My husband is so sweet to me. Yesterday he wrote me a letter telling me how much he appreciates me carrying our baby, and going through all these struggles. He told me how turned on he is by me and how much he loves me. I havn't been able to have sex (or anything sexual) with him because I am extremely tired and not in the mood lately. I feel terrible because I want to give him anything I can, and he also told me that he can wait as long as it takes to be intimate, that isnt the problem. Any ideas what I can do? How do I get the energy and want to do things? Any tips ( also i am 32 weeks pregnant! and work full time (i want to) and in the evenings I am dead tired!) Thanks for your help!
2007-04-20 05:03:36 · 11 answers · asked by wondering 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow what a prince among men. You should be very proud of his efforts and him. Well try to get some sleep. It's normal for you to feel this way during prego time. Why not just cuddle on the couch. He's really being understanding about it. If you really want to do something about it and can afford it, take early maternity leave and get some sleep. He's turned on by seeing you carrying his child. Every guy would get turned on by that. Women get even prettier when pregnant. They get that glow and look happy which is contagious. He really wants you. I'd do your best to be understanding and try to meet his needs for you. Good luck and happy hunting....
2007-04-20 06:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey look, I applaud your attempt to give your husband anything you can, really i do. I was just there with my wife. It sounds to me like you have a good guy that is not going to pressure you, yeah your almost through with the pregnancy but you still have six more weeks after the birth before intimacy can begin. If your tired your tired, and at 32 weeks your probably really tired. Take a shower together and go from there, it will relax both of you and you can be intimate w/each other without intercourse, or with intercourse that's totally up to you. Speaking from a guys point though, him saying he will wait, he needs some quick. 32 weeks with none is a long damn time for us.
2007-04-20 05:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by biggdaddy1669 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard because pregnancy saps your energy and the hormones mess up your desire levels.
Just remember that a great deal of sexual desire for us gals in in our head. Also,it takes a woman an average of 20 minutes to become fully aroused. So we often need to start before our man is even in the room!
Your hubby sounds like a sweet caring man. If you want to give him the gift of sexual intimacy during this time, try not to focus on your pregnancy.You may feel big and awkward but he sees you as beautiful and sexy.
Take a day off.Plan a seduction, you know all the romantic stuff. Plus, just keep thinking about how good he makes you feel. Keep thinking sexy thoughts and you'll want to rip his clothes off by the time he comes through the door.
2007-04-20 05:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by nailgal2005 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about it. He's got the right attitude. He already feels loved and that you are giving him everything he needs for now. Now, on the other hand ... lay backward to him and ask him to penetrate from behind. This doesn't take a lot of energy, and is an easy way to resolve your concern.
2007-04-20 05:21:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sultan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try doing other thing when i was pregnat i did the same thing but when i was not in the mood i did somthing els email me i am not saying on here what i did it is kind of personal the full time it will make you tried plus being pregnat is not any better well do you take any vitamins for your pregnacy like anything. usally that works. try takeing naps when you can. or paly around like touching eachother. and other things any thing els you want to know you can eamil me.
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2007-04-20 05:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by cherish r 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make time to be with him. Spend some intimate time with him on the weekends.
There are lots of things you can do other than intercourse.
He sounds like a good one!!! Show him how much you love and appreciate him.
2007-04-20 05:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by hi_stk_n 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
go to bed early and wake up early. First thing in the morning, before you have a chance to get tired out at work.
Do it then.
2007-04-20 05:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by chinamigarden 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh my goodenss!!1 you sound just like me, my boyfriend is the same exact way. i work full time also. i try oral but he tells me no he can wait .
2007-04-20 05:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by msmarieww 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up a little earlier and surprise him. You are refreshed after a good nights sleep and wow what a way to start the work day......
2007-04-20 05:10:37 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Oral. Even if by chance you're not a big fan of it, you're doing it for him.
2007-04-20 05:12:53 · answer #10 · answered by newyorktrueblue 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋