Do you think a weekend on your own every so often with make things better...to make the heart grow fonder?
2007-04-20 08:49:28 · 15 answers · asked by Truth Hurts 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Personally, I disagree because you should never walk away from a problem.
2007-04-20 08:54:42 · update #1
Depends on the people invloved.
Some look at it as running away from the issues.
Sometimes if you don't get away you will just fight and things can get worse.
I ran away once from my marriage for three days, all it did was make me lonely and feel childish.
2007-04-20 08:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by hi_stk_n 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I disagree with the people saying this would cause someone to have an affair.
You said a WEEKEND on your own. If just a weekend is going to make your significant other, or yourself wander, then your relationship has bigger problems than you let on....and it would probably be best for it to end as soon as possible anyway.
I don't know how I feel about this making things better. I really think it would depend on the problem. If the problem is something that you're just mad about and just need to take time and be upset before you can feel better, then sure, I guess that would help. However, if it's something more serious....it's nice to think that our problems can just go away if they're ignored........but that's not the way it works...
Something I always try to think about before I get upset is.....will what I'm upset/angry about matter in 5 days, 5 months, or 5 years? If yes, then okay, take some time out and try to reanalyze the problem and come up with a solution. If you answer 'no'.....then just take a deep breath, count to 1 million, and by then.....you'll probably forget what's wrong anyway.
It's not fair to make yourself feel bad over what OTHER people are doing.
Just breathe!!! :-)
2007-04-20 16:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by jezyka 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally truth i think it does. first of all just because you take some time off to be to yourself does not mean that you are an open candidate for some stolen moments you dig!!! a mature relationship is a healthy one based on the fact that you are not letting your little feelings become the controlling factor. getting away sometimes does make the heart grow fonder because you realize the value and the quality of your role mate. trust plays an important part not only in your relationship but also within yourself, because you have to believe and trust in you and what your motives are all about. if you don't believe in it though, then don't do it, just get with dude and the both of you go out and have some real exciting fun together and that takes things to another level.
2007-04-20 18:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by triple o.g. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can say from experience that it helped me, I went by myself out for a weekend, just hanging out. Sometimes its good to just breath. But if its relationship your speaking of, I don't know. I mean sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't. It depends on the persons involved. Not everyone can handle it very maturely. Men are so stubborn they'll take "I need some space or time to myself" as "that mean I can date other people." And that ruin ya chances of ever getting back together. But then again a person is very vunerable at that time so accidents happens. People sometimes cheat when they are seperated. Because of no communication, don't leave the person confused. Be clear about what you want to the other person, and tell them why it would be heathly for your relationship. But a weekend is fine....I did a whole month one time...lol..and that boy drove 5 hours to come get me. lol
2007-04-20 16:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by SexyBlackFasho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I view taking a weekend "off" akin to general avoidance. I am of the belief that the problem will remain a problem until the issue is resolved.
Running away, or sticking your head in the sand (a la ostrich), or putting the issue on hold till you can "deal with it" is just an escapist excuse for those who are too weak to confront the issue and work toward a resolution.
2007-04-20 16:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes probably, unless if that didn't work, it would mean then it's time to change your home life you know? I remember I did that once, I lived with my bf when I was 22 (I'm 35 now) and we weren't getting along, so I stayed at my mom's house for like a day or so, then coming back to my house, things after that didn't get any better, so I moved out and got a place of my own =) I'm in a wonderful relationship now =)
2007-04-20 15:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When things are bad you do sometimes need to get away but make sure you are not getting away with someone else. You just need time to sort out your feelings and use the time to reflect on the life you chose to see if its salvageable or if you should move on. You will need to weigh the pros and cons and the time apart may prove that you all just needed a little space but also be prepared for backlash if it wasn't something he wanted
2007-04-20 15:53:48 · answer #7 · answered by Pegi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Walking away from a problem is, as you say, not a way forward.
However, a good break on your own can help you get some fresh air and look at things in a different way. I would strongly recommend.
2007-04-20 16:06:59 · answer #8 · answered by Claire 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a weekend getaway for 2 would be in order - no kids, no job and no stress.
Then you could try to work out your problems and grow closer together.
2007-04-20 16:05:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it doesn't hurt to step away from the problem so that you can get some clarity without being in the middle of a war zone.
2007-04-20 15:55:44 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋