call me weak, but I'm not ready to stand up in a room full of strangers & say I have a problem.........yet
2007-04-20 08:14:51 · 8 answers · asked by fi3ona 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
To deal with your alcoholism, you have to be ready to face some of your worst fears. All those strangers had the same fear of standing in public and admitting their problem.
Until you take the risk and face that fear, you will fail to get over your problem, unless you do something really stupid like my stepson who almost lost his life in an accident he caused driving drunk. He finally scared himself enough to stop drinking and driving.
You have to "bottom out" and scare yourself enough that you know you MUST do the right thing or you know that you will DIE. A few people I've met did it by "white knuckling it" and this is really hard and few succeed.
BUT
part of the problem of an alcoholic is hiding from admitting to your problem.
One of the easiest places to hide is online, so it's not a place you can deal with your alcoholism.
So what's the worst thing that can happen if you go to an AA meeting and introduce yourself and speak of your problem?
Will anyone laugh at you?
will anyone say you're worthless?
what are you afraid will happen?
BUT... if they welcome you and tell you they had similar problems, and noone laughs at you, and they praise you for having the strength to come to a meeting, what will you do then???
2007-04-20 08:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at least you have taken the first step and admitted you have a problem...at least on Yahoo! Answers. Well Done.
If you go to an AA meeting, you don't have to talk, you can just listen. Listen to the stories of others and it will make you feel better about yourself and give you an action plan for the future. Maybe after a few meetings you will be able to, and want to talk about your own problems but that is entirely up to you.
2007-04-20 15:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by sarah_elizabeth_cain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be more than happy to talk with you about this. I understand that it's difficult sometimes to work things out in such a social setting, but having somebody to talk to might help a lot. We can delve into a lot of issues you may never have thought about. We can work this out; don't worry. If you're interested, look on my profile under "about me" and get my contact information. My e-mail address is eckm0032@umn.edu. Talking over an instant messenger would be a much better idea. I hope to hear from you soon. We can deal with this together.
Heath
2007-04-20 15:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by heath e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get help online to quit, you have to be in a room full of strangers and say you have a problem. Either do it and get sober or stay the way you are. There is no easy way to get sober, it's very hard work, and you'll have to work at it for the rest of your life. So buck up.
2007-04-20 15:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/
although they may just give advice about where to find your nearest AA meeting! Admitting to yourself you have a problem is the first, and biggest, step. Good luck! xx
2007-04-20 16:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really get help over the Internet, you need to facially go to a place to get help. It worked for my cuz and now he's doing awesome.
2007-04-20 15:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by Linds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uncommonforum.com it can be the first step to admitting you have they dont judge just offer advice
2007-04-20 15:20:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.imalush.com
2007-04-20 16:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋