I have a question...OK, so you all know what Myspace is right? So here it is...my boyfriend has just started a Myspace account. I didn't mind. I have one too; I use it to talk to old and new friends. I have never ever said the things he has said on there. So this is where the question comes in.Is this a form of cheating? I have some bits and pieces of messages he has sent to ex-girlfriends and here they are...You and I really hit it off in Mexico. It's too bad we didn't get to hang around much after that. You were cool.
You pretty much look the same. Good job. I'd imagine ballet doesn't really allow you to each ribs and pizza too often.
Yeah. I feel guilty for teasing you in eight grade, but know that some of it was flirting. You were cute and smart and moody.
So, either way, we need to have lunch in your city or my city in the near term.
I was talking to ** and he said you're hotter now than before. I'm dying to see current pictures of you.
(messages to 3 diff. girls)
2007-04-20 13:00:51 · 17 answers · asked by caligrlntxs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry, myspace is a joke.
2007-04-20 13:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to be cheating for it to be wrong. I mean if he verbally, mentally, or physically abused you that would be grounds for 'GOODBYE' as well. If it feels wrong it is, even if it isn't (do you get me, I tend to be confusing sometimes). Everyone's truth is different. What I mean is, the truth is just as much what you really believe, even if it's not fact, cause it's the only thing you have to go on when the facts cannot be proven. Like religion. If you believe it, it may as well be true, as long as you don't have any proof otherwise. Go with your gut feeling. There's a reason you were given the gift of instinct in the first place, use it. The problem is you're probably afraid of making a mistake. If you're wrong, hey you learn. It seems you know what to do. Only you know yourself best & what you're willing to put up with. Even if the boundaries are you don't like the way he talks to other girls. He will either comply or not. If he doesn't, maybe someone else will do a better job @ it. I mean, I'm sure he has his boundaries & plenty of requests, doesn't he? If you ask me what my truth would be, he doesn't have good intentions. I will believe that until proven wrong. Just like I believe in God. If I'm wrong, Oh well. Good-luck.
2007-04-20 13:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by gess h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know people on here will tell you to trust him and its just myspace but WOW WHAT AN IDIOT. He sounds like a total future cheater! Ask yourself this : do u think if he bumped into one of these girls would he try to get in their pants? If you think yes then dump this fool and find a real man. I personally believe if a guy truly loves you he would never say such things to other females.
For Laura B - okay men relive their past wutever in their mind but he is talking about meeting up with them in the present. Totally different.
2007-04-20 13:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by KungFu Ninja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he's not really cheating, but he's not ready for marriage, that's for certain. In my opinion what makes this cross the line from harmless flirting is the comments about her having a hot body and wanting to meet for lunch, that's just going a bit too far for someone supposedly in a committed relationship.
2007-04-20 13:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you're in this position. Whether or not his comments are a fom of cheating, they are a form of disrespecting you, and if it makes you feel uncomfortable, it's worth a discussion. If you use the "if it were me" test, I woud guss that, if it were you, he'd feel disrespected if people saw you posting flirty messages and organizing lunch dates while he was your boyfriend. Personally, I do not sweep these things under the rug. I calmly point it out (I would not, however, accuse him of anything he has not yet done, i.e. anything further than these posts, so you probably shouldn't say the word "cheating"), and usually gain some respect out of it. Good luck.
2007-04-20 13:18:29 · answer #5 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though he may not be cheating yet, he is certainly attempting to. In addition, any behavior from him that is causing you to feel insecure in the relationship is not loving. Sit him down and have a talk with him. If you are calm and let him feel at ease to tell the truth, maybe you will get some answers as to why he feels he needs to search elsewhere for his needs to be met.
2007-04-20 14:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like to relive past loves in their minds. From what you put in the question none of it sounds very bad. He is just talking with some old friends and there is nothing wrong with that. It is hard for any of us to realize that the people we are in relationships with actually have had lives before us. He is just remembering his previousl life. Don't make it a big deal and it won't be.
2007-04-20 13:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by Laura B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know myspace is a easier place to hook up then a dating site? And it sounds like the hubby is making plans to meet a hot ex GF...not very good
2007-04-20 13:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i think of that each and anybody the time...it is so confusing to absolutely have faith somebody, fantastically in case you have been injury in the previous by potential of a cheater. 2 of my maximum extreme ex-boyfriends cheated on me, one with a woman and one with a guy....and after listening to all the memories of my acquaintances being cheated on, cheating on their fans themselves and listening to on right here how maximum of have cheated and been cheated on, that is confusing to have self belief that there nonetheless are unswerving human beings available... i in my view think of it comes right down to an lack of self belief ingredient, because of the fact if human beings can not dedicate to a minimum of one individual...that's telling you some thing. each and every so often my bestest bestest pal and that i communicate approximately how she and that i could date, because of the fact we've the two been cheated on and we the way it feels and we'd by no potential cheat on one yet another, yet regrettably i don't sense for her the way i've got self belief for adult males. that is going to take me an prolonged time to absolutely fall in love and have faith some one returned and that i basically desire the subsequent guy I date is affected person adequate to wait for me...
2016-10-13 01:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's prowling around, apparently looking for a little sumpin'-sumpin'.
You're going through his account to find evidence.
There's no respect on his side, and no trust on yours. Cheating or not, does this sound like a healthy long term relationship to you?
2007-04-20 13:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by mafiacarstarter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many people have broken up because of internet cheating.dont be stupid if you love him talk to him if he loves you he will understand when you ask him to no longer chat with his exes or you can get in line and be the next ex.its up to you but dont put up with a liar or a cheat life is too short.good luck.
2007-04-20 13:14:23 · answer #11 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋