2007-04-20 07:35:18 · 27 answers · asked by KrazyBitch 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Forget him, you can have me.
2007-04-20 07:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by carlos r 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's ex-boyfriend at this point. If you can and want to remain friends, he could use all the support he can get at this time. If you can't then move on. I'm sure he cares about you, but he won't have the same type of feelings that would make a relationship work. And, even though you may be hurting now, I would advise against hurting him back, you will regret it in the long-run. Good luck, I know it's a tough time for you.
2007-04-20 14:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by dinosf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't take it personal. You may feel as if he lied to you or mislead you but it was just as painful on him to have to end the relationship and accept himself as gay. Keep him around as a friend if you want (you can go shopping together) or not. It won't change so there's nothing you really can say.
2007-04-20 17:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by lordwashu13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if this is true, I would suffice it to say he's your EX-boyfriend now.
I know it's probably hard for you, and probably hurts a lot, but keep in mind that this is probably not something he WANTS to do to you, it's just who he IS. So, don't get vengeful and try to hurt him back for the pain he's caused you, because I'm sure he found it hard to tell you and didn't want to hurt you. I suggest being friends and supporting him, because you probably know it's still hard being a gay man in today's society.
2007-04-20 14:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by I_color_outside_the_lines 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You be a true friend to him and accept him just as he really is. It took a lot of courage and trust for him to come out to you. I'm sure he's been struggling with this for a long time. While you may think it's unfair of him to come out to you, it's actually a huge compliment to you. He trusts you enough to finally be himself. As far as the relationship goes, I came out to my future wife while we were dating. Even though we both knew I was gay, we stayed together because we loved each other. We just celebrated out 10 year wedding anniversary last month. It hasn't been easy, but we both agree that we belong together and are good for each other. Being gay is much more than just having sex with another member of the same sex. Please go easy on your b/f and allow him to be who he really is inside. He needs you now more than either one of you know.
2007-04-20 15:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him it's okay.
Your relationship will have to end, but you can still have a great friendship.
It's not your fault, or his. Support him right now, he needs to know he's not a bad person, and that you don't hate him, which it doesn't sound like you do because you're on here asking what to say.
So be there for him, be the rock that he needs right now.
2007-04-20 18:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh Kelsey I am so sorry, this has to hurt really bad. I know your initial reaction will be one of hurt and betrayal. More than likely he has been at war with himself his whole life over this and he chose to tell you. He probably will need support from you and his friends if at possible. If it is to much for you to take let him know that it was a betrayal to lie to you. But do not tear him apart he is very vulnerable right now.
2007-04-20 14:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by JONNY J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At least he told you. I had a friend who found out her b-friend was gay when she used his computer and found a massive amount of gay porn on it.
Thank him for his honesty, wish him luck, go to a bar, get sloppy drunk and get laid.
2007-04-20 15:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by cardinalboy97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to be calm and to tell him that no matter what you are still his friend, because if you use anger he will feel as if there is no support, which is the number one thing he needs right now. Hope this helps.
2007-04-20 14:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him a kiss and wish him luck. I wouldn't bring up anything negative. I would tell him how you enjoyed the good times with him. I would remain friends with him if I could.
If he is bisexual, that probably won't work either. Unless you can handle him having other relationships.
2007-04-20 14:41:31 · answer #10 · answered by SarahLynne 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
gooooo shoooppiinnngg
an u can get ur hair an ur nails done...lol
now for the serious answer
dont start to blame urself is he is gay he has ALWAYS been gay it has nothin to do with u
u need to try to get over him
2007-04-20 14:46:09 · answer #11 · answered by Atomic-Aaron 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋