Whenever I'm listening to a song I like, I can envision almost exactly like a film of how I would dance to each beat/part/etc. That just sort of happens naturally with any song I'm enjoying. It would be nice if I could dance like what I'm envisioning in my head, however, there are two problems.
The main problem is being self conscious. Back in the day, when I was younger and didn't care about what anyone else thought, I remember being complimented on my dancing and many people were quite surprised to see that I was such a good dancer because I was very shy. But now, and I'm older, I'm more aware of myself. How do I just "let go" and move with the music like I want to?
Secondly, I'm finding it hard to move fast enough for some beats. Any tips on what to do in this occasion or just dancing in general?
2007-04-20 12:47:48 · 11 answers · asked by __ 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Dancing
Wow..these are all such good answers.
2007-04-21 08:41:08 · update #1
I would try to get more into the experience of moving your body and listening to the music. The more you do that, the less your brain will be focused on worrying about your appearance and what other think of you.
Focus on the texture and feel of the music, exactly how your body feels as you dance, emotions that you notice (without judging them). When your brain inevitably goes to wondering how you appear, just notice your thought going there, and focus on your present experiences instead. This isn't just useful for dancing, but for daily life as well.
As far as the fast beat, when it gets to fast for me, I slow down to half time. Instead of moving with each beat, move with every other.
You can also remind yourself that most people aren't there to evaluate other people's dancing.
If you experiment with my suggestions, I wouldn't be surprised if your self-consciousness became much less of an issue.
Lots of people use alcohol or other substances to reduce self-consciousness. The problem with that is that then you always need to substance to feel comfortable.
Enjoy
2007-04-20 12:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I'm a dancer, and I can never dance as well as I do in my imagination :-) and it's not because I'm shy. Your imagination always *should* be ahead of your abilities, this is normal. It sounds to me that you are criticizing yourself for not being able to dance as perfectly as you envision yourself. This is what usually comes with age. But hey, what changed? Why care now what other people think if you didn't care back in the days? Hopefully, by now you have better social status and you actually have less not more to worry about. Just give it a try, move with music the way you want to, play music in your room whenever you have a chance. You will find yourself dancing as you walk, and the whole thing will become a lot more natural to you. And it doesn't have to be perfect. :-)
As for being slow - speed comes with practice. This is very general question because you don't say what steps or perhaps style you're dancing. If it involves steps - make smaller steps, you will be faster.
2007-04-20 12:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Desensitize by doing it. But rather than jump in the deep end of the pool, start back small. Maybe take a few lessons. The crowd will be considerably smaller in a studio, and the rest will not be watching you anyway. Later you can try some small clubs and work your way back into it slowly. While you're at it, the practice will make you better and add to your confidence. As to the speed, again practice may help, but I too find myself choosing not to do some of the more athletic patterns I might have done in the past. Sorry, if I find the fountain of youth, I'll be drinking from it myself, and you'll just have to queue up behind me!
2007-04-20 14:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love the thrill of imagining good choreography, and picturing every single dance step in my head...however, I can't dance nearly as well as I dream. Do NOT let that bring you down! It is totally naturally! We can all imagine a beautiful masterpiece in our head, its just a matter of slow progression as we develop that masterpiece into a reality. Try to do some warm ups before you begin dancing..it'll loosen you up. Secondly, stop focusing on everyone else, and just dance. Dance at an impulse! Let yourself go! When you hold back, that is when you become self-concious.
Oh, and lastly. If you can't dance fast enough, don't try to be completely on beat. Slow down your pace and see if it still flows with the music. =]
Goodluck~
2007-04-20 15:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Elle ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problems. When I dance, I've found that if I just let go and go into another place in my head. It's so much easier to let loose and just dance.
When working with fast beats to get better listen to the song(s) a few times; and just feel the beat. and once you get the coreography, do the dance in small parts/phrases at a time and gradually work up. It really helps me.
Hope my advice helps...
=] good luck with your dancing in the future!
2007-04-20 14:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by Ada-Broadway-Babe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh the love of dance!!! It is understandable that as we get older we become afraid of making a full out of ourselfs. But why is it that we dance? We dance for others? No it is because we love to dance. Don't worry about what others are doing and wrap yourself up in something you enjoy. A good partner helps. I am a guy who knows how to dance, not perfect but I love to dance with the ladies. I also hear a lot of other guys tell me that guys don't dance. I feel sorry for those guys because that means more female dance partners for me LOL. Hope you find the love of dancing to be more important than someone elses critizism. If someone has nothing better to do with their life than to worry about how you are doing then they really don't have a life.
2007-04-20 13:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by Sergeant 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-19 23:45:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That just means you have a pretty low self esteem so you dont want others to see you break that dance because you are scared of criticizing. So you should create a goal for yourself to be more positive, loving yourself unconditionally. As for the fast pace, practice, practice, practice. Thats how anyone can succeed.
2007-04-20 18:13:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg i had the same problem. just dont let your emotions overcome you. just dance your heart out and be free from all self consiousness (sp?)
sometimes, people just arent built for fast moving songs and movement, so do what you can, and w/ practice and as you know the dance or whatever better then you can work w/ the speed.
back to the self concious part: if you want to dance, then dance. just pretend you are the only one there and just let it out! you will do fine.
best of luck!
-sarah
2007-04-20 12:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im like yu too, very shy but i get compliemented a lot on my dancing and people find it so shocking im very good because im so shy, but 1st yu need to not care what other people think, caring about other people's personal thoughts will def. pervent yu from doing the best yu possibly can and ii think getting faster in dance takes practice
2007-04-20 12:54:22 · answer #10 · answered by Wynter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋