do you think gay, lesbian people should have a right to adopt?

Question

my opinon is no. there are gay people now adopting kids which i don't think is right. it's nice that you want a child to share with your partner but don't you think it's unfair to raise a child with two mothers or two fathers? nothing against gays but i feel that children shouldn't be bought up like that. i would rather be adopted by a single parent than raised around homesexuality. you got to think how the child would feel as they get older being around that type of atmosphere. what do you think?

Answer 1

I think COMPETENT people should be allowed to adopt.

I don't care about their sexual orientation/ identification, or if they are single.

Too many kids out there need homes with good parents.

Answer 2

There is no guarantee that straight parents are all that wonderful.

There is no guarantee that single parents are all that grand either.

And likewise, there is no guarantee that gay parents would be poor parents.

But to exclude any couple based on what they do in the privacy of their own bedroom is just wrong.

Let's face facts. Turn on the news any given day of the week and you'll hear a story about some child or teenager shooting up other kids, stealing, raping, smoking crack, getting arrested, etc. And then ask yourself: How many of THOSE kids had gay parents? Chances are, they were raised by straight parents. And even more obvious is that these straight parents are doing a pretty poor job of parenting.

The sexuality of the parent will not determine how fuctional the child becomes. The love shown to that child is the deciding factor.

And remember, every gay person out there is the product of straight sex. So environment really fails to play a part in a child's future sexuality.

Answer 3

It's not unfair to the child. What's unfair to the child is voluntarily subjecting it to a single parent home (which studies show have an overall more difficult time keeping their families above the poverty line and their children out of trouble with the law) rather than allow a gay couple to adopt. It makes no sense. The whole purpose of a family is that two people love each other so much they want to express that love by raising a child. If a couple can be in love, they can raise a family. Period.

Answer 4

Yes, I see no reason why a healthy, responsible couple cannot adopt and love a child, no matter what gender identities and sexual preferences are involved.

I don't think it's unfair to raise a kid with two parents of one gender... do you really pay that much attention to the gender of your own parents? I certainly don't. My parent's heterosexuality does not make them more capable of providing for me and loving me than would someone else's parent's homosexuality.

It can be pretty tough raising a child as a single parent. While many single parents do well, many struggle, because it is a big responsibility to raise a child, let alone work at the same time. Just because the couple raising the child happens to be of the same gender does not make them less capable of caring for children and earning sufficient wages.

I presume that the atmosphere of which you speak is that of the stereotypical flamboyant gay man. But that is a stereotype... almost all LGBTQ people that do not behave like that. The only thing that would cause problems for the kid is schoolyard teasing from people like yourself... but other than that, it's no different than being raised by two loving straight parents. Kids don't notice their parents' sexuality, and they don't care. They're very tolerant, and very loving, and that's something we all need to learn.

Answer 5

No, you are wrong.

1) All citizens should be entitled to the same rights, per the Constitution, which would include rights that go with marriage, such as adoption. Anything else is state-sponsored discrimination.

2) Given the amount of hatred and work that LGBT parents have to go through, I feel that they must want their adopted children 1000%. I wish every child in this world were so wanted.

3) LGBT people often have an extended network of friends. There are plenty of role models of both genders available.

4) LGBT parents raise straight children every day. Straight parents raise LGBT children every day. There is absolutely no correlation here to "environment" - none whatsoever. Science has proven this, if one bothers to check facts.

I pray that you can see past your bigotry someday to help insure what is really best for the children involved - that they get adopted. Until then, we will pray for you.

Answer 6

First go here.

http://www.apa.org/pi/lgbc/publications/lgpchildren.html

Second, I don't understand this one bit"you got to think how the child would feel as they get older being around that type of atmosphere." I mean seriously, what kind of atmosphere? An open minded, kind, loving and wholesome atmosphere? What's wrong with that?

I'm rather tired of people acting like I'm handicapped just because I'm homosexual. As if somehow magically that makes me a lesser parent, or gives them some magical insight into my being.

Grow up, you can tell nothing about me by the fact I'm homosexual except that I like men. Nothing else.

Oh and I'll have to go through aptitude tests to show I'll be a good parent if I wish to adopt, I'll have to show I make enough money, have good enough morals, have a good family life, and everything else. I still have to jump through all those hoops, and I don't need to jump through the homosexual-hoop, because that's discrimination and I don't deserve it.

Children of gay parents don't grow up weird, if anything they grow up better. Why? Because we appreciate them all the more. There's plenty of heterosexual people out there who are awful parents, and they're still allowed to parent. Why is it that even poor heterosexual parents should make it through more easily than me?

I'm a good individual, and I will make a terribly amazing parent. I will raise the best kids in the world, and homosexuality will mean nothing to them, because it never should.

Stop discriminating against me based on something I have no control over. It's unfair. I am human same as you.

I'm tired of people stepping all over my rights, just because of what's between my legs and who I'm attracted to. Get over it. It's not a handicap, don't treat is as one.

Answer 7

here is what i have to say about you're comment.

Would You rather a orphan child stay and orphan than have gay parent? There are a lot of kids out there that need parents. Now there are lot of children being raised by single parents it doesn't take both to raise a child. But don't get me wrong here its tough for single parents.

I'm not exactly sure what atmosphere you're talking about. Because most gay couples that want to adopt live conformed lives similar to heterosexual lives.

The one thing that i want to make clear is that the child would have 2 people that would really care about him or her.

Answer 8

Being gay and single or gay and partnered should not disqualify you from adopting.

Being gay is a simply a human trait. It no more identifies a person’s moral character, parenting skills, or ability to love than being left-handed does. It is not something to be hidden, corrected, or ashamed of. The only influence a gay parent has over the adult sexuality of their children is in instilling a sense of healthy acceptance for the small number of their children who will grow up to be gay. Compare that with the influence homophobic, intolerant straight parents have on their children who turn out gay. Many such children are homeless on the streets or in the foster care system because their straight parents threw them out. I can assure you that there is no chance, that any child of a gay parent will be cast out of the house for being straight.

So which is more unfair to children? Having them on the streets, in institutions or with a series of strangers for lack of stable, loving homes, or having them in a stable, loving, church going, soccer mom or dad gay household?

Answer 9

what do you mean that type of atmosphere???
they dont turn gay just because we are, kids are raised by all types of familys.
as long as they are good people what matters.
how many kids die or get rapped by a mother and father being togather.
your telling me you would rather have those childern strave then be rasied in a family where the can get food and clothes just because the parents are gay!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

Yes, they should be given full rights. When people say that they should not adopt, I am concerned. Homosexuals are people, too. Some people say that they should not get more rights, as they have too many already. If they do not want LGBT people to have full rights, then they had better demote themselves.

Answer 11

my daughter has been brought up with a single lesbian mother and what she would say is what is the difference with having a single lesbian mother than having her mum and her mums partner its not a case of having two mums or two dads its having a set of happy stable parents that matters i had mum and dad at home when i was a kid who fought like hell and life was hell my daughter is now 19 and fully accepting of my sexuality and has been for years her only request is that i dont shove her face in my sexuality which i dont out of respect for my daughter