I have been with my boyfriend for six months. Everything is picture perfect. I am great with his daughters and he is great with my son. We just moved in together maybe three weeks ago. He is currently unemployed due to lack of work and I am helping him while he is in between jobs. However I am a nanny making 250 an week currently and I get no child support from my childs father. I accepted a job that will start in about two weeks. I will be gone for two weeks at a time in a neighboring city. Every third week I will be off for that week and recieve half the pay I would normally. This job is still as a nanny the parents are truck drivers and the pay will be great!!! But will we grow apart? He thinks we will. I think you have to work on maintaining relationship even in a more ideal situation
2007-04-20 05:36:26 · 16 answers · asked by chicequa j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is doing odd jobs to help out as much as possible and help his childrens mothers not a dead beat by any means
2007-04-20 06:09:26 · update #1
You two will ONLY grow apart if you two ALLOW it to happen. YES the relationship will take more work seeing as how you will be away for two weeks at a time. You two can make it work only if you put in the effort and time. Besides absence makes the heart grow fonder. Instead of dwelling on you two possibly drifting apart you two should be focused on making the relationship last.
2007-04-20 05:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Six months is a short period to be able to know someone enough. You have to give the relationship more time, say one year or more. You have to value the relationship. Will the relationship be threatened by you being away? Or will he understand? I think this is a big test in itself. You are not being selfish in trying to being money to the family; however, are you taking care of the needs of the children? Are their needs being met? Who has your son during these two weeks? So you see, the answer has to come from within your own inner feelings. Remember that whatever choice you make in the right choice.
2007-04-27 14:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by maestra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that part of his fear is that he isn't working right now. It's hard on you mentally when you don't have a job. Ask him what is really bothering him about you not being there all the time. It's important that the issues be dealt with. It sounds like a great opportunity for all of you if you take this job. Good communication will keep you close to one another. Without that people grow apart whether they are in the same house or not.
2007-04-27 03:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl. you are a single mother. get your money . It don't sound like hes giving you any finance to stay so do what you have to do. For all you know he can be a low life that don't like to work. get your money right for you and your kid who you know you have to take care of and then put the relationship second. You will not want to hear this because you have that fresh love going on but its the best to look out for you and your first. If he want to be with you He'll do something. You can tell from what he do when you take the job weather he really want to make it work.
2007-04-20 05:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by peachestommyleasia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeh, you might grow apart, but don't you want to test the relationship early on to see if it has durability? After all, if you wait too long to deal with such a situation, you might have wasted a lot of time.
2007-04-28 05:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him find out why he thinks you will. It take both of you working on the relationship to make it strong. Trust is the biggest part of a relationship and love.
2007-04-27 11:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares. You have to do what is best for you and your child. I hope your child will be with YOU as this job will not work otherwise.
You two are not married and he does not support you.
2007-04-20 05:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why oh why do you women keep getting mixed up with a guy that doesnt want to work . Please dont tell me there are no jobs because thats just and excuse . Now your going to be supporting him while he sits on his A at home . Wise up !!
2007-04-20 05:49:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has no confidence now in you two , it well make you grow apart. This is a good thing for you, now you will see if he is the one for you by how he gets through it.
2007-04-20 05:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dnt think u guys will grow apart but if u realy talk 2 him...make things work out bettr God will be ther 4 u!! if u 2 realy luv each othr u can work it all out mayb a little at a time....
2007-04-28 04:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋