Before we got married, he cheated on me. But, we are happily married now and we have moved passed that. Since then, I have been having dreams about cheating on him with different guys. What does this mean? (Please don't lecture me about getting back with him after he cheated.)
2007-04-20 08:24:09 · 13 answers · asked by Damon ♥ Elena 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
just maybe you're not over the fact that he cheated on you. I mean i know you said you two are happily married and moved on but honestly it still bothers you and since you don't come out loud and tell him yeah i'm still hurt by what you did you have dreams about hurting him the way he hurt you. I'm not advising you to cheat on him because that will only open a door for him to do it again but if i were u i would talk to him about how you feel. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-04-20 08:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by msmarieww 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really simple... the dream means you are VERY WORRIED and fearful that he's having an affair. It doesn't mean he's having one... just that you are suspicious and worried... Scenarios: He might be having an affair or affairs and maybe you've picked up on subliminal hints of this. He might NOT be having an affair and you're just a very jealous person. He might not be having an affair, but decide to have one if he's constantly going to be accused of having one. He might not be having an affair and your fears and dreams are killing your sex life and your marital relationship. You can NOT have a good relationship where there is no trust. Your dreams tell me there is no trust on your side. If you have no proof or suspicious circumstances that could be indicative of an affair, then putting all this effort into worrying about one will only harm your marriage. I suggest you go to a psychologist for marital counseling... by yourself. If the counselor wants your husband in, a request will be made for him to attend some of the meetings.
2016-05-19 22:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Eddie! are you 100% sure that you are happily married? Dreams can usually be put into two categories; (1) We dream about things that WE FEAR! or (2) about things that WE DESIRE TO HAVE OR DO! Are you afraid that some day you may cheat on your husband? OR Do you have a desire to someday CHEAT on your husband? Is your husband romantic? Does he treat you with affection? Is he passionate? Does he pay attention to you? Does he satisfy you in bed? If you are having a problem with your husband; go up to him take him by the hand and say something like; "Honey, let us both work on this together and let us both find a solution!"
2007-04-20 08:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you probably already know why. People dream about things they spend a lot of time thinking about for negatively or positively. It's possible that you are thinking about it and are scared that you may act on these thoughts. Therefore these thoughts manifest themselves as a dream. Notice I said dream and not nightmare because you didn't refer to these dreams in a negative connotation. Your own perception of these dreams is telling in itself; wouldn't you agree? Furthermore, you told on yourself when you added the info about your husband cheating. The fact that you dream about you doing it and the fact the he did this before have no link whatsoever, right? Or does it? I think you that it is possible that you subconsciously desire revenge. (no lecture intended just exploring possibilities)
2007-04-20 08:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by Martyr Machine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reoccurring dreams usually imply that your brain is mulling something over, even if you aren't consciously doing it.
You might be mentally going through a "if I were in his shoes" scenario.
I would suggest talking it over with your husband, in case there could be some unresolved conflict, not so you can fight or something, just so it can be settled once and for all.
If problems do arise, you may want to see a marriage counselor, but I wouldn't be too worried about that right now if I were you.
Have a good day :)
2007-04-20 08:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by stevedude256 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sigmund Freud said "Every dream is a wish." Maybe it means you have a secret desire to cheat on your husband. P.S.: I wouldn't recommend taking it past the dream phase because your husband can now divorce you for it and the courts are not very sympathetic in terms of granting alimony to a cheating wife.
2007-04-20 08:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by sarge927 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating
To dream that you are cheating on your spouse, mate, fianc鬠or significant other, suggests feelings of self-guilt and self-betrayal. You may have compromised your beliefs or integrity and/or wasting your energy and time on fruitless endeavors. Alternatively, it reflects the intensity of your sexual passion and exploring areas of your sexuality. It is actually a reaffirmation of your commitment. Furthermore, it is not uncommon for people approaching a wedding to have dreams about erotic experiences with partners other than their intended spouses. Most likely, such dreams represent the newness of your sexual passion. It may also signify anxieties of changing your identity - that of a spouse.
2007-04-20 08:34:49 · answer #7 · answered by latingeminigrl@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ADULTERY:
"To dream that you commit adultery, foretells that you will be arriagned for some illegal action.
If a women has this dream, she will fail to hold her husband's affections, letting her temper and spite overwhelm her at the least provocation.
If it is with her husband's friend, she will be unjustly ignored by her husband. Her rights will be creully trampled upon by him. If she thinks she is enticing a youth into this act, she will be in danger of desertion and divorced for her open intriguing."
2007-04-20 08:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by paha4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably a site like http://www.ihadadreamlastnight.com will help you out. There is a lot of content regarding dreams there
2007-04-22 07:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by expertdreams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a dream, don't worry about it.
People try to dissect dreams, but none have been proven so far.
2007-04-20 08:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋