after i heard about what happened a Virginia Tech i started to cry. is this normal ?

Question

i dont know any one there but everytime i think about it i get tears in my eyes mabey its because so many people died .i feel really sorry.does anyone else feel this way ?

protectyourfreedom yes i do cry for soilders who die i belive war is very wrong

its like i know everyone who died but i dont

Answer 1

Of course, it's a tragedy, and for those who don't know any better, the flags in America have all been at half-staff showing respect for the victims. And as usual, there are those who are looking to benefit from the devastation of others, looking for dispensation for what one of their mates has done. They are opportunists who are probably just like the lone gunman, and are always looking to blame other people for what they don't like about themselves. There are 32 families that are suffering needlessly because of that fellow opportunist, and they wouldn't appreciate the search for exemption that they are looking for. No one was there to protect their loved ones on Monday, no one from the perpetrator's family or mates has even offered an apology, but they want to know that they will be exempt from responsibility. Double standard people who forget that Americans are tired of being targeted and tired of being made to look like fools because we have freedom. Don't say that you're crying for the victims, cos you're crying for yourself. Selfish, just like your mate. Just know that those poor victims are not suffering and their memories will not be tainted or forgotten. You have a kind heart to be so sensitive and care so deeply for people you don't even know. I wish you safety always, and that your goodness and kindness works through you. Bless your heart.

Answer 2

Yes. It is a normal reaction.

Emotionally, it is nearly impossible to process such a horrible event. Sometimes people react in stages such as denial, anger, humor and blaming and tears. This is a normal chain of reaction to tragedy towards the acceptance of the event.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kubler-Ross_model

The Virginia Tech massacre was a horrible, horrible tragedy but in time, it will fade from public view. Only those who have suffered a personal loss will be faced with the struggle to overcome their grief and restructure their life. The survivors will suffer the tremendous loss very intently for a period of time and as they struggle to cope with their grief they will resolve it in many different ways but it will never go away, there will be triggers that bring it all back again in vivid detail.

After the reports have been filed, the investigations have been completed and the recommendations made, people will calm down and feel secure, then complacent. As more violence happens around us, we become numb, de-sensitized. We do not cry anymore.....except for those who have suffered personally become super-sensitized.

Self-help groups:
Parents of Murdered Children
Citizens against Homicide. (Members of both national groups have suffered the loss of a loved one to homicide)
Compassionate Friends is also a self-help group however it is for parents who have lost a child to any cause homicide, accidental death or disease.
http://www.pomc.com
http://www.pomc.org
http://www.murdervictims.com/CAH.html
http://www.compassionatefriends.org

Answer 3

I didn't cry, but I was really sad over it. I felt helpless and useless that I couldn't do anything to help them. When I found out that it was an Asian male, I felt inferior about myself. Because I am also an Asian male, but not of the same ethnicity as the murderer. I had fears that other people might have hateful thoughts about me. Because something like this affects a whole race group and not just one person, just like 9/11 did to the Arabic community. It's wrong that some people think that way But I was really relieved that nobody gave me any dirty looks or anything. So I felt safe again. Here's how I see it: 90% of the people in the world are good people, only 10% are bad. This statistic seems reasonable to me. I was thinking, had there been 20 courageous men come charging at him with textbooks as shields, would there have been lesser fatalities? With that many people intimidating him, the shots that he fires out of the gun wouldn't be as accurate as with the people just standing there and him shooting at point blank. Someone out of the twenty would have gotten close enough to knock the gun out of his hand or maybe knock him out with the book. How are we going to defend our nation if we let situations like these make us act like cowards, just like the 9/11 incident. Those men only had box cutters, which is not as dangerous as guns. We might have to re-enact the "Code of Chivalry" or at least be taught the legality of these situations. If there are enough eye-witnesses, somebody should at least have the right to kill him and not have any legal actions taken against them if they pursue it and successfully accomplish it before the authorities get there. That's what our government should inform us, what we can legally do and cannot do.

Answer 4

I think you are among millions of people, not just here in the US, but throughout the world who have and will shed tears. You're a compassionate and empathetic person; I cry every time I hear about it, too. You're not alone, it was a horrible tragedy. I'd venture to say that you shed tears for those lives lost in Iraq and Afghanistan, too, as millions also do.

Answer 5

You are normal. I almost cried when they where telling individual stories, such as the teacher, he was also a holocaust survivor, that tried to block a classroom door, taking many bullets. That is so sad that he survived the holocaust, only to be gunned down. He looked like such a sweet old man.

Answer 6

I wasnt crying, but I heard my mom almost went into hysterics when she heard about it cause my brother is a student at Virginia Tech.

Answer 7

it's practically normal. with events such as this, crying is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of doing. what happened was terrible, and so people have the right to grieve. okay so perhaps, you don't know people over there and that you're not a student at vtech, but the events of this tragedy has become a national tragedy for america and americans such as yourself. i'd say ignore all those who say otherwise and grieve when you want to. and at least you show you care, unlike some people

Answer 8

It shows how much of a caring person you are, the pain of others hurts you too. I tend to be the same sometimes. I think of it as a gift.

Answer 9

It shows you have a heart. That's not a bad thing. The world needs more like you.

Answer 10

Yes i have cried. Very normal. You are a human being.