excite him. regardless of if u wander off and decrease to rubble each thing this guy could have compassion for u, no longer anger. additionally with that time of self administration i certainly ask your self how can your husband be in a militia.
2016-10-03 08:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he left you once to live with the ex, why in the world should you worry about him? It seems at one time his concern wasn't about his marriage. but his own needs and wants. You did your part by staying right after the heart attack, don't worry about what people say because someone will always have something mean to talk about.
2007-04-20 15:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to stop worrying what other people think. If things are not right, you need to do what is right for you. No one else is living with him. He shouldn't have spend days with his x-wife leaving you. Best of luck.
2007-04-20 15:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by cheoli 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about what other people think and do what's best for you. He didn't stop to think about you when he went running off to the ex. Let her take care of him. It sounds like they deserve each other. Tell her she can have him.
2007-04-20 15:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by skippa_10 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the small town. Why isn't his ex taking care of him?
2007-04-20 15:34:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋