My fiance and I have been together for awhile and we have a 10 month old first of all. A few weeks ago it would have been his mother's birthday and he told me he was going to visit her grave and he said he would try to be home soon, I said he could take his time if he wanted. He came home an hour and a half later (he went to a town about 20 minutes away, not even). I said nothing because I knew he was close to her. Later that night he said he had gone to the bar and I still said nothing because I thought nothing of it (its a stressful and sad day for him). He also said he went to meet with a female co-worker, which I really didn't like and all I said to him was it makes me uncomfortable. He blew up and started yelling that I don't want him to hang out with any female friends, etc, etc. Well, this female friend in particular works 12 hour days with him and she is one of the 3 people he never shuts up about and she is also the only person he never complains about. Who went out of line?
2007-04-20 04:42:13 · 17 answers · asked by ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
, sounds like he got very defensive once you questioned that, that a red flag in my book that hes hiding or protecting something like feelings or something he did.... Your in the right... and deserve better... keep it up, ask more questions, meet his friends, talk to her... if your getting no where, then get out... trust me... get out...
2007-04-20 04:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. November 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quasimo is not correct girls and guys can be friends,, and no setting can change that sometimes,, my best friend is a truck driving lesbian, and there is no way in hell i would sleep with her,, i dont give a danm about the setting,, and you were out of line as much as he,, he didnt hide or lie,, he told you ,, meaning he has nothing to hide,, otherwise he could have kept his trap shut and u none the wiser. correct?.. you got angry i think becuase u said urself that u dislike her the other girl,, working 12 hr days builds bonds,, of friendship not romance,, i know 7 days a week 12 hours a day doesnt make me want to scrub another truck drivers back let me tell you
2007-04-20 12:07:21 · answer #2 · answered by kewl69charger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, why didn't he go to the grave ??? Why wasn't he honest with where he went in the first place ?? I do gotta say one thing ..... don't prevent him from hanging out with friends or coworkers (males or females), guys don't like a lot of rules anyways and the more rules you place on him the more he'll feel confined and likely to break. Truthful communication is key to a successful relationship. If he does cheat that will be his decison and not yours(don't blame yourself for his cheating), but how will you react to him if it does happen ?
2007-04-20 11:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is why did he not ask you to join him with his visit to his Mother's grave. I would have to think that the meeting with his coworker was planned and not chance. I would question his devotion to you. He was out of line by what information that I have about this situation.
2007-04-20 11:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by orcarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...everything was fine until he said he went to meet with a female coworker. So...he really didn't go to Mom's final resting place. If he did he didn't stay lonbg. He went to meet the broad. You calling him on it and his reaction says it all. He's up to no good. Why would he tell you he met with her? Unless he was seen by someone and its an attempt to head someone off at the pass before they reported their sighting to you.
However you were far from being out of line. He, on the other hand, stepped quite a ways over it. Keep your eyes peeled. Truthfully? He's up to no good methinks.
2007-04-20 11:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he's not happy and is looking to blame you for splitting up or something. Maybe he's finding the fatherhood thing a little too much.
Be lovely to him and really affectionate, all lovey dovey like it used to be. Let him know he's appreciated at home.
Spend some quality time together.
If he's anything like I used to be, I used to wind up my ex about some things like this and it was all my fault it ended. I regret it. But at the same time, he did nothing to make me want to be at home.
If you're nice to him, he'll find it harder to go astray.
2007-04-20 11:48:43 · answer #6 · answered by Pupp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BOYS USUALLY explode on taking girls name coz their fear of other person knowing what he thinks should not over takes their mind and forgetting circumstances under normal human tendency shout to put thenselfs RGHT try talking to him slowly and calmly begin from something that is not even remotely related to this like childhood memories and fun you use to have
then talk to him like gaining trust and making him realise that you are always their for him.
Besties for a caring sis
2007-04-20 11:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by JASZY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do you go hang out with guys. does he feel comfortable about it? step in his shoes. i dont think he was right for yelling at you cus you had to state your opinion. i wish i could hang out with some of my "girl"friends cus they just wanna chill or go to a bar. i invite my fiancee but she is always anti-social which gets me mad.
i dotn bother i would say to you that you should do what you feel. if you dont like that he yelled at you tel him about that as well. your his girl and if he didnt want to be engaged at such a short time then thats his fault.
2007-04-20 12:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by Big Head 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was out of line. First off he tells you he's going to do one thing and then does another? And then be blows up and tries to turn things around on you? He's wrong.
2007-04-20 11:51:59 · answer #9 · answered by newyorktrueblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is out of line, he lied, he meet with another woman, he talks good about her, always talks about her. he did something more then have a drink with her because he was angry, angry comes from be guilty.
when my wife says something to that nature, even if playing, i just laugh at her and tell her to believe what she wants because i know where my heart is and who i want.
in this case, he should of stayed home or took you with him.
2007-04-20 11:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋