anyone out there whose baby 14 month and older still?

Question

sleeps in parents bed?

we don't really mind that, i think it's cute when he cuddles and i feel save knowing he is next to me, and not in another room..., where i don't here everything.
do you think it will harm him in the way, that he will be spoiled or a mamas boy when he sleeps couple more month with us. i still think he is a baby who needs to be close to me.

we dont' want him to be spoiled...


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thanks for all your answers,

first person, no worry, if we have/had sex, we wouldn't do it with our baby in the same room, jakki, i think that's not normal to have a baby/child or anyone else in the same room.
i am not sure wether i understood what it meant when you wrote that a 4 year old was sexualized...

all the others, i guess we will be thinking about putting him in his own bed, although it's the sweetest thing to have my cute baby with me. maybe i wait another couple weeks.
and although i am not really convinced that it would harm him (spoilingwise...)
thanks

Answer 1

Spoiling could be a problem, but so could the government (along with other problems). I know someone whose daughter became highly sexualized by the age of four, to the point where the Department of Children and Family Services were threatening to take the child away until the daughter slept in her own room.

Answer 2

I've heard a lot of mixed ideas about this question. Personally I let our daughter sleep in bed with us a lot when she was first born. But when we put her in a crib instead of a bassinet, I tried to break the habit. Now she's 17 months old and she sleeps in a toddler bed. Occasionally she wakes up and walks into our room and wants in bed with us. I would just pick her up and put her in, but then she began waking up every night to come in with us. So now I just walk her back in to her room and let her get in her bed so she feels like a big girl. I think it all depends on the preference of the parents.

Answer 3

I know its nice to have a little cuddler to sleep with, but he really should be sleeping in his own room at this age. It'll be hard, for both of you, but it will be well worth it.

If you keep putting it off, it will get harder and harder for him to make that transition. And he'll need to develop independence for many of the things that will be coming up, some sooner than you may think. It may seem that he's still a baby, but in a couple years there is preschool and kindergarten. He needs to be self reliant for these, and one of the first steps to that is sleeping in his own bed.

It will be a tough road ahead of you until he gets used to his own bed, but it will be better in the long run for both of you.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

my kids sleep in our bed till around their second birthday. We have had no problems transitioning them into their own rooms and their own beds. I like having my kids close when they're little. I don't believe it spoils them either. It's really kind of funny that people are so critical because the majority of the world uses a family bed.

Answer 5

I have a friend whose 2 year old still sleeps with mom and dad. I just don't see how this is healthy for the child or the parent's relationship. The longer you put it (making him sleep on his own) off, the harder it's going to be on all of you.

Answer 6

Well, I'm sure you'll get a lot of nasty replies, but I think it's fine. Whatever works for you and your family.

Dr. Sears actually advises it! And he is a noted child expert. So, it's up to you.

Personally, when my baby turned about 5 months, we had to kick her out of the bed because she kept kicking us! Plus, she wanted to breastfeed about every hour, just for comfort. It was too much!

Good luck!

Answer 7

MY son was trained to sleep in his crib since he was a baby. Right now he is 22 months and still sleeps in his crib very comtarbly.

Answer 8

seems a little to big to be sleeping with mom and dad, but i guess its a good form of bith control, I would start putting him in his own bed.