we got pregnant, and she is thinking about abortion because she is underaged and her parents will kill her if they find out. What are the risks of having an abortion for her?
2007-04-20 07:23:52 · 13 answers · asked by iamsocratesofnew 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
So because her parents would kill her,
you two parents will kill your child.
Gosh, you are really tough parents.
Her parents will kill her for being pregnant,
but your child's parents (you and your girlfriend)
will kill for just being conceived.
Please remember that her parents are most likely not going to kill her, but you are talking about killing your child. Your girlfriend is more likely to die during the abortion then her parents killing her.
Forgive me for being harsh, late at night I get loopy.
2007-04-22 17:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not pregnant, she is. If she goes to a reputable clinic, she will receive all of the information, care and counseling that she needs. If the only reason she wants this abortion is because her parents would freak out, I don't think that's a good enough reason. Don't you think they'd freak out even more if they found out she had an abortion?
Don't get me wrong, I'm pro-choice...but only if it is for the right reasons. You two need to talk this over and decide if this really is right for you, and then go from there. You didn't mention how old you are, but you sound pretty young. Depending on where you live, she might need parental permission for an abortion.
Good luck.
2007-04-20 07:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Both of you go to Planned Parenthood - they will answer all of your questions.
Her parents really do need to be involved - and so do yours.
Maybe they will be mad - it IS a shock afterall - but after that, you will see that they really do love you and will help you.
Let's say she has the abortion - but she's fine physically. What about mentally? You don't just have an abortion and then pick up your life where you left off.
It's possible she'll have a lot of thoughts running through her head - who will she talk to then? You? Some other girlfriend who won't really understand? No...she'll be left to suffer her thougths by herself.
Face your fears - you did an adult thing, now be a responsible adult. Get her parents involved - they will be the ones who end up taking care of her in the end.
Best wishes.
2007-04-20 07:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by Stan W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all her parents are NOT going to kill her even though it may seem like it. They will kill her however if she does not tell them what is going on. Pregnancy does not go away! If abortion is the right choice for her she needs parents concent if she is under 18, YES they did just pass a law on that so she DOES need her parents, and guess what it's not just her thats involved you inpregnaned her which means you are also responsible for this baby, WHAT ARE YOUR PARENTS GOING TO THINK, OR MORE WHAT ARE HER PARENTS GOING TO THINK OF YOU. Just because she is the one pregnant doesn't mean it's all on her shoulders. You need to support her and be along for the ride, she needs you. Next time think twice about having sex as this is a consequences to having sex even though you may be protected.
2007-04-20 07:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is underage she might have to have their consent to get the abortion. (Depending on state laws). She needs to call the abortion clinic and find out what the state requires. I would also check with a doctor, planned parenthood, the local clinic to find out all info she can on the procedure and what she should expect. She needs medical advice. I wish both of you the best of luck.
2007-04-20 07:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by Sara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-28 13:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since girlfriend is underage, for abortion she will need the consent of parents, or at least being accompanied by the adult responsible for her (at least one parent). Risks are minimal, still she needs blood tests
2007-04-20 07:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by CAT 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, since she is under age, she will probably need her parent's consent or at least they have to be notified of the abortion--here's a list of states that require that- http://www.plannedparenthood.org/news-articles-press/laws-requiring-parental-consent-of-notification-for-minors-abortions.htm
As for the risks to her--
heavy bleeding
infection
sepsis
incomplete abortion
damage to the cervix
scarring of the uterine lining
perforation of the uterus
damage to internal organs
death
2007-04-20 07:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Having an abortion is very emotionally scarring, and can also make getting pregnant later in life more difficult.
2007-04-20 07:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk her into talking to her parents and talk to her about keeping the baby, there are alternatives other than abortion. Please help her make the right decision and not have the abortion and be her support system that she needs right now
2007-04-20 07:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by finallyamommy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋