only i kinda am. Im 17. I don't remember my childhood much cause i was raped. But everything is just happening so fast and there are just so many reponsibilites and things i have to live up to. I feel like i can't handle it and i want be a kid without any of those problems. I know thats impossible, but what can i do to get used to these new things i have to do. You know, like getting a job, and doing your homework so you can get into a good college?
2007-04-20 09:46:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
, hang out with frineds and go out... enjoy life... dont be left in the past..
2007-04-20 09:51:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. November 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly these feelings happen to a lot of people so don't feel like a freak or anything, you are most definiitely not! Its terrible that your childhood was taken away from you so cruelly and I hope you have had counselling to come to terms with it as much as possible. If you haven't this could be one reason why you're finding adulthood so difficult and fearful , as you haven't resolved your past. If you truly feel you have moved forward and resolved as much as possible about the things that happened, then it's time to close the door on that childhood and look positively towards the future. True adulthood means responsibility but it also means freedom. freedom to discover who you are and what wonderful talents and gifts you have to offer this world.Freedom to make dreams and follow them without the restrictions of childhood. It also means freedom to say no and to make your own decisions, instead of being trapped into the kind of childhood you had. Try to list all the positive things about adulthood. Its exciting to think you have a whole wonderful life ahead of you, get a journal and write out all your mad ideas, dreams, schemes, thoughts and things you'd like to do and keep adding to it for a few years until you see some sort of pattern that could steer you in the right direction. don't feel pressured to make a career decision - i didn't make that decision until my 30s and it hit me with an incredibly clarity what I wanted to do and to go about it. i too had a terrible childhood and made the mistake of leaving it late to sort my head out. Enjoy these years as much as possible, they are ones that you will remember so treat it as a wonderful bridge between a childhood you're leaving behind and an adulthood that has much to offer you. good luck XXX
2007-04-20 16:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Ute. Sorry to hear about that awful experience. Well there are some good things about adulthood! For one you get to make up your own philosophy, rules, friends - everything. You can still do all kinds of kid-like activities your whole life. Disneyland for example. A friend of ours at work goes a few times a year every year!
If you find adjusting to adulthood difficult - find a counselor to whom you can speak in confidence. These folks often work on a "sliding scale" fee structure so that you can afford it whatever your salary. When I got out of college I did a bunch of group and individual counseling and found it all extremely helpful.
None of us does adulthood perfectly and you will make some mistakes and fall short of others expectations and your own sometimes. Just keep getting up and learning from your experiences. Journaling can also be really helpful to learn from your experiences. Good luck missy!
2007-04-20 16:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, not everyone has had as rough of a childhood as you, but most adults would love to throw all their responsibilities into the wind and be a kid again . . . but, also, most adults would hate the loss of independence and self-sufficiency that comes with adulthood. you are at an age where it is normal to feel like that. hang in there.
2007-04-20 21:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by investigator7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah....being a kid was fun but when i was a kid i wanted so....bad to be an aduilt. but that's just how it goes, but look at it this way the older you get the more you can explore, and the more you learn. you can always be a kid (a kid at heart) never for get that. and when you have kids of your own you can renew your child hood with your children.
best wishes to you.
2007-04-20 16:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by me & you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ell just think about it this way when ur a kid u have a bed time u cant go out and no cell phone and no driving but at 17u can do all those things
2007-04-20 16:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by qutie2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wanna be a kid again too
things happen in our lives that form who we are... the rape does not have to be the end of your life... you CAN move on and become a happy successful life
2007-04-20 16:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel sorry for u that u got raped....manage time for urself too cause u must live for urself...hang out with ur friends date men (i'm available)lol.....
2007-04-20 16:54:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the sense ur thinking about being a kid is all phycological
just have fun with life and dont take on to many responibilities and ur like a kid, no wut im saying its all in ur head.
2007-04-20 17:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by elvish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to your counselor if you don't have one you should truly seek one to give you the correct answer you need.
2007-04-20 16:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by heavenlli_61 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋