he is married but you love him and wants to spend more time with him but you cannot because he is married.
2007-04-20 11:57:05 · 33 answers · asked by Sheriff 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't. This is a bad situation that you need to get out of immediately. This will only end badly for all involved. Find yourself someone who is willing and able to give you the respect, love, time and attention deserved. This man will never be able to fulfill your needs and you are allowing yourself to be used. I hope that you can find enough respect for yourself and his marriage and completely cut off all ties with him. You do not deserve to be second best and his wife does not deserve being cheated on. You are involved with a man with no sense of commitment or morals. As soon as he is bored with you, he will discard you as easily as he did with the commitment he made to his wife. There are plenty of decent men out there, so find yourself one.
2007-04-20 12:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by Krissi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him that much you could be in for a long wait. It could take a few years for him to be all yours even if he does decide to leave his wife. But if you are enjoying your get togethers as much as it seems keep things the way they are. It is not the best way to meet a guy but I do not know your situation so I will not judge. Remember a lot of guys love sex and will stray because of the lack of it or just for the excitement part of it and never really intend on leaving their wives. Others have a problem being alone and need the support of someone while they break up with the wife or girlfriend, simply stated they need a crutch, this works both ways too. Also this does not mean the feelings they have for you are not real but just says there are a few extra things to think about. Most of us out there do not want to be the odd spouse out but it sure seems to happen a lot. Good luck with your hope to be.
2007-04-20 12:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by Pete R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh this is a sore subject ......... you should never mess with a married man - you are hurting alot of people - you really have to think is that something that i want to be a part of - there is just nothing good that can come of this ... for one you are a secret - why would you be okay with being a secret - you are second on the list - maybe even further down the list than that - why on earth would that be okay with you. You are hurting his wife .... and yourself .... and in the end - why would want a man who can not be trusted. Has no real loyalty - and clearly cares for himself more then anyone else in his life no matter how he covers it up and hides it.
Trust me all the niceness and promises and the way he is sweeping you off his feet in order to keep you right where he wants you - is all part of the disguise - it is a cover and it will all vanish as soon as the Sh*t hits the fan.
You deserve more then that -
His wife deserves to not be put through this.
My husband cheated on me - I just served him the papers for out divorce - it ended after 11 months. He broke my heart - and she helped him do it.
2007-04-20 12:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by Angela O 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Darling, why are you giving all your time to a man who is married. No future can come from this. Always somebody gets hurt. You stated that you are barely spending time with him. Don't you see he is having his cake and eating it too? When I discovered my husband was having an affair I confronted him. I told him to choose his family or her, he chose me. I was not satisfied with just that so we drove over to her house so he could tell her to her face that it was over. She was young and naive, I told her what can a married man with a mortgage and 4 kids give her. Nothing but sex. There is no future in sex. Don't let this man use you. When you set low expectations then you will receive low expectations. Don't you feel that you deserve someone that is going to be there for you all the time and not just for a booty call? Think about what I said.
2007-04-20 12:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a single man out there. Or if she is having problems with the wife, wait until he's out of the marriage before you take things further.
Don't be lazy and just settle for somebody who is committed to other people. How do you feel about the wife? You despise her right? It's not fair for you to take something another has worked so hard to get while you are too lazy to go out and look for that same thing.
2007-04-20 13:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by boohoo101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with someone who is already taken? Why would you want to be considered a homewrecker if you mess things up between him, and his wife? Do you actually believe that if you get a married man even if he chooses to leave his wife that he wont end up leaving you also one day? How could you live with yourself knowing your the reason he could be having problems with his wife? How much could he really care about you actually being married to someone else(wouldnt it seem more like hes using you just for sex)? All things you should ask yourself before actually getting yourself into a situation like this. You should admire someone like that from afar, and never try to be with them. Move on, and find someone who isnt married, who hasnt vowed to spend his life with someone else. Everyone diserves to be happy, but how happy can you actually be with someone who is married to someone else especially knowing your feelings for him would just grow, and he could never really stay with you.
2007-04-20 12:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't because that makes you an adultress. Besides he probably is never going to leave his wife no matter what he says. If there are kids involved you can bet the farm.There are so many other people out there why would you want one who already has someone else unless you yourself have comitment issues. Try rolling the dice and see what happens with someone who is available you may find it is much better.
2007-04-20 12:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by debbie f 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not have gotten involved with a married man. Suppose he divorces his wife to marry you. Then the next girl comes along - he divorces you to marry her. What comes around goes around.
Find someone else to love (someone who's not married).
2007-04-20 12:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by theMeganEffect 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take it from a married woman who is married to the man she had an affair with while he was married to someone else. Let her keep her problems because everything that glistens isn't gold. You really need to get a grip. It's really not all that.
2007-04-20 11:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by kyle g 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sorry it don't work that way. You get hurt, the wife gets hurt, the children get hurt and your b/f, her husband gets hurt in the end. So give it up before messing with other peoples lives as well as your own. There are plenty of single men out there looking for a "Good, Honest, and Loyal woman". Do you fit in the category? Think about it.
2007-04-20 12:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by Vida 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋