Why do women in today's society not have the ability to stand up for what they believe is right? I mean, here we are in 2007, and all I see here are questions about "What should I do?" I'm not saying this to be mean, as I love women, but sometimes gals you have to use your head a little and trust your gut a little and when the two come together, make a decision and stand by it!!
I cannot stand to hear of a woman who is in an abusive relationship and does nothing about it. I cannot stand to hear women complain about cheating b/f's or husbands and then take the a%%holes back.
Ladies, you earned the right to be equals. Start acting like, it, please!! Be tough, be fair, be firm. Follow your instincts, follow your heart, whatever, but stand up for yourselves!!
2007-04-20 05:12:48 · 23 answers · asked by bux_martinfan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, btw I have not been snagged by any woman!! Too much of a nice guy, I guess!!
2007-04-20 05:20:29 · update #1
I am reading the responses and I am in no way discounting a person's childhood nightmares or the psychological effects of an abusive relationship.
I have never before, nor will I ever hit a woman, I was just stating that in this day and age, there are so many forms of help out there that a woman should not feel like she is alone and has no support. All it takes is one friend to step in and point out enough is enough.
I understand the fact that too many boys (not qualified to be men) leave a woman with kids in diapers and the situation just got harder for the woman. I abhor everyone of these jerks who decide to sire a kid and don't have the stones to be a father.
I am 36 years old, ahev two daughters who I love very much and spend as much time as I can with. I divorced out of a relationship that was filled with deceit and verbal abuse from her. I "stuck" for 8 years, so I know how the cycle works.
2007-04-20 05:31:14 · update #2
I take it you haven't been in an abusive relationship before.
Sure women have earned the rights, but dear, when there is confusion about rather to stay or leave, it's because they have had their self esteem demolished, ripped away from them and they have nothing left. With that, they aren't brave enough to stand up, because they don't have the support they need to do so. They are also use to being told their useless, ugly, stupid and so on.
Maybe you'd understand what I'm trying to say here if you did a study on a "kidnapped child" for instance. They are scared shitless, told things, and they end up being mentally abused so far to the point that they don't try and escape the kidnapper.
The same goes for a woman who feels she is so madly in love.
BUT thanks for the words saying we need to stand.
2007-04-20 05:24:23 · answer #1 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's hard and scarry to stand on your feet when you have no job, no money, kids and nowhere to go. Not my case, but what I'm trying to say that it's easier to walk away for some but not all. It may also take a big and shocking event before you see that it's over because your dignity and self steem by then is always non-existant,
Sometimes you don't want to face the thruth in the hopes that our men will "see the light" or "change" or come back. Those are wrong, naive and gullable responses to a problem, but it's just natural to hold on to what you love and it takes a lot to be able to let go and break your family and your heart apart.
I was in an unhealthy marriage and it took for me to finally see him with his mistress before I decided to divorce him. Now I know better and at the minimum sign of BS I turn my back and walk away because I KNOW now, then, I didn't.
Good luck
2007-04-20 05:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-05 18:14:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya. There are so many with the same problem.
Im kind of wondering if their questions are even real. When you ask a question there are a bunch of suggestions that come up with the same topic. Why would you ask the same question if it was already answered previously.
I think they just post them because they know they will get a big response.
2007-04-20 05:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just like to say that its not just a woman. a weak person is just weak. It can be any sex. maybeits just the womenthat you have came across. I do tell you this, people like you make me the strong women that I am. I shock people some time with my determination. I like when someone think less of a person and they prove them wrong. Thats a good moment for me. I think you look for that type of women and thats what you get. Like you sais I cant stand to hear a woman say those things either butmen andlove are a womans weakness. I would love to meet a man like that I would whip his *** and make him think i was a man. Any women that puts up with that bs needs it
2007-04-20 05:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by peachestommyleasia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do agree, but it's easier said than done. People seem to lack insight into their situation, and they can't "connect the dots" and see the bigger picture. Every time something goes wrong, the predominant thought process is that it "will change"; unfortunately, it seldom does.
2007-04-20 05:21:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have often wondered the same thing myself. I would rather be happy and alone then to be miserable with a man who doesn't treat me the way I want to be treated.
2007-04-20 09:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh oh, you're teaching them feminism! Don't you know that feminists are awful man haters who kill babies? Or at least that's what the preacher says!
While, women have fought for the right to be equal, clearly it isn't a reality and this my friend, is the fault of both men, and women. I do believe you are over simplifying the issue. Often, it's not that easy to just leave, especailly when these women have allowed themselves to become dependant on their abusers eg. the stay at home mom who is perpetually pregnant/has small children.
2007-04-20 05:20:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Although I understand what you are saying and agree with much of it. I think you can not understand someones feelings and insecurities unless you are in their position. Most peoples insecurities(male and female) stem from things that were said or done when they were children and have caused an underlying sense of worthlessness and insecurity. Its easy to say "stand up for yourself!" "use common sense" but when you do not know the years of things that have contributed to making someone insecure you are only adding to the problem. Maybe instead of rallying against them to "smarten up" you could consider backing them up and offering help to let them stand up for themselves!
2007-04-20 05:21:36 · answer #9 · answered by buffybot67 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
weeew right on. i dont take crap from anyone, and my hubby says he would have it no other way. he tries to pull stuff over on me but admits that if i let him walk all over me, he probably wouldnt respect me as much as he does. Labias dont make you weak!
you can still be nice, but if you firm up just a tad like you did with us women here on yahoo, it'll make you irresistable ;)
2007-04-20 05:27:16 · answer #10 · answered by TwistedBlackVines 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋