Do you think this is mean?

Question

Ok..at school we can sit wherever we want but I asked this girl who claims to be nice to people and I was like "Can I sit next to you"? She was like Manda sits here even though she sits there everyday but it's not an assigned seat. But do u think that is mean? What wouldve u done?

What would you have said to her or have done if you were in my situation?

If you were me, would you have just sat there without saying anything?

Answer 1

My thoughts on open seating, If there is no assigned seat then you can sit anywhere you want. Even if "Manda" always sits there, it is not her seat. I like to sit in the middle row of seats at the movie theater but if someone is there then I pick a different seat. It is not my seat just because I like to sit there and I often do sit there when I get there first. First come first serve. Tell "Manda" to come to class earlier if she wants her seat.

Answer 2

Even though your seats are not assigned this girl feels like you probably should know that, that seat is reserved for "manda". In my opinion she could have said, "sure have a seat and I will pull up another one for manda, or told you to sit next to her on the other side and left the one you asked about originally for manda. No matter how you look at it, this situation happened for a reason. You probably would have hated being her friend anyway!

Answer 3

A college professor once told me that she lets people sit where ever they want because it is human nature to find a spot and stick with it. By the third or fourth class, students have "claimed" their seat for the duration of the school term. It isn't theirs and anyone could take it, but common courtesy influences us to honor the boundary. It would make sense that the nice girl would tel you that someone else sits at the seat because since she is nice she would be sensitive to the feelings of Manda. If she were not nice, she would have not cared if you sat there because she would not be sensitive to either your or Manda's feelings. I would have told her "Thanks for letting me know." She spared both of your feelings. If you had sat down, when manda showed up she would have been upset that you took her chair and that the nice girl didn't let you know that it was already taken.

Don't sweat it.

Answer 4

I would have just said "Ok, thanks" and moved somewhere else because obviously she and Manda are very territorial and I wouldn't need the aggravation just to prove a point to stupid people. The world is full of small people like Manda and her friend and it gives them a feeling of power and superiority to make others feel diminished. Hold your head high and don't lose any sleep over it. A couple of years from now, when you've graduated, these people will not mean "squat" to you. Good luck, cookie.