We've been married for 4 years now and he doesn't give me any reason not to trust him. But I find myself scared that he still has the player in him; and that he's could be sneaky and I just don't know. How do I deal with these feelings of doubt? Especially when there are attractive younger women in is office?
2007-04-20 04:52:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most men are players when they are single. The problem is within you and you need to talk to him about it. I hate to sound mean but you are maybe insecure and if he has done nothing wrong it isn't fair. He's with you now because he isn't a player anymore and he wanted to settle down, because he fell in love WITH YOU. Who cares about the attractive women in his office, I'm sure you are pretty aren't you? And does it really matter, I mean after all he does come home to you right?
2007-04-20 05:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may have been a player in the past because he wasn't sure what he wanted (or he wanted certain things from different people and was tough to satisfy). However, the times have changed, and if you are still happy now, and there is no reason to think he is seeing other girls, don't worry about it! There may be pretty younger women in his office, but does he talk about them all the time or spend more time outside of work with them than you? If the answers to both of those are "no," then he's definitely not giving any warning signs.
2007-04-20 04:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by Sassi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hard to say. But if you knew he was a player and married him any way, then you must of trusted him and thought you were the best catch for him.
IF the younger women in his office are now a threat to you, then you have to be asking yoursself if you have some how "lost it" already.
Time will tell.
2007-04-20 04:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-12-16 10:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys are "players" when they are younger, their players because they had no interest in having any type of long term relationship, or they never met the right woman. Simce he married you he either decided he was ready for a relationship, or the right one came along/ In either case, he stopped being a player because of you. stop worrying
2007-04-20 05:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married to mine, but I am/was sorta' in a similar situation. The guy I'm with now I'M SURE was a bit of a "man-whore" before me. But the fact is, we're together, he chooses to be with me. We're committed to each other. He's a wonderful man, with alot of wonderful qualities, and I know he loves me and has never given me a reason to think otherwise. Sure, my insecurites may creep in from time to time, but that's all it is, just "MY" insecurities -- it's nothing he's done to me. And it's at those times I try to remember the good in him and why I love him so much.
2007-04-20 05:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by newyorktrueblue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have self esteem and security issues. It's not your husband or your husbands past that is bothering you. It's your issues with yourself. You feel like you are not good enough compared to younger women. Seek counselling. This sort of insecurity and overwelming idea that your husband is going to cheat could very well drive him to cheat. "Well, if she thinks I'm cheating anyways, I may as well do it!"
2007-04-20 05:06:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
See a professional that can help you deal with your issue...It's your issue as long as you don't think he is playing. IF you don't deal w/your trust issues it could hurt your relationship...you could become assuming and jealous for no good reason. A good reason is a whole new can of worms!
2007-04-20 05:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by BB'sMom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip woman. married 4 years and you admit he's never given you just cause to doubt. lay off and stop thinking foolish thoughts. Its women/men like you with these "unsure" feelings that kill a relationship but quick.
If he hasn't given you reason stop worrying about "What if". You can't address "what if".
2007-04-20 04:58:38 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are scared he still has the player in him... then you dont trust him like you think you do.
He has done things in the past to make you scared like this. Go with your gut.
2007-04-20 04:56:26 · answer #10 · answered by sweetblueyes 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋