Between ages 8-14, there were 3 instances when I resorted to stealing- all school-related. At 8 I stole food from people's lunches. When I was 12, I stole money from a girl's backpack. This is what I'm most ashamed about. I got caught right away, too. I didn't know/ have time to figure out how much money I took - it was a lot of ones and fives, was actually 40 dollars, which I think is a relatively large amount, especially for a kid. Again, some years pass without incident and I stole some dolls from a girl when I was about 14. That was the last time I did anything, and am an adult now. I have not continued this into adulthood at all, period. I still don't know why I resorted to stealing in these instances, I did not need the money, food, etc. I connect it with being very shy as a kid, never standing up for myself, and doing it was a way to act out or "get back". I definitely learned my lesson, but I still feel a lot of shame when I look back at these experiences......
2007-04-20 14:49:34 · 9 answers · asked by Jen1943 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Don't worry about it. Whats in the past, is in the past. You don't do it now so thats all that matters.
We all have things we are ashamed of. As long as you learn from it, then you have benefitted from the experience.
2007-04-20 14:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never stolen anything in my life, but I have done things that I regret. And to others it sounds so stupid that I even remember them, but when they cross my mind I still kick myself. Unfortunately I have a very good memory, especially for this kind of thing.
So you could say I have never forgiven myself, but when I think about it that is OK with me as long as I put it into the right prospective.
I personally think people are responsible for whatever they do, and I try my best to make it right. The ones that really stick with me are the ones where that isn't really possible, but I live with it because I realize two important things. First off there is a saying the crime should fit the punishment. Well clearly you have been punished enough, and it is time to understand that, and understand the true effect of the crime. The people that you committed these crimes against most likely have forgotten them long ago. That is the really measure and you should use it too. The second part is to understand that these things like all your experiences in life have made you what you are. You are a better person now because you have learned from these things, and they will always be there to remind you that you now know right from wrong, and you can be proud of yourself, others might have done the same things and learned nothing. There should be no shame it learning this.
2007-04-20 19:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by Bulk O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must learn to forgive yourself for the things you did in the past. The past is over, you can't go back and change things you did. You did learn a good lesson from it though and changed your ways. Now you should be proud of the adult you've become and not let the child you once were get in the way of living today. Let go of the guilt and look at what you have to be proud of in your life.
2007-04-20 15:01:01 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone does stupid things as a kid. Don't dwell on them. If it makes you feel better, think about what the ones you stole from probably say. "When I was in middle school, this jerk tried to steal money from me! It was, like, forty bucks!" Her friend says "Let it go, it was, like, a million years ago. And what about when you did that awful thing....?" Nobody went through childhood without doing something mean to someone else. Things balance out, though, and nobody was terribly hurt by your actions so long ago. Don't worry.
2007-04-20 14:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
U haven't learned the lesson or else U wouldn't be asking this question....Dude...get over it.....Karma caught up with you and U can't handle it....If there is any lesson to learn its compassion for yourself and others that are the way U used to be.......don't judge them and you yourself will not be judged........Its all about COMPASSION.....the real meaning of what JC was trying to convey....The past is a teacher and until U know the lesson and can pass the test U will keep getting left back having to live the same cycle over and over....remaining in Hell.........We are already living in Heaven or Hell....the choice is up to us.
2007-04-20 15:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by macrominded 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
saying i'm sorry is wisely and solid. you payed on your mistake. what can make you sense extra helpful is to donate some time with the salvation military. they continuously desire help from human beings. they are quite a superb position that could assist you. get as many toys as you are able to out of your heart to a needy kinfolk that you comprehend needs help. pretend to be Santa and go away a bag of toys and coats and nutrition for some one which needs it. save going contained in the right route on being drug free. the perfect severe is to furnish time and help to others.
2016-10-18 02:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you could forgive yourself easily, you would not be looking to us for suggestions.
You stole something from helpless children, so that is who you should make your ammends to. Please choose a children's charity (such as the one listed below) and send them a donation for at least $200. It can be any charity involving children that you feel is worthy. Do this every year until your sense of guilt has eased.
2007-04-20 15:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should see a therapist. You were naive, you made mistakes.. We all do. Remember that.
2007-04-20 15:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by regina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you jsut have to let it go. Forgive yourself. You were a kid.
2007-04-20 14:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by CashCountry17 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋