My boyfriend has postponed our wedding for the second time. The first time we already had a license to get married and our rings had been engraved. This time he appears to have another reason which sounds legitimate, but instinct tells me I should cut my losses now and leave him. I'm so confused. Please help.
2007-04-20 05:09:12 · 16 answers · asked by holdover2002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We've been dating two years, long-distance. This time he says we should meet his family first. I tried applying for a visa to his country in October to do just that, but the embassy denied it.
2007-04-20 05:33:02 · update #1
Talk to him about it, if he's given good enough reasons as to why he won't marry you then just stay with him and don't pressure him too much. But if he's given you reasons that don't seem to add up, just dump him.
2007-04-20 05:27:40 · answer #1 · answered by Trisscar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there done this.
I was engaged to someone from Canada for 2 years and everytime I got serious about marriage "something" would just happen to put a delay on it. After 2 years I pressed her into telling me she WAS getting married, but not to me. It seems she had been also having a relationship online with another guy and decided on him over me. If something feels wrong about this guy, cut your losses and find someone else. I guess I really should thank "Shawna"...If I had married her I'd never have met my current wife and I doubt I'd be as happy as I am now...
Good Luck to ya...
2007-04-20 13:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by watchlizard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your instinct. He's made a mess of things by putting you on an emotional rollercoaster. Its up to you to get off of it. Marriage is something that needs to be well thought out. Not something made on a whim. Drop the guy, before he gets undecided in the marriage.
2007-04-20 15:35:10 · answer #3 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would need more details before I could offer my advice. Postponed indefinitely? Have you sent out invitations? How legitimate is the reason? How long have you been together?
2007-04-20 12:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by lei 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut. I'm sure you're a smart girl ... if your instinct is telling you it's not right, I'd bail. This is speaking from personal experience ... married a guy when I felt deep down it wasn't right, went ahead with it anyway, and two years later we were divorced.
Good luck!
2007-04-20 12:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by newyorktrueblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me he has a definite problem with commitment and a cruel streak by waiting till the last moment. I would express my feeling explicitly and definitely consider ending the relationship. If he's doing this now it is a good indication of what he'll be like all his life. YOU deserve better! You deserve respect and loving communication. Good luck and take care!
2007-04-20 12:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by BOOBABY 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What was the reason this time? I would cut your losses because he doesn't sound to interested in getting married.
2007-04-20 12:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpea22306 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The key is that, according to you, his reasons for postponement sound legitimate. It sounds to me like YOU'RE the one not interested in commitment ("cut your losses?"), and you're looking for any excuse to leave him.
2007-04-20 12:49:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He isint intrested in you! the question shows the answer !or it can be for some reason that he cant just do it,ya can understand!!! just tell me that how long youall r in a relationship?or do one thing-just ask him out straightly thta"you wanna marry me or not?"this will work i think
2007-04-20 12:31:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him to marry you in the court in a week's time. If he refuses it , then its time to move on.
2007-04-20 12:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by Iqbal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋