How do ask my Husband to allow me to watch him with someone else? I just want to watch...sorry :-) I know it's weird.
2007-04-20 08:57:32 · 45 answers · asked by T D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just tell him you had this dream about him with another woman and you liked it (in the dream) and see what he says my hubby and i have been in he swinger life style fr awhile and would not change in of it . my guess is he will jump on the chance it is a huge turn on in our relationship and make for great sex after
2007-04-20 09:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by 1401 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something that kinda needs to be worked up to. Not knowing your hubby, you shound know first if he would be into that kind of scene. Once you establish that he would be on board, you will need to talk OPENLY about the whole thing. Decide beforehand if there should be any rules (No going out and playing without your spouse, No blondes...whatever) Then you can move on to picking the other person.
It is a very touchy ground for a lot of people who grew up with a taboo against open relationships. Communication is the key. Just remember that you and your man are a couple, no matter who else you throw in the mix.
2007-04-20 09:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by jimapalooza 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes this is weird so i look at it like this if thats what you all is into then just say can you watch but if it was my husband i would say see you on divorce tv because marriage is a sacret thing between two people not three and you watching him go with someone else that would make me ill but you do what you think you should do but if it was me he would be planning to move out my house
2007-04-20 09:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not but you are taking a big risk by doing that think about it how about if he really enjoys it, and wants that all the time, or he enjoys it so much with that other person that he wants her and not you. So I would suggest to go to a sex spot (swinger clubs) you can usually find them on line where you can have safe sex with other couples.
But before what you wish.
So just make it a surprise or just ask him how he would feel about having sex with a another women or a 3some men love that.
2007-04-20 09:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by smiles 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe start by asking him if he has ever thought of having sex with another woman. Then tell him you always wondered what it would be like to see him making love to someone else. Many guys would jump at the chance but some would be unwilling to do that, at least in front of their wife. Keep in mind that you could get very jealous and you wil have no one to be mad at but yourself.
2007-04-20 09:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What would u want to do that for? Think its not gonna make u feel bad later when hes making love to u and then a thought comes across ur mind "why doesnt he do with me the way he did with her". Thats gonna bring problems.
2007-04-20 10:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot know what type of relationship that you have with your husband. If it has just been the two of you in a close and intimate marriage, this fantasy of yours could bring your marriage crashing down.
If you were to voice this and your hubby introduced a third person to your marriage bed, you could find that you have opened a box that you are not emotionaly equipped to handle. Also you are also telling your husband it is OK to have sex outside of the marriage, is that something you are prepared to live with? I would suggest caution with this one, you might just put your marriage on the rocks.
You might find yourself divorced and asking "what the hell was I thinking of'?
2007-04-20 09:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you really have thought about this...Then just suggest it to him and see how he feels.
If I could invent a holagram for my husband to be "with" I would love to watch how he would be with her. Then I would make her disappear and not worry about her coming back with out MY permission, and she couldnt ever tell anyone about it. I have always sorta wanted to do that too. But, I am afraid he would like it and it mess our marriage up.
2007-04-20 09:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by HappyGirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First make sure it's what you want beofre you even think of telling your husband. If you decide that is something you do want, then I suggest you make him a ince dinner make sure he is relaxed and tell him in a caring way.
2007-04-20 11:04:30 · answer #9 · answered by babygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really emotionally prepared to go down this road? Once it starts, it is very hard to stop. One day he may end up watching you or you might end up watching him forever with another.* Try a swingers club first. Take it slow.
2007-04-20 09:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by ★Spotter★ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋